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June 2011 Moms
ear piercing
not sure if we have covered this or not but are you going to pierce you dd ears or wait and let her decide? why and why not?
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waiting until dd is 10 years of age before letting her decide.
i'm fully supportive of body modification, but i think it should be an individual's informed choice.
I had mine done at about 8 when it was MY choice. So did my niece, we both messed with them and irritated them. I think a baby will leave them alone. Plus, I think they are cute. We will probably do it at the Pedi.
If she does not like them when she gets older she can always take them out, which is doubtful because earrings are not out of the norm..
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So apparently here in Argentina, they automatically pierce the girls ears (and shave their heads) at the hospital when they are born, and you have to specifically request them not to if you dont want it.
We are going to request that they not do it, and let her decide when she is 8ish.
(PS. they shave their heads because they say it prevents baldness and makes the hair grow in thicker. I'm not convinced, and personally hope my little girl has a full head of hair cause it is so adorable!)
Mine were pierced when I was an infant. I've always had pierced ears. However, I'm not sure what I will do. I will probably wait until DD ask to have it done.
I know in Egypt people shave all their newborns heads because they say the hair babies are born with is bad hair or "ruined" hair because it's been sitting in the amniotic fluid, and shaving it off lets the "good" hair grow in evenly and thicker.
I love hearing about other cultures and their beliefs!
i don't think that they are saying the don't want to make the decision, i think they are just saying they want their child to make their own decision when they are old enough to do so.... I think it's good parenting to trust your child to make their own decisions once they know the responsibilities involved - it shows mutual respect
I don't have anything against people doing it for their baby girls it's just not something i'd do - each to their own
This.
lol I was googling this today and debating posting a question! You beat me to it.
I remember begging my dad for years to let me pierce them (he HATED the idea)...finally I was allowed and I was happy but ironically I don't wear earing often any more(but I love that i can if I feel like it...which is why I don't see it as that bad if DD decides she doesn't want pierced ears later on)
In my google search a few other things came up...some say if you do it so young the earlobes obviously are going to change over time and the holes may not be as well centered later on in life. The other issue was that if you don't do it when they are too young to remember, you had better wait until they are quite a bit older (like over 6) because otherwise they will not take of them and also they will play around with them too much...
My only big fear is that the guns they often use can't be disinfected so I would worry about hepatitis and stuff...I'll have to look into a professional piercing (I've also heard some doctors will do it?!?! but not sure about that here in Quebec).
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I'm having a boy, but I 100% agree....sorry to offend anyone but I think it looks so trashy when babies have their ears pierced. Maybe its a regional thing because I don't really know any of my friends that pierced their daughter's ears as babies.
On a side note, did anyone see the Friends episode when Rachel's sister (Christina Applegate) pierces Emma's ears?? I miss Friends!
I'm having a boy so I really don't have an opinion about the ear piercing one way or another...but how can a newborn/baby look "trashy". I don't get it.
i grew up in an italian-american family and all of the girls had their ears pierced as infants. i love my ear piercings, but i always felt like i missed out on that step as a young girl. all of my friends got to get theirs pierced for communion. on the other hand i was the cool kid with pierced ears
when we have a girl (if we have a girl) i will wait until 2nd grade or so to let her get them pierced if she'd like to. i feel like it's a really cool step into growing up!
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As l said this is my personal opinion and rather than further inflame by explaining msyelf, I will just leave it at that.
here's a question..... if you had a boy and your DH had a earing or flesh ring (which is socially excepatble now) would you expose your new born son to that or wait till he was old enough to make his own decision?????
just stirring the pot ................. I'm bored
What is a flesh ring???
Really not trying to flame you. I was just genuinely surprised that anybody would ever think or call a newborn/baby trashy. Made me wonder what the criteria for trashy baby was. Guess it's earrings. I would have never guessed.
one of those earings where you make the hole in the ear really big so you can basically see through the lobe and poke things through - I'm not a fan, but it seems they are quite popular amounst guys now - historically they were a tribal thing.
Ahh yes....I remember seeing the style in National Geographic when young and now they are quite frequently found on every - males and females. Not attractive. At all.
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It's not so much the babies themselves that look trashy. In my area...it seems it was always those of the 'white trash' variety that had their babies' ears pierced. That and the multitude of teen moms I went to school with.
Now granted, I myself earned the label of 'white trash' 10 years ago when my exboyfriend (whom I lived with at the time) discovered that I had gotten my first tattoo (and as large as it was and given it's location, went unnoticed by him until I couldn't take it anymore and showed him). Several months later, that label was extended to include 'freak' at the end when I got my belly button pierced on a girls' trip to Daytona.
That made me laugh so hard! The imagery is still stuck in my head. hehe.
I see the point now though. So you'd think the parents are trashy and not the baby. Ah.
Her body, her choice.
Yes, we do make decisions for our children all the time, but I feel that this is not something I need to choose for her, not a decision I have to make. I see it is an opportunity to give her full control over a choice that concerns her and since those opportunities will be rare to come by at least until she grows up, I figure I should make the most of the ones I get.
Don't be annoyed - this is not a high and mighty speech, just an opinion, really. I see it as a symbol of my respect for my daughter's own choices and personal space, whereas you see it as silly and impractical. Trivial. You'd just say "oh, come on, it's just an earring" and you would, of course, be right. Objectively speaking that is all it is. Like a PP said, to each their own.
We'll be waiting until she's old enough to ask for/care for them herself.
FWIW, I got my ears pierced as an infant, and never had any problems (like with placement or what have you). But I never wear earrings, and haven't since I was a little kid. The holes have yet to close up. Not something that is super noticeable, but it does annoy me a little that it was a choice that was made FOR me and I now have these holes forever. I'm all for piercings and tattoos (have several of each) as long as it's something I choose to do to my own body.
Just my $0.02.