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when labour starts when should I call DH...

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The post below about when we'd head to hospital made me think of another question.

I live about 30 mins from the hospital but depending on the time of day traffic could delay it significantly.  If it's not a busy time I'll probably wait for 5-1-1 before we leave for the hospital...unless my water breaks first in which case I think I'll leave right away just in case....

But here's my question...My husband works on the road so he could be 10 minutes from home or he could be as much as nearly an hour away....and there's obviously no way for me to know exactly where he'll be if it happens while he's working.  When do you think I should call him to come home and still have time to get to the hospital?  I don't want him to have to come home too early for nothing but I also don't want him to be driving like a maniac trying to get here asap...

 

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  • MommaA117MommaA117 member
    mine works 45 minutes away. The hospital is another 45 away. I will probably call him right away to give him a heads up. If worse comes to worse and my water breaks and contractions come fast, my parents live close and DH can meet us at the hospital...
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  • jkchs2003jkchs2003
    Personally, I would call him right away to let him know something may be happening. Then I would wait it out a little bit to get a better feel for what is happening. I would then base it off that. But, I would rather him come home and it be nothing, then wait and him miss the birth.
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  • KYBABY2011KYBABY2011 member

    How big of a deal would it be if he comes home too early? I'm in a similar situation. We are 30 miles from the hospital, and DH works 20 minutes in the opposite direction. If it's a good traffic time, I think I'll call him when the contractions  get to 10 minutes apart. Although I will probably call him as soon as I figure out I'm in labor and just keep him updated and let him leave work whenever he can.

     

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  • 11kacey11kacey member
    Unless my water breaks and it is NOT clear, I will not call the doctor right away. I'll stay at home for a few hours and see if labor starts on its own. When I do get to the hospital I won't lie about when my water broke, but I don't want to get there an hour after my water broke and have to start fighting off the induction conversations. My doc will let me go 8 hours after my water breaks (maybe even 12) before we have to induce, and I support that BUT I don't want to spend those 8 hours in the hospital looking at the clock and worrying about which nurse will bring up induction each time they come in to check on me.
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  • norbert5norbert5 member

    Currently DH is working 1.5 hours away (hospital is only 10 minutes away from me) so I will call him as soon as something starts up just to give him a heads up.

    If I have to I will meet him up at the hospital (I have plenty of people in town to drive me and watch DD).  My labor with DD lasted 27 hours so I am pretty sure that he will have time to get home.  But God only knows.

    So to answer your question when you think something is up call him.  That will give him time to wrap up things at work, pass on any time sensitive projects, and feel involved in the early labor.  DH and I talked every 30-45 minutes that day while I labored at home and he wrapped stuff up at work.  It was nice because when he got home he was a nervous wreck and drove me crazy until we got to the hospital.

    ps, if your water breaks call the hospital but normally you have some time to get there.  Check with your dr., but I think it is like an hour to two unless your contractions tell you otherwise.

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  • tdeddingtontdeddington

    I think if I go into labor in the middle of the night I might try to let him sleep as much as possible and time my own contractions (thanks to the Ipad Contactration App!!)

    At least one of us should get some sleep over the next few hours & I'm not really a candidate!

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  • jdubhjdubh member
    ...I would call mine right away...he works and hour and a half away, but I would still call him if he worked 10 minutes away. My husband is my best friend and I want him there holding my hand every step of the way. I don't feel like he would be coming home for "nothing".
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  • PocketyPockety member
    DH and I work in the same office, on the same floor.  And we chat over Google Messenger throughout the day.  So I'll tell him right away.  
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  • M&M227M&M227
    I will call him to let him know what is up but he won't need to rush home.  He works an hour away so that will give him time to wrap up whatever needs to be done.  But, I do want him there for most of it.  He is very calming to me and I feel so much better when he's around.  I'm sure labor will be easier with him there.
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  • MelanieAdam0707MelanieAdam0707 member
    Yep - I am in the boat with all of you with husbands that work an hour and a half away.  We actually had a practice run when I needed to have unexpected surgery a couple weeks ago....he carpooled that day (of course) and so he was able to get his dad to let him borrow a vehicle and then met me at the hospital.  I feel like given how unpredictable labor will be I will probably like PP keep him in the loop and then when things start getting closer have him head over.  Good part is I live SOOO close to the hospital. Worse came to worse...I would call a cab :)
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  • kas80kas80 member

    I am super sensitive to my husband's work because he's a police officer and I prefer he be alert with good reaction time just in case so I don't want him to be overtired and I don't want him leaving unnecessarily because 1) it's a waste of his leave and 2) someone has to be brought in to cover for him.  So- I will call him when either my water breaks or I hit the 5-1-1.  Also, I will let him sleep unless either of those two things happen.  We have time even if it's rush hour traffic and it takes him over an hour to get home, first births usually take awhile. 

    If he really gets stuck somewhere or I can't locate him in a timely manner, I have a few close friends I could call to take me in or I'll just head over myself and he can go straight there.

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  • DaisyJanieDaisyJanie member
    I'll probably call him as soon as I think I'm in any kind of labor, just to let him know what's up. He teaches college math, so if he's in class I'll wait for him to finish up, unless it's an emergency and I feel like we need to go ASAP. But, he's only teaching one class this summer so that's pretty unlikely.
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  • Magenta728Magenta728 member
    I've thought about this too. I'll email DH when I'm starting to have more regular contractions (he is on email all day). I won't have him come home until I am sure I am in labor. Although, he has said it is totally fine to have him come home even if it is a false alarm. He can always just go back to work.
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  • acoraccioacoraccio
    Personally, I would call right away! He probably doesn't want to miss anything and you will need the support!
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  • lil_shockerlil_shocker member

    I'm calling him when I'm sure it's labor and not just random contractions. Depending on the time of day and what's going on in the office, he may leave work right away or may stay for a little while. If we're at home and it happens night/early morning, I'm assuming he won't go to work.

    I'd call him when you're sure its labor and say "hey, heads up." If he's close he can wait a little while and if he's farther away then he knows that he should probably start heading back. But I think you might have a few hours before you'll be ready to go to the hospital.

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