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June 2011 Moms
Most annoying questions people ask you?
EVERY time my MIL talks to DH or me, she always asks how I am and then proceeds with, "How's baby?" I know this is TOTALLY silly and a VERY minute annoyance, but it drives me insane. How am I supposed to know?!?! I'm assuming he's great, considering I'm not at the doctor or in the hospital. Maybe it's because it's my first pregnancy, but can you really know how baby is? It's not like he can tell me or give me a look or cry if he's tired, hungry, cranky, has an upset tummy, or a headache. Maybe next time I will be sarcastic and tell her, "Well, he's coughing a lot and has a fever."
What pregnant/baby questions do people ask you that just drive you nuts or that you're tired of hearing? PLEASE tell me I'm not the only one!
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Re: Most annoying questions people ask you?
I get that question all the time from people at work. I always just say "very active, so I assume he's doing well!" Same answer every time.
I don't have any other specific annoying questions, except that "how are you feeling?" "When are you due?" "How much longer?" Those questions are all getting super old, but I know that people are just trying to make conversation.
ETA: Oh yeah, I did get a "wow, only a month left? Shouldn't your belly be bigger??" My answer was "nope, the doctor says the baby is the perfect size" and that shut her right up. Did she think i was going to say "yes, he's very small and unhealthy."??
"how are you feeling?"
i know it's an innocuous question, but it annoys me just because i get asked it so, so often! and it seems like a way around just directly asking how the pregnancy is going.
I agree with the "how are you feeling?" comment. There is one particular guy at work -- means well -- but EVERY SINGLE MORNING he asks me "how are you feeling?" And then he reminds me that babies don't sleep, so I "better get my sleep now!" Hmm, and I thought babies slept for 8-10 hours at a time!
"are you excited??"
no not at all.... lol? of course im excited!
"Are you getting an epidural?" I'm sorry. My body, my pain, my choice and none of your business. What difference does it make to you?
"Does baby want fish?" No. Mommy wants fish. If I am craving something, baby didn't tell me.
Oh and anyone asking DH how I'm feeling. Really? He doesn't know how I'm feeling. He told someone we barely know that I'm miserable. Yes I had a bad day yesterday, but I am not miserable. I'm pregnant.
Ooh yeah, this one drives me nuts.
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most annoying for me:
"are you excited?"
seriously.............. hmmmm um no, i'm not excited at all to be a mum at all, i'm not excited at all that i'm at the end of my pregnancy and soon i'll have a beautiful little baby in my arms..... are people stupid - of course i'm excited - why even ask?!!!!
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My top annoying statements/questions would probably be
-How are you feeling?
-I bet Chloe wants ice cream (or insert other food choice)....
-Did you plan the due date? (because i'm a teacher and due 2 weeks after school is out).
-Too bad you didn't plan it sooner so you could get more time (again the teacher thing)
-Are you excited?/Are you ready?
-Oh, you won't go on time with the first pregnancy! (hate this one...actually 2 of my colleagues did go 2 weeks early & exactly on time, oddly enough, with their first pregnancies so they normally back me up in saying that no one can predict that)
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Good one! I get the same people asking me this on a weekly basis. So not only are they asking a rediculous to begin with but they are expecting a weekly update. WTH?
Jenn - SAME HERE! I'm a teacher also and they always ask me about the timing (also due close to 2 weeks after we let out). I always respond, "Actually, we tried for April so I could take a lot of time off." I mean, as much as I'd like to take the credit, I'm not that good.
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Same here!! My coworker (she's in her 60's) every morning comes up to my desk, gets really close to my face, does a little hand wave and asks "and how are you feeling today?". She asks EVERY DAY! EVERY DAY FOR THE ENTIRE PREGNANCY! I hate it! I'm not diseased or dying! I'm pregnant! and i'm fine!
The "are you excited?!" really drives me nuts. Also, "are you ready for this?"...Of course I'm excited and yes, I'm ready. I don't need you to follow up with how hard things are with a newborn.
I also can't stand when the same people ask me time and time again when I'm due. I know you're making conversation to be polite but I've told you 563 times! Eeek...
I LOVE YOUR ATTITUDE TOWARDS PREGNANCY!!!! I wish i was more like you!!!
