December 2011 Moms

Just because I've never been pregnant doesn't make me an idiot.

First of all, I am SO sick of people who have been pregnant before telling me what and what not to eat, because they're usually wrong.  Just because this is my first pregnancy does not mean that I haven't done my research and that I'm not informed. 

I went to a hibachi grill a few weeks ago, and I had something about it on facebook. I immediately got a text from a friend that said "You aren't supposed to be eating fish while you're pregnant!!!!! I saw where you were at [restaurant]." First of all, she was wrong. There are only certain types of fish to avoid completely. Second, I don't eat fish to begin with.

This morning I put something on facebook about wanting coffee.  Get a comment that says "You're not drinking coffee are you???"  If I do drink coffee, I drink one cup.  I know that it is best to limit caffeine during pregnancy, but nothing I have read says that you can't have a cup of coffee. I don't even drink it every day!

Yeah, I'm hormonal and biitchy, but this just gets under my skin.

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Re: Just because I've never been pregnant doesn't make me an idiot.

  • Hear, Hear!
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  • Amen! My husbands the worst! But I think I've got through to him a little bc he's in the kitchen making my coffee :)
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  • The check-out clerk at the grocery store started telling me I shouldn't be eating salty foods. First of all the potato chips were a treat for my husband since it was the first time I went to the store in a month and secondly salt by itself is not dangerous! ARGH!
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  • I hate to tell you but this is just the beginning.  I use this opportunities to start clearing out my friends list on facebook.  If people want to act like idiots they don't have to be on your page! 

    I worked with a woman my last pregnancy who thought she knew it all because she had a kid 17 years ago.  She would give me a look every afternoon when I drank my coke and had a fit when I told her I was getting the epidural.  She even told me it would ware off which shows just how outdated her information was.  Then I told her I enjoyed a half a glass of wine one night and she about died (to be honest I only told her to get a rise out of her).  

    My advise is to start telling people to cut the sh!t now or it's just going to get out of control. 

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  • nilly5nilly5 member

    It gets even worse after the baby is here! I had once girl lecture me on how I shouldnt let my son watch tv until he is 2 because it can cause autism.

    Everyone has their opinions, and everyone wants to throw their 2 cents into the mix. Everything you do is a personal choice, no one elses!

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  • I had a DAD walk up to me at the bookstore while I was in the baby sleep section and tell me the wonders of the Bradley Method of birth. I told him "I have heard of that method, and while I do think it's great, all the people I know had weeks of preparation ahead of time. My baby is breech and will not flip, so we will be having a cesarean in 2 days." 

    Geesh! like I need some guy to tell me how to get the baby out of my uterus!

    I totally hear you on the food as well. Plus, there are very different reasons to avoid things, and something like caffeine has always been "okay in moderation" so it's not like you're inhaling paint fumes or going on a roller coaster and harming your child directly, geesh! There are obviously ways to have the ultimate healthy pregnancy in what you eat and do, but that doesnt' mean everyone has to do this, any more than everyone not pregnant has to do it!  

  • I drink a diet coke every couple days, and you should see the looks that some people give me for that one. Caffeine and artificial sweetener? Oh my! Confused
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  • sounds like you have some *interesting* facebook friends Tongue Tied

    I would delete those people. How annoying. 

    ETA: It is better after your 2nd. Now people tell me I am "experienced" LOL

  • Im seeing this too. One girl tried to tell me that being a stay at home mom was the only way to raise a child because daycares only care about money. I'm one of those women who feels I can have it all, career AND family. I'm very dedicated to my career and its very important to me. I worked way too hard to get to where I am and I feel that having this job will only help my child in the future. College tuition is NOT cheap. I want him/her to have it all. 

    Oh and my SIL who is THE CHEAPEST was telling me to find my maternity clothes at thrift shops. While I'm cool with being thrifty I'm cool with investing in a couple of NICE none outdated pieces that I will be wearing for 7 months. She tried to chastise me for spending 30 bucks on a pair of maternity pants...umm...that's cheap for jeans. 

    I'm already annoyed with people. 

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    I agree with everything. I posted a list of the chores I had been working on to my FB the other day, and I got at least half a dozen replies and one message about how I shouldn't be cleaning the litter box. If I don't, it will never get done, bc DH refuses unless I am out of town. I got a self-cleaning catbox last December, I wear gloves and a mask, and I wash after I'm done. I've asked my doctors and my cat's vet, so I covered my bases. I love how people assume I'm dumb just because a) I don't work in the medical field in some capacity, and b) this is my first child. *EPIC eye roll*

     RE: artificial sweetener: Oddly enough, that's all I'm allowed to have. -__- I can't have sugar bc apparently, my blood sugar is a little high. And being raised in the south, all I want to drink is sweet tea.

