how did you tell DH if LO was not planned?

Annie Marie · May 2011

I just found out I'm pregnant (LOs will be 20 months apart). We haven't been super careful, so he knows it's a possibility, but we weren't going to actively start trying until the end of the summer.

How did you tell DH the news? How did he take it if it was not planned to have 2u2?

Thanks!

roundtheworldgirl · May 2011

I always tell my H if I think I'm pg, and he's then aware when I take the test. Neither of us were prepared for #2, but I was actually more freaked out than he was. We both wanted more than one child, just not 12 months after the first.

JenniferL923 · May 2011

I brought the test to him and said "Uh oh."

beyoga · May 2011

I told him I was pretty sure I was pregnant again and he said he'd been thinking the same thing.

kcisthebombdotcom · May 2011

DD was conceived under similar circumstances-we werent actively trying but not being so careful either. DH was suprised that it happened, but over the moon happy to have another LO.

laura1 · May 2011

We had TTTC#1, so we weren't being careful at all. I weaned from BFing but still hadn't gotten AF. I took a random test about a month after I had stopped BFing while DH was at work. It was positive, and I called him right away. I told him that I took a test and it was positive. He didn't believe me. He came home at lunch with 2 more tests and made me take them. After that, we were excited (nervous, but excited)! We had been planning to head back to the doctor in 2 months anyways. We were happy to be able to cancel that appointment!

EmmyS27 · May 2011

I told DH that I felt like I might be, so he knew I was taking a test. Honestly, I came out of the bathroom crying because I was so scared to find out that I was preggers with #2. He ended up comforting me and said how excited he was to be dad again

BrittKav · May 2011

He knew it was a possibility, but we hadn't really thought much about it. I took a test late at night, and thought I saw a very faint line I woke him up and told him to look at it, but he didn't see a line. The next morning I had him go out and get a digital, he stood outside the bathroom door as I took it. I told him it was positive and then we paced around the house saying "Holy crap" for awhile.

mechanicsgirl · May 2011

We went and got a pregnancy test together because we suspected. I took the test, never really expecting it to be positive (I was using bc, despite having TTTC DD), and came out of the bathroom pale and with huge eyes and said, "It's positive. Oh sh!t."

Needless to say, we weren't too thrilled at first.

CariannelovesTim · May 2011

JenniferL923:
I brought the test to him and said "Uh oh."

Pretty much what I did also. Our Lo's will be 21 months apart. He really didn't say anything he couldn't see the second line and told me I was "reading" too much into the test. I told him I doubt that a woman knows these things. Sure enough went to my mw the next and she said "well that popped positive right away". Then DH was like okay. lol

sweetpea2003 · May 2011

I found out I was pregnant with #2 while my husband was 2,000 miles away skiing with is brothers. He had no idea I suspected it (I truly didn't suspect it either, so when I got a BFP I was SHOCKED). I was just exhausted beyond words and took an HPT "just in case" since I love my sushi and wine.

I got DD a "big sister" t-shirt (a tough find for a petite 7 month old) and when he got home she was wearing it.

DH was THRILLED. We have a long history of m/c and IF so the pregnancy was a blessing. Sooner than "planned", but definitely something to celebrate. If you tell him in an upbeat, positive way, hopefully he'll follow your lead and get excited about the new baby .

KslCpa · May 2011

I told him I suspected, but we had to wait two weeks. He was the excited one, I was terrified!

Sam78 · May 2011

I texted him a picture of the positive test and waited for him to call me back freaking out (took about 30 seconds).

monona9 · May 2011

roundtheworldgirl:
I always tell my H if I think I'm pg, and he's then aware when I take the test. Neither of us were prepared for #2, but I was actually more freaked out than he was. We both wanted more than one child, just not 12 months after the first.

This for us too. There were a few symptoms that could have been pregnancy or something else. He bought the test and brought it home for me. I took it and waited to see what it would say in the bathroom.. then I brought it out for him to see. lol.

naturelle25 · May 2011

I called him while hysterically crying on the phone, lol.

3/05bride · May 2011

We were the same - not being careful, but not trying like we did with #1. We did not really plan on 2U2 and our children will be 17 months apart. I had what I thought was my period and when it "started" I told DH, "good news, we are not pregnant." When I was still bleeding 8 days later but never had other period symptoms, I took a test while DH was at work, thinking it would just confirm that I was not pregnant. Suprise - positive. Went out and got 3 more tests - of course all positive.

It was a Monday and DH had a super busy day at work, so I debated waiting to tell him until the weekend but that night at dinner I could not hold it in. His response was, "you are kidding, right?" He was pretty quiet the whole evening but when he got back from his run the next morning he had a whole list of reasons he thought it would be great to have 2U2 instead of having the kids further apart.

Rolamarie · May 2011

DH was home when I took the test, I think I just stared at him with huge, shocked eyes and he knew.

kmh2201 · May 2011

I surprised DH by taking DS to change his diaper and then brought him back with a "Big Brother" shirt on. It took DH a minute to process, and he even said "Why is he wearing that now? That will be good for the future, but not now..." And then it hit him. Boy, was DH surprised - in a good way! He teared up and everything. Big Smile DS was about 10.5 months at the time, and we weren't planning to get PG, but we also weren't preventing it.

We also did the same thing to tell family and friends at DS's 1st birthday party!

t.bird · May 2011

i waited until i'd had 3 BETAS & 1 u/s (because with a history of IF & an Ectopic i wanted to be sure) and then i asked him if he could spare an hour away from work the next day.

he sighed (loudly) and sounding very annoyed- asked me what for.

i responded that i thought he might want to be at my appt for our child's ultrasound.

he was like- "wtf?! how did that happen?"

katie052409 · May 2011

My DH got home from a business trip and I just handed him the pee stick, it took him 10 minutes of quiet time (while I worried about his reaction) and then he says "well, I hope its twins!" Um hello, we will have 2U1, no need to throw actual twins in the mix! And this is coming from a guy who 5 years ago "didn't see himself having kids"... ha!

mlf625 · May 2011

DH was pretty shocked and had to go into the other room for a second to collect himself. He came out, hugged me, and put on his happy face.

moonfaerie · May 2011

If he was willing to TTC at the end of summer, and you weren't being careful, then he really shouldn't be that upset by the news. In the grand scheme of things having a baby three or four months earlier than you otherwise would have planned is no big deal. I bet he'll be pleasantly surprised or pleasantly not so surprised.

We both pretty much knew I was pg because I was feeling sick with no other cause for it and had horrible neck and back pains liek I did when I was pg with DD1. I tested for a week before getting a BFP. I called him at work and told him, and he was like well we already knew that, now didn't we.

etude de la vie · May 2011

I sent him a text with a picture of the pee stick. I was too upset to call him...

He called me from work very excited but I was not as thrilled. I never had a period 9 months into ebfing and we were using protection.

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