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Hormones kicking in...(vent)

msBlackandGoldmsBlackandGold member
in December 2011 Moms

I honestly don't think DH can do anything right anymore. I feel like I know he's trying, but he's really sucking at it! I posted yesterday that I was upset about working 11 hours and him not cooking. Spoke with him about it and he said he just misunderstood me. He understands I'm hormonal and wants to make this as easy as possible on me. So when I told him to "forget it," he decided to just forget it because that's what he actually thought I wanted him to do.

I explained my situation to him and he said he will try to do better. Even offered to go to the store so that we had more food in the house. My snack of choice for the past couple days have been red and green grapes. Well, MH comes home with BLACK grapes. He says "they're good." I ask what happened to the RED one's I asked for. He tells me to try the black grapes. 

It's 1am and I'm hungry, but I am somewhat upset about the fact that I asked for red grapes and he brings home two bags of black. I could have gone to the store myself and gotten what I wanted. 

When I told DH that I was hungry, he told me to drink juice. Along with the wrong grapes, he bought, apple juice, grapefruit juice, blueberry juice and what seems like 20 other juices. I have been drinking WATER for the past 7 weeks....and I've not complained about the water. I have complained about being HUNGRY....why is it that when he offers to do go to the store saying he's going to get stuff for me to eat, he comes home with a bunch of JUICE?????

When I brought this to his attn he said that maybe by drinking juice it will trick my body (and the baby) into thinking I'm eating something and won't be hungry anymore. I ATE AN ENTIRE BAG OF GRAPES THIS AFTERNOON AND WAS HUNGRY 15 MINUTES LATER. MY BODY, NOR THE BABY, WILL BE TRICKED BY SOME DAG ON JUICE!!!!

Sigh.....I know he's trying to be helpful. I am so sure of it....but it is soooo not working. 

Thanks for letting me vent.

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  • DiademChiDiademChi member

    Wow.  Your DH sounds amazingly incompetent at grocery shopping.  I've heard other wives joke about husbands doing this, but I never realized it could be real.

    Maybe sit him down with a precisely written list and tell him NOT to deviate or else.  He can get extra stuff for him, but make sure the stuff on the list is followed first.

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    Mine is being stupid tonight too
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  • Ruby_SohoRuby_Soho

    Maybe the black grapes were nicer than the red ones? And he is right about drinking. Often our bodies tell us we're hungry when in fact we are just thirsty. Sometimes if you drink water or juice when you think you're hungry it sorts you out.

    In fairness, he really sounds like he's trying, even if he's not getting things perfect. If it were me I would make a big fuss and say thank you, at least that way he'll be happy to go again. Next time make a list of non-negotiable items and then the rest of the list so he knows exactly what he needs to do to get it right Wink

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  • HazelBee22HazelBee22 member

    Hm... yes, hormones are definitely playing a big role, but this one isn't all on your DH.

    Did you give your DH some indication of what you wanted for dinner? I usually don't decide what to eat until I'm looking at the refrigerator and see something that sounds good, it would be very unfair of me to ask DH to try and telepathically decide what I would want and have it ready. Also, we don't play the "forget it but don't forget it" game. Anything I tell DH he can take at face value, and vice versa. If I say "forget about it" he can forget about it because it is no longer a problem. This has been especially helpful with all my emotions and hormones running wild.

    Now the grocery shopping part? That is on him. I ditto the list idea. Write each item out EXACTLY how you want it and tell him not to deviate on penalty of getting b!tched out. That usually works with my DH and he usually does pretty well.

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  • steph141steph141 member
    imageHazelBee22:

    Hm... yes, hormones are definitely playing a big role, but this one isn't all on your DH.

    Did you give your DH some indication of what you wanted for dinner? I usually don't decide what to eat until I'm looking at the refrigerator and see something that sounds good, it would be very unfair of me to ask DH to try and telepathically decide what I would want and have it ready. Also, we don't play the "forget it but don't forget it" game. Anything I tell DH he can take at face value, and vice versa. If I say "forget about it" he can forget about it because it is no longer a problem. This has been especially helpful with all my emotions and hormones running wild.

    Now the grocery shopping part? That is on him. I ditto the list idea. Write each item out EXACTLY how you want it and tell him not to deviate on penalty of getting b!tched out. That usually works with my DH and he usually does pretty well.

     

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  • msBlackandGoldmsBlackandGold member

    Thanks for the replies everyone!

    Know that I did not let on to DH that I was irritated because I knew it was hormones. I know his grocery shopping abilities (when not just going for something specifically for him) so that he went was a wonderful thing!

    I am not usually an irritated person--especially not with DH! So I knew something had to be wrong for me to be so irritated with him, so frequently, while I know he's doing what he knows to do!

    Now that I've eaten...and it's several hours later, I am not upset about the black grapes vs getting red grapes...it was just my being hormonal for that moment.

    I appreciate all the replies and understanding.

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