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April 2011 Moms
Can I cry to you ladies?
Maybe it's the 2hrs of sleep I got last night or some left over baby blues but I'm feeling awfully sad today.
So today was my 6w PP check up. In the waiting room is all these cute pg women with their cute bellies. I started rubbing my belly unknowingly and one of the moms said "Aw, you miss your belly? But look at the cute baby you have now!". It didn't help that she said this while rubbing her belly. I have such bump envy it's ridiculous!
Then walks in this young teen girl with purple hair and her mom. She's talking about how all her class mates can't focus on studying for finals because they're too busy asking about her pregnancy. Her mom could only keep saying how she hoped they were having an u/s today so she can see her grandbaby. Oh, and the girl was dressed like she worked at a strip club. My heart broke into a million pieces. Teen pregnancy is so sad.
So the OB checked me and said I still have about 2 more weeks of healing which disappointed me. She then wanted to stress the birth control talk with me because I probably have hyper-ovulation which is probably why I conceived fraternal twins. It just hurt my heart talking about what should have been and what might be next time. I really miss my baby b today. 
Now I'm home and I asked for DH's help to feed Aubrey so I could take 5 minutes to myself (to cry in private) and he said he's "too tired". I wanted to rip his head off. Too tired? He's been sleeping the past 10 hours and he has never once gotten up for night feedings to help me. Ugh.
Friday the 13th sure is living up to it's name
June Siggy: Fave pic of Aubrey and me 
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Re: Can I cry to you ladies?
I'm so sorry. The only person who talked to me in the waiting room at my OB's office was some young girl in pajama pants and a top that didn't cover half of her belly. It was very sad....
I miss my belly, too. Sometimes I put my hand on it and think, he's not in there any more. Then sometimes when I'm cuddling he will scootch down and lay on my belly, and I ask him if he wants to go back inside... Silly boy.
I can't believe your DH has never gotten up for night feedings, that just seems odd to me. I know they're probably back to work, but they still need to take at least some responsibility for the baby. DH usually does the first o/n feeding of the night, then I do the rest... but just that one feeding helps me out greatly. Now I have to get up and pump anyways, and he's like "why don't you just feed him then?" I answer that it's much easier to pump than it is to deal with a screaming infant who needs to be changed, fed, burped, and held upright for a period of time so he doesn't spit up, and then possibly have to feed again if he's still hungry. Pump, put the cap on it, put it in the fridge, use the bathroom and go back to sleep is much much different.
Either way, I think we can all relate, and I really hope that your day gets better.... and if not, I hope you have something fun to do this weekend!
By the way, your little girl is gorgeous! :-)
Did you say this to him? I sure as hell would have. He shouldn't be able to get away with an excuse like that. I hope he starts helping out and I hope your Friday the 13th starts getting better! I'm sorry you're having a rough day.
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Hugs Kim, we are all here for you anytime you need to vent.
I hope you can take five minutes for a cleansing cry and it makes you feel better.
Hang in there, mama. I'm sorry it' been such a tough day.
And when you feel up to it, I would recommend you talking to your DH about setting up some times during the day/night when he can help. Perhaps a schedule of sorts will help his lazy ass. You can't let him get away with not helping, especially after 10 hours of sleep. That's just ridiculous.
BFP 3/28/16 (EDD 12/9/16) * Chemical pregnancy
ME: 40 yrs.old
DH: 41 yrs.old
DD: 5 yrs.
Hugs for you! I'm sorry you feel so sad, these types of days come and go. Sometimes I wake up and feel great and other days I just don't even want to get out of bed because I am so tired. I don't think I'm on the bump missing boat, but I haven't been to my check up yet and seen lots of pregnant women. I love having LO on the outside, I can actually walk more than 10 feet without getting winded. And he is just do darn cute!
If I remember correctly DH is a police officer like my DH. People tell me all the time that if one of us should get sleep it should be him since he has to be fully functional at work. I totally understand but at the same time if I don't get any sleep then what good am I to anyone, just a bitchy mom! So far DH has been very helpful even when he works nights. He will do the 2am feeding when he gets home and then he is up again at 8am so I can get ready for work. HOWEVER, he does NOTHING the whole day when I am gone. Because he says he needs to nap and go to the gym. Therefore after I work all day I have to go home and do all the house chores and errands with a fussy baby that wants to cluster feed in the evenings!
I guess we can't have everything we want! I hope your day gets better.
I'm sorry your husband is being an idiot. Mine was kind of doing that at first and finally one night I just told him, "look, I know you're working and I'm not, but I'm tired of being on the verge of tears all time and having crazy high blood pressure. I NEED to get some sleep so that I don't feel this way all the time." He has really stepped it up since then. Maybe there's a simple solution like that for you.
In the meantime, nap nap nap!
I'm sorry, Kim. I know it's probably not helpful to have everyone telling you how much their husbands are helping them.
You deserve a few minutes (or more!) to yourself. Definitely talk to YH about it, and hopefully he will realize that the needs to step up.
I'm sorry, too, about the belly envy and missing Baby B. ((Hug))
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Yes, DH is a cop so I do have that guilt that he's working and I am not so it is my job to do all the caring for Aubrey. But I would love to be able to take a lunch break and have off days (well, I wouldn't want days away from her, just off times) to sleep in, relax, and do whatever I want.
I know I'm just having a really off day today. This will pass. Thanks for all the advice and support - I am definitely talking to DH when he comes home tonight.
June Siggy: Fave pic of Aubrey and me
(((hugs)))
You need to tell your DH how you feel. We all need a little break to regroup and just have a moment to ourselves. I think I would get up and turn the light on and make all sorts of commotion with LO if DH said something like this to me, that way he's forced to wake up. I hope that your day gets better! Take advantage of your DH over the weekend!
Here's the way I view it. I am extremely blessed to be able to stay home with my son. From 8 am to 6 pm, caring for him is 100% my job. From 6 pm to 8 am, it's a shared job. We both have "day" jobs, but the bottom line is parenting is a 24/7 job. I do 95% of the nightime caring for DS because I'm BFing, so what's the point, but sometimes when DS decides he's full, but doesn't want to sleep, I wake DH up. Just because my day job is taking care of DS, doesn't mean that he never has to do anything. So don't feel guilty asking for help - he's half the equation! I do understand wanting to let him sleep since he needs to be at the top of his game for work, but don't feel guilty asking for help!
Oh don't feel guilty, he helped to make Aubrey and now he can help take care of her. I have a friend here who has a daughter that will be one soon and her cop husband hasn't been alone with his daughter for more that 3 hours. He takes her to grandmas or calls mom to come home from work so he can have a break. Silly thing is...she does it! He has only changed 2 diapers and fed her about 10 times in a year!!! Now if your DH continues to do this crap I would worry, but as of right now I'm sure you guys just need to get your schedule straight so you both have some time to yourselves (and time together too!)
This is really, really harsh, but your DH is *such* a douche. Are you sure it's healthy for you to be with him? If he wouldn't consider counseling, I'd be outta' there...
You can always vent to us... HUGS. Please take care of yourself.
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