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June 2011 Moms
3Girls3xsTheFun
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MIL & Crazy Nicknames (vent)
3Girls3xsTheFun
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My MIL is driving me batty!
Baby girl #3 will be named Catherine, nickname Cate. Both of my girls go by their nicknames on a regular basis (Ella & Liv), as do H and I (I?m Rebecca but go by Becky), which is why we pick names that have nicknames ?we like to have options.
Anyway, MIL makes up her own special nicknames for our girls. Fine, whatever. She calls DD1 Baby Girl and DD2 Sugar Plum. I just let it go. They have real names, but if that is what she wants to call them, I just ignore it.
As soon as we told her the new baby?s name she insists on calling her ?Pu$$y Cat? and it is driving me completely crazy!!! She gives the girls cards for all holidays (Halloween, V-Day, St. Pat?s Day, Easter, etc.) with money in them for their accounts, and she started with cards for the new baby and is writing ?Pu$$y Cat? on the front.
Maybe I?m being ridiculous, but I can?t stand the term ?pu$$y? and sticking Cat after it doesn?t make it any better!!!
Every time I hear her say it, it?s like nails on a chalk board. I want H to tell her to knock it off, but I don?t think he will. And I know I?ll just hurt her feelings if I mention it.
Anyone have any suggestions? I?m really hoping that if I ignore it she?ll let it go? but I doubt that will happen.
OR, feel free to tell me I?m out of line and she can call my daughter whatever she wants? even if it includes the word ?pu$$y.?
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Re: MIL & Crazy Nicknames (vent)
I agree that's an awkward nickname...
(Sorry, I've got nothing else.)
Oh my....
I believe I would INSIST on H talking to his mom. I'm typically not that pushy, but it seems like she just does it to be different anyways. She's got some time to come up with something a little less annoying and even if it does hurt her feelings up front, at least it'll save your blood from boiling every time you're around her with LO. And I thought my MIL calling LO "PJ" was bad...
Hope you guys work it out!
Oh lord! That would drive me NUTTY! DH def wouldn't say anything and neither would I (I really need to work on sticking up for myself). Maybe you could say something like you arent comfortable having your 3 daughters walking around saying "***?" Because that could get awkward. Or maybe say something like that to DH and then maybe he'll want to tell his mom to stop!
I def get where you are coming from my ILs drive me batty. Right now it's my DH's grandmother that I want to punch in the face. We are team green...but for whatever reason she is certain we are having a boy. And whenever she sees me she says things like, "How's that little boy doing?" She always says he/him and now that we have told people what are name choices are she is calling the baby Nolan. It's really making me pray that this LO is a girl so she will feel like a jerk!
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LOL at "*** Cat"!!!
My MIL doesn't particularly care for my LO's name either (Walker). Walker is my mother's maiden name and she is the only one left of her family, so that's why I chose it. I wanted something that was meaningful for my son. DH is onboard and I am very appreciative, and he chose the middle name.
WELL, MIL is a feisty German woman and she was asking DH about alternative names that we could name him. WTH, this name was his before we found out we were having a boy! I feel like he already knows his name. I couldn't believe she was asking DH such a dumb question.
The point iis, DH told MIL that Walker is his name, that is what he will be called, and there are to be no nicknames either. Yay DH!!! Yours should do the same or at least put his foot down about the particular nickname she chose (since your other kids have nicknames from her).
Also, I am not above being very "selective" with who gets to spend time around my child.
That is awful. Lol. My MIL has nicknamed our baby "lay lay" and it drives me crazy. I told MH I dont want anyone referring to her as a lay. I just ignore it though.
I agree that you should have your H confront her and tell her that you both find "Pu$$y Cat" to be an inappropirate nickname and request she change it NOW!
I would deffinatly say something if anyone wanted to call my son's something I felt was inappropriate. I don't mind people having cutsey nicknames for them (just dont expect me to use them) but if I think the nickname crosses a line something would have to be done!
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Yeah that would bother me too. If DH doesnt want to talk to her about it then maybe you could. Not accusing or anything but more like I know you like to come up with your own nicknames for the girls and that is ok, but the name "*** cat" makes me uncomfortable. Is there a possiblility that you could come up with something else to call her?
I dont think she will just drop it either, so someone is going to have to bring up the topic. Maybe if you do it nicely then she will realize that the name "***" isnt something you should be calling a baby girl. GL!!!
Someone probably already suggested this, but definitely tell her what that stands for in slang terms - and how that makes you (and eventually your LO) uncomfortable. She needs to know that in today's culture, that word has nothing but bad connotations - and the only time it's okay to say is if you are 90 years old and actually referring to your beloved feline pet. I'm so sorry ...
Agreed! My IL's have already nicknamed our LO and I've told him that we aren't using any nicknames. We chose his name for a reason and that's what he's going to be called.
Wow. I'm sorry. and I'm sorry that I spit out my water on my keyboard b/c I was laughing so hard. It really isn't funny.
That said, I agree with every pp. Have your husband talk to her or tell her the connotation but you need to somehow get that name off the list!
My niece was given Puss in Boots for Christmas one year and her grandmother called it 'pu$$y cat' and my sweet, three and a half year old niece, picked up the stuffed animal and said 'oh i love pu$$y'. I peed my pants and then tried to get her to say it again on video. I'm an awful aunt, right?
Well, it's good to know that I'm not crazy for thinking that is a completely inappropriate nickname --- now to get her to stop.
I'll try to get H to say something. If he refuses I will take matters into my own hands. I know my MIL, and she will throw a big dramatic fit over this, but I can't let my baby girl be called that in public!
Thanks everyone.
Just cracked up - my grandmother always calls me pussycat!!
She means it is a term of endearment. It is completely dated but whatever she doesn't mean anything wrong by it. Your MIL is a little weirder than my grandmother - for my grandmother like I said it is a "term of endearment" not a nickname.
Try the PP's kitty cat suggestion. I think it is a nice compromise... IDK, if your MIL is already calling your other two daughter by nicks, Cate may feel a bit left out in the future if she is the only odd one out.
Good luck!