DH driving from Oregon to DC WDYT?

IkesHawaiian06 · May 2011

So my BIL is going to be stationed over in DC and wants his Mustang since he'll be stationed there for two years. My MIL wants to drive the car across the country and wants DH to go with him. They will then spend a few extra days in DC and then fly back to Oregon.

I'm not a big fan of the idea, I don't like the fact that I'd stay here with Emma. I don't like the thought of him spending four straight days driving... I might be able to go to Seattle and spend time with my family and friends, but I'm more annoyed that when we saw my IL's this weekend, MIL said, "You're going to let him go with me, right?" She kept bringing it up and telling him all the things they could do when they get there. It made me want to kick her, but there were too many people around to get away with it.

What do you think? Would you be nervous about your husband driving across the country while you're pregnant? It may just be the anxiety, but I don't like the idea. It's not a necessary trip for him, she needs him to go because she doesn't drive anywhere over an hour anywhere by herself. (no joke, when she drove from Portland to Everett alone after Em was born, she was so proud of herself)

Seattle_JiLLn · May 2011

Maybe I'm missing somethign, but I don't see why you'd be nervous about him driving for a few days while you're pregnant. Unless it's happening when you are 38 weeks or something?

IkesHawaiian06 · May 2011

Seattle_JiLLn:
Maybe I'm missing somethign, but I don't see why you'd be nervous about him driving for a few days while you're pregnant. Unless it's happening when you are 38 weeks or something?

I'm not sure why, I think I'm afraid that he'll die in some horrible crash. If he were flying, I'd be less worried. Weird right? I don't know, I'm just nervous.

ttgcole · May 2011

I can understand your anxiety completely. DH played ball in Bremerton this weeked and that made me nervous.

That being said, I just prayed and had faith that it would be ok. If you can come visit family that would probably lessen your anxiety since you wouldn't be home stewing about it. I know you aren't a big fan of MIL, maybe look at it as a favor to your BIL instead of your MIL?

Hugs lady!

Alli923 · May 2011

Honestly, I think you should think of it as an awesome opportunity to let your DH and MIL spend some time together with you. You don't like her and don't want to be around her, she wants to spend time with her son...seems like it should be a win-win for all of you.

ETA: Oops, that should say "spend some time together without you."

Maddimom · May 2011

IkesHawaiian06:
Seattle_JiLLn:
Maybe I'm missing somethign, but I don't see why you'd be nervous about him driving for a few days while you're pregnant. Unless it's happening when you are 38 weeks or something?
I'm not sure why, I think I'm afraid that he'll die in some horrible crash. If he were flying, I'd be less worried. Weird right? I don't know, I'm just nervous.

Anxiety SUCKS!!! I would think the same way pregnant or not. But he will be ok. Try to think positive thoughts. I think the same way about everything and I hate it!

MOHjen · May 2011

Do you get nervous about him driving normally? Or is it only because he's going cross country?

Maybe it's because I've driven cross country myself several times, but I don't see it as a big deal and wouldn't be upset.

Go have fun with your family while he's off having fun with his. Looks like a win-win to me.

Seattle_JiLLn · May 2011

I think it's a great way to get mil points without having to see her. And he could die in A crash any day of the week. pregnant or not. Cross country trip or not. If you really feel super anxious about it you might want to talk to your OB about it and see if she can help you with meds or something? I would suggest that if mil doesn't like to drive for an hour that four days is going o really be pushing it as far as getting there without driving super long days. Maybe they could take an extra day so you don't have to worry about him driving too tired? Also is bil paying for all if this. That's a lot of gas and hotels and plane tickets. He might be able to just get it shipped cheaper.

Seattle_JiLLn · May 2011

Ps sorry for the rambling and bad formatting. Typing on my phone.

MrsAmyB · May 2011

My DH's work gave DH a trip to Florida in Feb when I was 20+ weeks pregnant with the trio. The intent was for me to go with, but since I couldn't he took his brother instead. There were terrible ice/snow storms and they had to drive to different airports just to make it home. Even so, I was glad he went and had a great time with his brother.

JRS72206 · May 2011

Let him go. Come up here, hang out with family and have someone watch Em for the day while you go to the spa. Sounds like bliss to me!

IkesHawaiian06 · May 2011

Seattle_JiLLn:
I think it's a great way to get mil points without having to see her. And he could die in A crash any day of the week. pregnant or not. Cross country trip or not. If you really feel super anxious about it you might want to talk to your OB about it and see if she can help you with meds or something? I would suggest that if mil doesn't like to drive for an hour that four days is going o really be pushing it as far as getting there without driving super long days. Maybe they could take an extra day so you don't have to worry about him driving too tired? Also is bil paying for all if this. That's a lot of gas and hotels and plane tickets. He might be able to just get it shipped cheaper.

Four days is the amount DH said, MIL thinks they can do it in three! And I would assume BIL or MIL is paying for all of this. If not, I wouldn't be too thrilled.

I do worry about him driving any time. He rides his bike home from work sometimes and I am always worried that something will happen.

I'll likely let him go, he wants to help. I doubt he really cares that much about having that much one on one time with his mom, but I think he'd like to see his brother.

Seattle_JiLLn · May 2011

IkesHawaiian06:
Seattle_JiLLn:
I think it's a great way to get mil points without having to see her. And he could die in A crash any day of the week. pregnant or not. Cross country trip or not. If you really feel super anxious about it you might want to talk to your OB about it and see if she can help you with meds or something? I would suggest that if mil doesn't like to drive for an hour that four days is going o really be pushing it as far as getting there without driving super long days. Maybe they could take an extra day so you don't have to worry about him driving too tired? Also is bil paying for all if this. That's a lot of gas and hotels and plane tickets. He might be able to just get it shipped cheaper.
Four days is the amount DH said, MIL thinks they can do it in three! And I would assume BIL or MIL is paying for all of this. If not, I wouldn't be too thrilled.
I do worry about him driving any time. He rides his bike home from work sometimes and I am always worried that something will happen.
I'll likely let him go, he wants to help. I doubt he really cares that much about having that much one on one time with his mom, but I think he'd like to see his brother.

I am a big motorcycle worrier.. so I would definitely have anxiety about that.

And it's 2800 miles. 4 days is 700 miles a day. At 70MPH that's 10 hours of driving without any stops or going through anywhere that has a slower speed limit.

WatchPot · May 2011

I hardly ever get the house to myself. In th 6+ years DH and I have been married I can count on 1 hand the number of nights he's slept away from home so I would welcome it with open arms! Sleep in my bed, alone, as much or as little as I want. have cereal for dinner and not have to share the TV.

I'd pack his back and maybe make him a sandwich for the car!

doublem · May 2011

I agree with PPs - even though it might be stressful to have him gone on a trip, he'd be so happy to have some time with his family, and you wouldn't have to deal with them. Plus I'd think that would give you the opportunity to have a lot of fun doing whatever you wanted with your time, and your DH would feel like he got some freedom before baby #2 comes along. It seems like a win all around if you cant get past the anxiety piece.

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