I have to LOL because my MIL who has 7 children asks me the same thing all the time ''hows the babies doing'' my answer always is ''well theyre kicking my @$$ so I assume they are doing pretty good considering Im the one whos getting the beating''
next up would be ''when are you due?''... specially if its from the same person on a regular basis like people at my job I would be like ''well I just told you last week why are you asking again are you buying me something for the babies?''
and also ''what are you having?'' specially from total strangers like it really mattered we are probably never going to see each other again lol.. so when I say '' a boy and a girl'' it really really really irritates me that they say ''oh twins? I thought it was just one big baby''
My MIL does the exact same thing. When I told her I was on bed rest (not complaining, just informing after an appointment) she was like "Well you have to do what is best for you and Baby." Yes...I know. And why can't you say "the baby." It drives me absolutely batty that they refer to her as "Baby." Her name is Alisha.
And I always get calls, "How is Joe? And How is Baby?" Apparently, I'm chopped liver.
My neighbor asked me if we were trying to get pregnant.
I said "yes, didn't you hear us?" lol
I've gotten a few "are you going to try for a girl next time?" It doesn't bother me too much. I just say no and that I like having all boys. I am curious to know how I'm supposed to "try" for a girl.
Me too Gym.
Confession... I was on the phone with someone yesterday and started gabbing about it and said it was unexpected and then I stopped in my tracks. I told the woman I was sorry, that what I meant to say is that I feel extremely blessed and lucky because I know how many people out there struggle for years to get pregnant. It just hit me so quickly that I was not meaning to be rude.. I am excited about being pregnant, but at the same time I do not know who I am talking to and mentioning (in any manner) that it might have been easy for us to conceive is just plain rude.
So, add me to the list of pregnant woman that can say rude things..
Sometimes I just don't think. 
There aren't specific questions that annoy me, but all of the typical questions are getting pretty repetitive by this point. So that aspect is a little annoying.
When someone asks me how I'm doing/feeling I just say "great! how are you?"
This.
this. In fact, I bet I bring it up before anyone else does lol
I get this a lot... I'm due 3 days after school lets out, and I get the whole "WOW, you sure planned that right".... umm..sure? My husband is a youth minister, which actually means crappy timing on our part for his job because my child won't see his father very often this summer with all the trips, camps, and events he plans for the youth in the summer. 2 weeks after he is due, he will be leaving for 2 weeks in a row. So yeah, GREAT timing.
I love being pregnant, but pregnant or not, I'm not interested in discussing my weight with you, mother/aunt/complete stranger. I don't ask you how much you've gained since I saw you, so why would you ask me?!
The other thing that gets on my nerves is when people don't ask, but tell me something about my pregnancy, like, "You're going to have him early." I am? You can tell? Awesome. I'll let my doctor know.
This is exactly what I was thinking. Also, I think people are just trying to make conversation. I don't get upset with the questions.
"How are you feeling?'
I hate this one..
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I cant stand the question, How is baby feeling? How am I supposed to know, hes moving so I assume he is just fine.
Or when I eat something out of ordinary or a large meal (I was picky and ate lightly pre-pregnancy) everyone makes a comment on it or says oh baby must be hungry. No mom is hungry now leave me alone.
Or people telling me I am small and analyzing my stomach. My mom does this every time I see her seriously every time. Oh he must be on this side or oh looks like youve dropped more and you are literally all belly nothing anywhere else. I hardly notice differences in my belly shape, size or apperance so it weirds me out that others do.
Finally, I dont think you will make it to your due date. Geez thanks for freaking me out thinking I will have less time to be ready for this baby.
This! Especially since I'm just now meeting people/ making friends in the last 6 weeks or so after moving here 9 months ago. It was a long and lonely winter for me and when I was out running errands, etc I was bundled up and people couldn't tell I was pregnant. Now my neighbors are making conversation with me and people are really nice to me- I'm loving it!
The only question I'm not a fan of is "Aren't you ready to have the baby out?" Nope- I'm not ready. But I understand that most women are a lot more uncomfortable this late in pregnancy so I don't let it get to me. And when my mom asks daily how I'm feeling and everyday I answer "good" or "fine" and then she gets annoyed with me saying that I'm not telling her much. But I really feel fine- what does she want me to make things up?