My poor sister barged into her son's room (age 13) and caught the poor guy whacking it -- to things downloaded on YouTube. YouTube is likely tame, but who knows what else he tried online at home or at a friend's house.
My sister left the room and sent in BIL to talk with him. At a later date, my sister talked to him too -- it's all fine -- my sister is not hung up at all on such things. Thought, I'll admit we had a good laugh (privately)!
My BIL gave him nudie mag so he stops downloading crap on the wonderful-world-wide-wicked-web. Playboy. Gave him rules about it -- no friends can see it, keep it private and don't use socks to jack off.
Thoughts?
My sister asked me my opinion and I really don't know what I would do! My thought process: I am fine with masturbating -- do I let him use his imagination at that age? Or is a magazine a safe and fairly 'controlled' unlike the internet? Is it perpetuating women as hoars (though I like porn sometimes)? Does it give a signal to whack off all day, lol?
My DH had no idea what he would do either.
Re: Would you give your teen a nudie mag?
I have no idea, but the fact I may have to deal with this in like 8 years is making me want to crawl under a rock and cry. They just grow up WAAY too fast.
That is all.
I like the logic and will file this away for a later date down the road...
I would NOT want my kid downloading crap on the internet....and I'd give the magazine with the same rules "no more downloading, no sharing with friends, etc" and if I find out any of the rules have been broken, the magazine goes into the trash....
omigod!! now I have to add this to my list of worries!?
ugh.
I guess I WOULD prefer the spank mags, because internet porn is so...diverse?
plus it is loaded with viruses and bad stuff.
but I am pro masturbation, and not against porn.
but...
all there were were mags and freaking vhs tapes when we were young!!
porn was virus free and generally standard fare (ok, unless it was german.)
I'm sooooo not dealing with this issues!! I'm going to cover my eyes! lalalalalalala. As long as it isn't anything really dirty-- -choking, bondage, etc...
This reminds me of the time we taught my dad about www.redtube.com
I guess if it came up I would. I did buy my son a masturbation sleeve when he was 13 y/o. I have no intentions of laundering *** filled socks LOL
eta: Ok, funny that is blocked! Let's try this "manjuice filled socks"
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I don't know what I think - buy I do think it would be silly to think that, regardless of what Dad said, your nephew would not be showing that to all his friends. That mag is totally going to make its rounds.
WHAT?!?! you say this so casually!!
(that isn't to say that when the shock of the idea of purchasing my son a pocket pvssy wears off, I won't agree with you....
er...I guessed my h would just give him a roll of bounty..
but omgz!!
ok, what is a masturbating sleeve?
and yeah, that mag will make the rounds.
Oh man, I am unprepared, turns out that girls are easier after all. What the hell is a masturbation sleeve?
And funny that when I reply it does not block c*m
Hello! Parental controls or supervision on the internet. That's what I would do first!
Second, nope no nude magazines to be given by me.
Third, lock the door if you are going to be fooling around!
I have a teenaged boy, certain "things" come with the territory. There was a whole "sex" talk that accompanied this by both his father and myself. I guess that I am fairly open minded with this stuff and know that some things are inevitable, so I might as well provide him w/ the tools that make less laundry for me
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I think I am going to try to keep all electronics out of my kids bedrooms as much as possible. Any conversations they want to have on their phones, any messages they want to text and any sites they want to surf will be done in shared rooms of the house. It's not like the good ol days where I can pick up the line downstairs to listen into a conversation and I am sure as shiit not going to let them google search and fb to high heaven.
If my kids want "materials" to masterbate to I imagine they are creative enough to find them on their own. I'll never forget the time my mom found the underwear section of a Sears catalog under my brother's bed. Tween boys will even whack it to middle aged women in a cross your heart bra, they are that horny....
Ahhh, masturbation sleeve? Do I dare Google this?? They grow up way to fast!
I would link it on here, but I don't want anyone to open this post at work tomorrow because they are VERY nsfw! Quick Google will show you, but it is pretty self-explanatory.
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How did your son take the sex talk coupled with the gift of a masturbation sleeve? I would have been mortified, but I can imagine a boy would think you were the coolest parents eva.
This! TMI for me. At least with my oldest being 6 yo. I'm not ready for this.
I'm dying here. I'm not sure if I'm more horrified or amused, LOL.
It does remind me of when my little brother turned 13 and all he wanted was some porn. So, being the cool 18 y/o older sister what did I do? I gave him a copy of Hustler for his birthday. To this day I'm a little mortified whenever I think about how raunchy it was! Playboy would've probably been more appropriate, LOL.
I wouldn't. Aren't porn mags fairly accessible to teens? I would think they would be passed around like mad, so it wouldn't be necessary for me to fetch it for them.
The only parental control on internet is to not allow any access unless you are there, as in only have a laptop and lock it up when you are not home. We tried software and SD got around it. And they always have friends houses to see crap.
No, but I would consider leaving one out for him on accident, though. lol.
also, my husband in charge of all things penis.
ETA: We'll keep the computer and such in an open area until the kids are in college - then they can have their own in their room/laptop whatever. Unless they can buy one on their own before then...
GAH! I cannot handle this anymore! Between cheeseburger vajayjay's and masturbating sleeves, I think this has been one of the most informative days on the bump in quite a while.
I cannot stop laughing!
We've always had a very strong, very open relationship. While I think that he was a little taken back by the whole thing in the beginning, I think it has really helped us keep an open dialogue as the years have passed.
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I knew about the masturbating sleeve, but I did learn today what nugget porn is.
So much to learn....
me personally, i hope not. i'd like to save dh from it too. i would think matt and sean might come about it the old fashioned way: borrowing it from a friend well stocked in porn. but hey you can't depend on that and they should be able to depend on us, so i just don't know.
i also like the idea of leaving VS catalogs about the house to "disappear" that i could easily do.
this all brings me back to the time i was twelve and one of my older brothers begged my mom to buy him an easy rider magazine and she did! at home, i remember saying to my mom since when did he like bikes that much and my mom flipped it open to this big odl woman flashing her bewbies on the back of a bike and she said since these are included.
i was more offended at the time that my big brother thought big ole biker chicks were hot. lol
Take it out for a nice dinner first, maybe bring it some flowers, then be sure to respect it in the morning.
LOL - and don't forget to open the car door for it.
This is us too. My DH is the penis man in the house. The computer will always be in a public area with major parental controls. The magizine might be lefts out on accident. Oh and DH has already warned me about the amount I will be washing.
Seriously. One of my sisters began when she was about 7 or 8. Using her stuffed care bear. Sooo.