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March 2011 Moms
mrs.ptb
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MIL Vent
mrs.ptb
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I started work last week. I work from home, but unfortunately, I work set hours so I can't rely on taking car of DS myself. We have each of our moms here 2 days a week and THANKFULLY a friend once a week. With the friend, it couldn't be easier. She is our age, she has a 2yo, she understands. With my mom it is a challenge sometimes, but at least I can tell her if she is doing something I don't like. With MIL I feel like I am going to rip my hair out.
She doesn't pay attention to ANYTHING. This is week two. She doesn't know how to turn the TV on (it is a harmony remote that has a "watch TV" button)... Last week on day two, she came up to my office because she couldn't find a nipple for the bottle? WHAT?! The bottles are all in the cabinet already put together. Well... we keep milk in the pump bottles in the fridge, and that's what we heat the milk in, but he drinks from a MAM anti-colic bottle. They look COMPLETELY different, and at this point she has already given him at least 5 bottles.
I asked her a million times not to soak his stuff. Just toss it in the sink and I will wash everything at the end of the day. Instead, I give my mom what I think is a clean bink the next day, and she notices it is filled with water. Because she soaked his pacifiers all day and then put them away. So they were all filled with water and sitting in the cabinet. GROSS.
Today... she is trying to get a bottle ready and I am working in my office trying to ignore his cries. She then bursts into my office while I am sitting shirtless pumping and says she can't figure ot the bottle. WTF?!
He stops crying within 15 minutes. I didn't stop pumping to go down because he wasn't due for a bottle anyway (don't even get me started on her overfeeding tendency). Finally I go down to ask if everything was resolved and she said she figured it out.... Turns out, rather than use a put together bottle from the cabinet, she tried to put together one from the drying rack... And didn't put the silicone seal in the bottom... Pour the milk in...and it comes running out of the holes in the bottle of the bottle.
Now, in a way, I am glad I didn't go down immediately, because she won't learn anything unless she does it herself. (It took 10 times for her to learn the bottle warmer... it is one button and a little thing of water..) But I mean come one can you listen to one GD thing I say?! You are driving me up a wall. And I swear if there is one pumping joke, the gloves are off. Oh - did I not mention she is basically anti-BFing?
Thanks for reading if you made it this far. What a way to start the day.
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Re: MIL Vent
Woah! Sorry, but I would give up and find someone else. Perhaps your mom and friend could each take one more day? If that doesn't work maybe trade days with them so your MIL is only there one day a week. I'm sorry, but I wouldn't put up with her. Especially the overfeeding. It's such a waste.
Good for you for pumping despite what MIL says or thinks! Keep it up mama, you're doing what's best.
Ugh, she sounds JUST like my MIL. My MIL is completely helpless and clueless. She's been running a daycare out of her home for at least 15 years, plus raised 3 kids of her own, yet she asks me the stupidest questions about LO. When I was pregnant my mom told her that she was going to buy me the pump I wanted, and MIL goes... "oh no, she's pumping? what will I feed the baby when I take care of him?"
I'm going back to work next week, but we're not putting LO in day care right away because I'm a teacher and will only be back at work for a little over a month before having the summer off. My parents and DH's parents will each be taking care of LO for a week or 2 before I'm back home for summer. The other day MIL was talking about the week she takes care of DS and again, she asked some dumb questions, such as "will I have to take care of the dog the week I'm here?" (If you don't, who else is going to??), and "you're going to have to teach me how to use your washing machine".
She's also totally anti BFing. She loves to see him eat out of a bottle when she's over, and gets really annoyed when I feed him when she's over (probably because she doesn't get to see him while I'm feeding him). Every time she comes over and he gets hungry, she asks if I have a bottle for him. Like I should have pumped before she came over or something. It annoys the heck out of me.
The week she takes care of DS, I'm going to have to leave very detailed feeding instructions, because I have a feeling she'll overfeed him otherwise. She tries to overfeed the rest of the family, so I'm sure she'll do the same with DS.
I wish! My friend works full time as a hair dresser and comes over on her weekday off. The moms each do two days because "it isn't worth it" to make the drive to take care of him for one day and they stay the night in between. It has already come down to, if my husband gets a new job before my contract is up (october), I'll be renegotiating my terms or just straight up not renewing. I can't stand it.
Are we SIL's and don't even know it?!?! If my husband had more say our Ben might have been Benjamin James! and seriously - we have the SAME MIL!
Both my IL's seem so annoyed if I take Ben upstairs to nurse when they are here instead of having a bottle ready for him. Sorry - but if you are going to visit for more than one feeding - he is not getting multiple bottles. There is no reason I can't step away from everyone and feed my son.
And how are they so clueless about the rest of life? I don't know what that woman has on her hands - but my normally spotless stainless steel fridge requires a complete SCRUBBING to get her fingerprints off of it. She refuses to close it with the handle and pushes it shut with her entire hand. She doesn't understand ANYTHING. She has now broken my trash can 3 times trying to force it shut when it is supposed to slowly shut so that it is silent. Seriously, what is wrong with these people?
I feel bad for your dog! At least I am working from home, our pets hide in the office with me when she is here.
Oh MILs... I'm so glad that mine lives 45 minutes away and that I don't need to depend on her for childcare. I don't know what I'd do if that were the case... probably cry. I pray that when DS grows up, I'm not like this with his wife!