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  • karaknrkaraknr member

    I havent "come out" on FB yet (in fact I disabled all comments so that my friends who do know cant squeal). But when I do, if people say crap to me Im not kidding, I WILL go off. I cant stand that crap. I tried to conceive for almost a year during which time I did mountains of research. I know PLENTY about what I can and cant do thank you very much!

    Seriously. They better not mess with me!

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  • It's amazing to me how many people act this way towards me.  Luckily my Sister and BFF (who is PG also) have been the most supportive group for me so far.  We aren't out on Facebook yet but I haven't decided if I was going to post anything yet.
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    It's amazing to me how many people act this way towards me.  Luckily my Sister and BFF (who is PG also) have been the most supportive group for me so far.  We aren't out on Facebook yet but I haven't decided if I was going to post anything yet.

    We have the same due date :)

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    I havent "come out" on FB yet (in fact I disabled all comments so that my friends who do know cant squeal). But when I do, if people say crap to me Im not kidding, I WILL go off. I cant stand that crap. I tried to conceive for almost a year during which time I did mountains of research. I know PLENTY about what I can and cant do thank you very much!

    Seriously. They better not mess with me!

    This is me too. We TTC for a little over a year, and I've been on the bump since we started and have learned a TON from the ladies on here. I am very much aware of what is and isn't okay. I don't understand why people think having a baby makes them an expert at pregnancy.

    BFP: 3/28/2010 Beta #1-120, Beta #2-590 EDD: 12/7/2011 HB: 109 BPM on 4/15 HB: 167 BPM on 5/13! 7/18 IT'S A BOY!
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  • This is my fourth pregnancy and I STILL get those comments!  UGH!  Being pregnant doesn't make (most) women stupid. 
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  • During my last pregnancy someone tried to tell me not to have coffee I was tired and had it with my job, so I looked innocently into this girls face and said "No coffee? but how am I supposed to have my cigarettes?"

    probably my most ballsy moment 

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  • imagegetnmarried910:
    This is my fourth pregnancy and I STILL get those comments!  UGH!  Being pregnant doesn't make (most) women stupid. 

    Me too!!!  Some people, ugh.

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  • Tell me about it!  I was eating dinner at a friend's house a few days ago and ate  **gasp** bagged Caesar salad.  I immediately got a lecture about how I shouldn't be eating Caesar salad dressing because of the egg yolks.  Like you said, I've done my research on this and while I definitely wouldn't be eating this every.single.day, I feel totally comfortable having it at least once a week.  Not to mention the fact that I have just as much of a chance of picking up something from the bagged salad itself, but she mentioned nothing about that. 

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  • Yes I agree, that and those who never had m/s say "Oh it will get better, I never had it but I hear it will get easier and be worth it." ...yes it will be worth it but I don't want to freaking hear it, so hush!
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  • Oh honey, it doesn't get better in your second pregnancy either. And the kicker of that is that they KNOW you have gone through it before.

    Better guard your tummy. People will be touching you soon if they haven't already. i HATE that.

     I think people should just stfu about a pregnant woman's habits. Really, it is none of their concern and half the time people are wrong.

    Ugh.

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  • The pregnancy comments never bothered me. It was the parenting ones that really grind my gears. Everytime the baby cries "oh my, she MUST be hungry". Ugh, that gets old.
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  • I'm glad I'm not the only one. My husband has two kids from a previous marriage and acts like he KNOWS ALL! MUST BOW TO THE HUSBAND! ugh. I got on his case about it and he said he'd never say another word lol. GOOD! My friend, who has had several MC's think's she knows evveryyythinggggg! It does get way old way fast. Hang in there. I always wanted to make a shirt that says "Belly rub: $1" Now that I'm PG I might have to when I start showing! lol Best of luck ladies :)
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  • My husband used to make some comments, like "should you be eating/drinking/doing that?" So finally one day, I was like "If I am, it means I can! Stop asking me!!" He doesn't do it anymore. Seriously, all of the don't eat this, don't do that crap is annoying. I am not breakable now that I am pregnant. Just chill.
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  • I have a co-worker (a MAN in his late 50s) who insists on commenting on everything I eat. When he first found out I was pregnant he proceeded to tell me:

    1. His wife delievered all her kids without drugs and everyone should do that.
    2. People shouldn't find out about the sex of the child, in fact his wife never had any ultrasounds, so he doesn't think you really need them
    3. Now that I'm pregnant I have to eat better. He told me I eat too much junk food.

    Then today I was walking down the hallway to the vending machine and he saw me getting fritos. He said "oh yeah that looks like a nutrious snack".

    what an A$$!

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