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how do I bring back the desire?

MicahAnn2009MicahAnn2009
in March 2011 Moms
I have no desire to have sex and its really wearing on my DH. He walked into the shower rearing to go and I pretty much ignored him. I want to want him again, we have great sex. I used to have a very large/strong sex drive but since middle of 2nd trimester its been gone. Does anyone have some tips for me? Maybe I need to see a therapist or something....please share your tips!
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Re: how do I bring back the desire?

  • Phil&CorinnaPhil&Corinna member
    Even though it's totally unsexy, I'd suggest planning for it.  And don't make excuses, save for if baby is awake and needing your attention.  I find that the more I have sex, the more I want it and vice versa.  If you try to make time for it as many times a week as you used to want it, or maybe start with half that since it'll still be better than nothing, and you're still having trouble, therapy would be a good option.  If foreplay works for you, I'd have YH work on that A LOT!!  Lots of women see their bodies differently now (as a mom/milk making machine etc rather than a sexy woman/wife) and it's hard sometimes to switch between the two.  Good luck!!
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  • kellibelli04kellibelli04
    I feel the same way, OP but like PP said, just kind of go for it.  The more you do it, the more you might find you want to do it.  We finally got around to doing it a couple of weeks ago and it was so nice because I felt reconnected with DH and I know he was happy :)  
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  • March2011MamaMarch2011Mama
    Ugh, I feel exactly the same way you do. My DH wants it SO bad, but the last thing on mind at the end of the day is sex. I think it's time to just plan for it and get 'er done.
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  • bride2be8108bride2be8108
    no advice but I am in a similar boat.  My desire has tanked with mother hood so far and I want it back. I will say once we start going it's great so I think pp have some good advice about just doin it!
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  • amanda_430amanda_430
    I wish I could tell you...mine has been gone since the end of my pregnancy. I finally have the go ahead and it's not cutting it. I don't like my boobs being touched...baby touches them enough already! I feel frumpy, even though I'm only 5 lbs away from prepregnancy weight and my vajayjay has lost a little sensation:(
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