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December 2011 Moms
laurenbrooke_09
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Just because I've never been pregnant doesn't make me an idiot.
laurenbrooke_09
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First of all, I am SO sick of people who have been pregnant before telling me what and what not to eat, because they're usually wrong. Just because this is my first pregnancy does not mean that I haven't done my research and that I'm not informed.
I went to a hibachi grill a few weeks ago, and I had something about it on facebook. I immediately got a text from a friend that said "You aren't supposed to be eating fish while you're pregnant!!!!! I saw where you were at [restaurant]." First of all, she was wrong. There are only certain types of fish to avoid completely. Second, I don't eat fish to begin with.
This morning I put something on facebook about wanting coffee. Get a comment that says "You're not drinking coffee are you???" If I do drink coffee, I drink one cup. I know that it is best to limit caffeine during pregnancy, but nothing I have read says that you can't have a cup of coffee. I don't even drink it every day!
Yeah, I'm hormonal and biitchy, but this just gets under my skin.
BFP: 3/28/2010
Beta #1-120, Beta #2-590 EDD: 12/7/2011 HB: 109 BPM on 4/15 HB: 167 BPM on 5/13! 7/18 IT'S A BOY!
"For this child I prayed; and the Lord hath given me the petition which I asked of him." 1 Samuel 1:27
"Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations." Jeremiah 1:5
"For this child I prayed; and the Lord hath given me the petition which I asked of him." 1 Samuel 1:27
"Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations." Jeremiah 1:5
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Re: Just because I've never been pregnant doesn't make me an idiot.
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I hate to tell you but this is just the beginning. I use this opportunities to start clearing out my friends list on facebook. If people want to act like idiots they don't have to be on your page!
I worked with a woman my last pregnancy who thought she knew it all because she had a kid 17 years ago. She would give me a look every afternoon when I drank my coke and had a fit when I told her I was getting the epidural. She even told me it would ware off which shows just how outdated her information was. Then I told her I enjoyed a half a glass of wine one night and she about died (to be honest I only told her to get a rise out of her).
My advise is to start telling people to cut the sh!t now or it's just going to get out of control.
It gets even worse after the baby is here! I had once girl lecture me on how I shouldnt let my son watch tv until he is 2 because it can cause autism.
Everyone has their opinions, and everyone wants to throw their 2 cents into the mix. Everything you do is a personal choice, no one elses!
I had a DAD walk up to me at the bookstore while I was in the baby sleep section and tell me the wonders of the Bradley Method of birth. I told him "I have heard of that method, and while I do think it's great, all the people I know had weeks of preparation ahead of time. My baby is breech and will not flip, so we will be having a cesarean in 2 days."
Geesh! like I need some guy to tell me how to get the baby out of my uterus!
I totally hear you on the food as well. Plus, there are very different reasons to avoid things, and something like caffeine has always been "okay in moderation" so it's not like you're inhaling paint fumes or going on a roller coaster and harming your child directly, geesh! There are obviously ways to have the ultimate healthy pregnancy in what you eat and do, but that doesnt' mean everyone has to do this, any more than everyone not pregnant has to do it!
2 Hearts, 4 Wagging Tails and a Baby
TTC #1 since 3/09 - DX Hypothyroid, PCOS, MFI
M/C 8/10
Injections/IUI #2 = BFP!! Emmett, born 12/7/11
TTC #2 - CP 9/12, M/C 1/13
Injections/IUI - April 2013
sounds like you have some *interesting* facebook friends
I would delete those people. How annoying.
ETA: It is better after your 2nd. Now people tell me I am "experienced" LOL
Im seeing this too. One girl tried to tell me that being a stay at home mom was the only way to raise a child because daycares only care about money. I'm one of those women who feels I can have it all, career AND family. I'm very dedicated to my career and its very important to me. I worked way too hard to get to where I am and I feel that having this job will only help my child in the future. College tuition is NOT cheap. I want him/her to have it all.
Oh and my SIL who is THE CHEAPEST was telling me to find my maternity clothes at thrift shops. While I'm cool with being thrifty I'm cool with investing in a couple of NICE none outdated pieces that I will be wearing for 7 months. She tried to chastise me for spending 30 bucks on a pair of maternity pants...umm...that's cheap for jeans.
I'm already annoyed with people.
I agree with everything. I posted a list of the chores I had been working on to my FB the other day, and I got at least half a dozen replies and one message about how I shouldn't be cleaning the litter box. If I don't, it will never get done, bc DH refuses unless I am out of town. I got a self-cleaning catbox last December, I wear gloves and a mask, and I wash after I'm done. I've asked my doctors and my cat's vet, so I covered my bases. I love how people assume I'm dumb just because a) I don't work in the medical field in some capacity, and b) this is my first child. *EPIC eye roll*
RE: artificial sweetener: Oddly enough, that's all I'm allowed to have. -__- I can't have sugar bc apparently, my blood sugar is a little high. And being raised in the south, all I want to drink is sweet tea.
I havent "come out" on FB yet (in fact I disabled all comments so that my friends who do know cant squeal). But when I do, if people say crap to me Im not kidding, I WILL go off. I cant stand that crap. I tried to conceive for almost a year during which time I did mountains of research. I know PLENTY about what I can and cant do thank you very much!
Seriously. They better not mess with me!
We have the same due date
"For this child I prayed; and the Lord hath given me the petition which I asked of him." 1 Samuel 1:27
"Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations." Jeremiah 1:5
This is me too. We TTC for a little over a year, and I've been on the bump since we started and have learned a TON from the ladies on here. I am very much aware of what is and isn't okay. I don't understand why people think having a baby makes them an expert at pregnancy.
"For this child I prayed; and the Lord hath given me the petition which I asked of him." 1 Samuel 1:27
"Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations." Jeremiah 1:5
During my last pregnancy someone tried to tell me not to have coffee I was tired and had it with my job, so I looked innocently into this girls face and said "No coffee? but how am I supposed to have my cigarettes?"
probably my most ballsy moment
Me too!!! Some people, ugh.
Tell me about it! I was eating dinner at a friend's house a few days ago and ate **gasp** bagged Caesar salad. I immediately got a lecture about how I shouldn't be eating Caesar salad dressing because of the egg yolks. Like you said, I've done my research on this and while I definitely wouldn't be eating this every.single.day, I feel totally comfortable having it at least once a week. Not to mention the fact that I have just as much of a chance of picking up something from the bagged salad itself, but she mentioned nothing about that.
Oh honey, it doesn't get better in your second pregnancy either. And the kicker of that is that they KNOW you have gone through it before.
Better guard your tummy. People will be touching you soon if they haven't already. i HATE that.
I think people should just stfu about a pregnant woman's habits. Really, it is none of their concern and half the time people are wrong.
Ugh.
My baby is two!!! Baby girl 9/17/09
My other baby is still a baby! Baby Boy 11-30-11
I have a co-worker (a MAN in his late 50s) who insists on commenting on everything I eat. When he first found out I was pregnant he proceeded to tell me:
Then today I was walking down the hallway to the vending machine and he saw me getting fritos. He said "oh yeah that looks like a nutrious snack".
what an A$$!