Still afraid to tell

Melymel80 · November 2008

We are 12 weeks on Thursday. We have seen the HB, we heard it last week, we saw the baby move. But, I am still so afraid to tell the world we are pg. We have told close family and friends. But I'm still so afraid. And I am starting to get a "bump" more like roll but people are asking at work....ugh what to do? I feel like I am being irrational.?

mobiz · November 2008

i am sure that is a crazy moment--when you finally reach the point where people say it's ok to tell (end of first tri when all looks good) but it's scary too. statistics are very much on your side that things will be fine. so tell people when you're ready. i know how annoying it is with people at work wondering (i'm behind you but have had lots of IVF bloat so people have been staring at my tummy for weeks!) and it will be such a relief when you do finally tell.

but only do it as you're comfortable! as you tell a few people it'll get easier (i figure....not that i've got experience!)

GL!

2terps · November 2008

I was that way too...I did not say anything (only our parents knew) until about 14 weeks. At that point my mother and DH had to say to me "um you really aren't fooling anyone anymore!". I just felt that as soon as it came out of my mouth something would happen. It is a big step, but I did feel better once I was able to share my news. GL

Jem04 · November 2008

I still haven't told anyone! We're "coming out" at 14 weeks, and I have already gained 7 pounds in my stomach area, so I feel like it's about time... but I totally know how you feel.

kittylove · November 2008

I was never ready to tell certain people. I found it easy to tell parts of my family once I hit 13 weeks but with DH's I really wanted to wait. Truth be told for a while I wanted to wait till the baby was born. It wasn't rational but it was how I felt. I was just consumed with fear that as soon as we told we would have to take it back. As someone who went trough simmilar emotions as yours my advice would be to exsplore why you don't want to tell, and the likely hood of your "worst fears" happening, then understand that tragedy happens at any time and telling or not telling won't protect you from it. (((((((((HUGS))))))))))

bethCT · November 2008

I told you my story over IM but I wanted to apologize for just leaving, my Dean came in and then a few students...
Hug
Beth

MsAMG · November 2008

I felt the same way and I wasn't ready to tell until 14 weeks so we waited. DH would have told earlier, but I was just too scared. Even when we told at 14 weeks, I was panicky (is that a word?). My heart was racing as I knew the word was spreading. After that first day where everyone started to know though, it got much better.

Livvie's Mom · November 2008

I felt weird when I was finally talking about it but now it seems perfectly normal (and it's only been a couple of weeks). It's a better feeling than when you are getting a bump and trying to hide it. I know it's hard to put yourself out there but it's kind of a load off when you can confirm people's suspicions... of course only when you're ready.

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