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mdotm0904
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are you serious? (small vent)
mdotm0904
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i didn't know where else to write this. I try not to be someone who vents on FB & i'm not sure if the ex still has my blog bookmarked, but all i have to say is my ex/BD is un-freakin-believable!!!! We haven't seen each other since the end of April & things had not been pleasant between us for a while before that. He's tried to reach out a couple of times in the past month or so but each time I've turned him down as I have no desire to hang out with him. As far as I'm concerned WE'RE NOT FRIENDS. Anyway, all of a sudden @ like midnight or so I get a text asking if I still have feelings for him or if things are out the window. I told him I have no romantic feelings for him. So then he goes on to send his usual passive aggressive texts about how he can't move on as quickly as i did (mind you, it's probably been about 6 months since we've had romantic involvement) & that he's so hurt & the only thing that can really cure his hurt is if i "treat him" one more time. (that's his code for oral sex) ARE YOU FREAKING KIDDING ME!?!?!?! How disrespectful!!!!! We haven't breathed a word to each other in God knows how long & you think it's ok for you to ask me to give you oral sex to "Cure ur hurt?". You're almost 40yrs old. I need you to learn better coping mechanisms. And then once I tell him that i'm sorry he's hurt but i won't be doing any of that, he goes on to tell me how he doesn't think he'd be able to stand seeing me anyway. That's funny, just 10mins ago you were begging for a rendezvous. (i'm sure u could stand it if my head were between ur legs, jerk!)
I now know that I did the best thing for both me & my baby girl by cutting off communication with him. He's still the same manipulative & controlling person he was for almost the entire time that we dated.
Sad thing is, not once has he even asked about his daughter.......
I don't regret my baby girl @ all. I'm excited to become a mom. And I can't wait to meet her. I just wish I had paid attention to the signals of what kind of person he was BEFORE we found ourselves in this situation & i became attached to him for life.
thanks for letting me vent ladies.
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Re: are you serious? (small vent)
I'm normally a lurker.. but I'm in a similar situation with my baby daddy...
My son is the product of a situation that I shouldn't have gotten into, I by no means regret my son.. not in the least bit. His father now has 3 children that are only months apart and he's dating 1 of the mothers still. My son was born a month ago and he has only seen him twice. Once a week after he was born, and a couple of days ago. Both times he tried to have sex with me. He will use seeing our son as an excuse to try to have sex with me (I won't, of course, but it doesn't stop him from trying). When I try to talk to him about Parker he always turns the conversation around to sex (I ignore him and continue my conversation about my son). It's disgusting. He doesn't even want to come around his son unless he thinks I'll have sex with him.
My ex did something similar the day I left. He asked me if I would sleep with him one last time. To be honest, I think that's the only reason why he was with me. Its my fault too cause when we were dating we would argue all the time because all we would do was have sex. It even got to the point where he didn't care if I was sick. During my pregnancy there would be days where my back would be killing me and he would give me a "massage" then afterward ask if we could go at it.
What drew the line was when he started filling me up with our son laying in between us.
yeah i realize men are sexual creatures or whatever but seriously. what gives them the right to think that just because we share a child together that we're supposed to be ready & available to fulfill their sexual desires at the drop of a hat?!?!? Everytime I think about it, it pisses me off. It may work that way on TV or something, but I refuse to operate that way. Hopefully he gets it through his head now that we're OVER & I have nothing to discuss with him unless it deals with the baby. But he hasn't asked about the baby since March. So who knows how it's gonna work out once she's here.
sorry you ladies are dealing with crazy oversexed BD's as well.