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July 2011 Moms
kej2883
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Baby Shower! (With a slight vent...)
kej2883
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I had my baby shower today, which was so so wonderful!! Everything was great and everyone was so incredibly generous! I feel so lucky to have such great people in my life. We got a lot of stuff off our registry, including most big items, except the monitor. However, we got a bunch of gift cards so that will definitely be a gift card purchase.
My mom threw me the shower and I knew all about it - helped pick the place and set it up, which I was happy to do. We invited close to 40 people and 26 people ended up coming, which turned out to be a perfect number. HOWEVER....one of my Husband's friends fiance's came. She is a lovely, sweet girl and I was happy she decided to come. She showed up over an hour late (ok, whatever....) AND she brought her two young daughters (probably around age 10 & younger). She never asked about bringing them or mentioned that they were coming!! And then of course my mom ended up having to pay for the both of them, which she was slightly irritated about (rightfully so...!). There were no other children there and the invitation was specifically to her, not her & family...or her & children...! DH had some of the men over at our house while we were at the shower. This girl's man went to our house, and showed up with their 3 sons!! My DH, was like....I didn't know the kids were coming until they showed up.
Am I wrong to be a bit annoyed about this? I mean, I won't lose sleep over it, but it is a bit rude....
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Re: Baby Shower! (With a slight vent...)
You're surprised that someone who has at least three sons with her fiance (plus two) would be a little trashy?
Did I just say that out load?
Yeah, some people seem to think it's okay to bring kids to showers...my rule of thumb is under a year seems okay for most circles.
However, when my LO comes, I plan to ask the hosts re: the events if it's not specified. Honestly there will be times when I will have to bow out b/c of my H's work schedule (he works 6 days a week 8 mo. of the year), including him having to travel out of town for work, so if I can't find or afford at the time a babysitter, yeah, I'd have to pass...
My shower is today and I know there are a bunch of kids coming, which honestly sort of annoys me. Its at my house, and since we don't have kids yet we don't have toys setup, etc.
My best friend asked to bring her 2-year old, which I felt obligated to say yes to, but I'm frustrated that she never leaves the kid at home with her husband because he doesn't like watching him by himself. I know she'll be chasing him around during the party, and I will barely get to spend time with her. Oh, well.
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That is SO not okay. Both my SILs specifically asked if their young daughters were welcome at the shower (ages 5, 6, & 8). Since all are very well-behaved and I'm close to them, they are more than welcome.
One of my MIL's friends RSVPed for herself and her 21 yo daughter, who I've never met. Apparently, she does this kind of thing all the time, so my MIL about lost her mind (which was actually pretty funny to watch).
You have a right to be annoyed. It's rude to show up to any invitation only event with uninvited guests, regardless of the age. I personally have never been to a shower that was at a restaurant and the food was paid for by the host. (I've only been to 3 baby showers though).
Could it be that the woman expected to be paying for her own meal (and her children). I know it's considered extremely rude to expect your guests to pay for their food... but it seems to be common place around here and people don't even think twice about it.
My shower is today and one of the girls commented on her FB about being excited for my shower, and hoping that her girls behave for her... I guess that means she's bringing her twin 3 year old girls. I'm fine with that, but the shower is at my house, and I have absolutely NOTHING to entertain 3 year olds (LO is our first). We JUST moved in to a brand new duplex last month so we haven't given much thought to child proofing yet. Hopefully she brings something to keep them entertained. Just based off of the condition of her carpet and home, I'm worried about how well her girls will behave too :-S
On the other side of the coin though, I can already predict the posts we'll be seeing on this board in 6 months or so. When some Moms may not be comfortable ever leaving their LOs and then get offended when they are invited somewhere like a shower/wedding and their precious LO isn't. But it's not like the kids in question in the OP are BFing infants and the Mom should be over the overprotective stage of motherhood. But to be fair to their slightly white trashy approach is you scheduled an event for each parent to attend at the same time. 5 kids would be expensive for a sitter. Not excusing her. Just trying to find what "logic" she may have used.
DD1, Kathleen 9/15/2007
Butting in: Nothing annoys me more than a dad who feels like he is "watching the kid by himself", ummm.. NO, it's called parenting!!
I hope you have a great time at your shower today. Honestly kids at my shower wouldn't bother me, as long as I knew in advance to plan for a few thing (bubble, sidewalk chalk, etc.) to keep them busy.