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Hi Ladies, please read

3ltlones3ltlones member
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I was asked by a board member if we could get a board started that was for ladies who don't have children, but not by choice.  So, I talked with Bump Eileen and they agreed to start another board.  They are leaving it up to us to name the board.  If you all could submit your suggestions here, I will pass them along to Eileen. To give you an idea, one suggestion I got was Child Free, not by choice.

 

Thanks. 

DD(9)DD(5.5)DS(3)DS(born 2/1/11) July 2006, lost a baby at 8 weeks, natural miscarriage , May 2009 lost Zoe Eliana at 17 weeks no reason known, possible under developed organs. Lost two more babies in September 2009 at 7 wks 4 days. Had myomectomy surgery to remove a large fibroid in November 2009.
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  • KelinandKevinKelinandKevin member

    So the purpose of this board would be for women that stand no chance of having a biological child and have decided against adopting, surrogate, etc. - correct?

    I think this is a good idea for those women who are completely IF (like, a vasectomy or bilateral tube litigation, etc.) and do not plan on having a family, period. Otherwise what is the difference between this and the IF board?  If a member got KU it would be really tough for the others on the board and would essentially be an extension of the IF board or TTCAL 6+.  KWIM?

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  • 3ltlones3ltlones member
    Yes Kelin, exactly.  The purpose is to stop that from happening.  Because it is really tough to watch people with BFP's(though wonderful) come and go when others may not be trying anymore for whatever reason.
    DD(9)DD(5.5)DS(3)DS(born 2/1/11) July 2006, lost a baby at 8 weeks, natural miscarriage , May 2009 lost Zoe Eliana at 17 weeks no reason known, possible under developed organs. Lost two more babies in September 2009 at 7 wks 4 days. Had myomectomy surgery to remove a large fibroid in November 2009.
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  • babygirlpriestbabygirlpriest

    As someone who is currently kinda 'homeless' on the bump, I would love that message board.

    I would want it to be clear that it's NOT a childfree FOR NOW place but a forever child-free (which it sounds like is the case). There would be the inevitable 'oopsie' pregnancy or someone changing their mind about adoption, but I would want a place that no one anticipates 'graduating' from.

    It's very difficult to find meaningful resources on reaching the decision to live childless and live a life of meaning. A place for women in similar positions would be wonderful

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  • KelinandKevinKelinandKevin member
    imagebabygirlpriest:

    As someone who is currently kinda 'homeless' on the bump, I would love that message board.

    I would want it to be clear that it's NOT a childfree FOR NOW place but a forever child-free (which it sounds like is the case). There would be the inevitable 'oopsie' pregnancy or someone changing their mind about adoption, but I would want a place that no one anticipates 'graduating' from.

    It's very difficult to find meaningful resources on reaching the decision to live childless and live a life of meaning. A place for women in similar positions would be wonderful

    Very well put! I think personally, we want a family no matter what so I won't be a member there unless we change our mind about adoption and decide its ok to just be kid-less forever (which could very well happen).  Part of me wants to give up and throw in the towel and move on with my life and travel or finish my PhD. I probably wouldn't consider joining while we are still considering adoption.  But in the future, yeah... I might consider it.

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  • 3ltlones3ltlones member
    imagebabygirlpriest:

    As someone who is currently kinda 'homeless' on the bump, I would love that message board.

    I would want it to be clear that it's NOT a childfree FOR NOW place but a forever child-free (which it sounds like is the case). There would be the inevitable 'oopsie' pregnancy or someone changing their mind about adoption, but I would want a place that no one anticipates 'graduating' from.

    It's very difficult to find meaningful resources on reaching the decision to live childless and live a life of meaning. A place for women in similar positions would be wonderful

    There might be an occasional graduate but no, this wouldn't be a board where there would be graduates happening often. I hate that it even has to be discussed but I understand the need.  You all need a safe place too, somewhere where you can all discuss the things that are on your minds.  Are you all okay with a child free, not by choice name? 

    DD(9)DD(5.5)DS(3)DS(born 2/1/11) July 2006, lost a baby at 8 weeks, natural miscarriage , May 2009 lost Zoe Eliana at 17 weeks no reason known, possible under developed organs. Lost two more babies in September 2009 at 7 wks 4 days. Had myomectomy surgery to remove a large fibroid in November 2009.
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  • 3ltlones3ltlones member
    Also, I'll be sure to have a description at the top of the board explaining exactly what it is, hopefully to curb any drive by ignorance. You all can help with that too, if you'd like.
    DD(9)DD(5.5)DS(3)DS(born 2/1/11) July 2006, lost a baby at 8 weeks, natural miscarriage , May 2009 lost Zoe Eliana at 17 weeks no reason known, possible under developed organs. Lost two more babies in September 2009 at 7 wks 4 days. Had myomectomy surgery to remove a large fibroid in November 2009.
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  • KristysRedBarnKristysRedBarn
    I'm coming out of hiding to respond here.  I really would like to see this board happen.  Like BGP, I'm homeless.  I love you girls so much, but we are done with ttc and fostering is off the table.  I would view it as a board for those that wanted children but will no longer have any due to circumstances and it won't be a board you graduate from.  I would really love to have a community of other ladies who are in similar shoes and can help me figure out how to move forward and learn to live child free and hopefully learn to be at peace and happy with that.
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  • DoingItRightDoingItRight member
    I think this is an awesome board idea!!!
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  • triple_sevenstriple_sevens member
    I think this is a good idea for a board. I love all you ladies and support you in everything you need. That's all.
    BFP #1 10/17/09: missed m/c at 7 weeks; BFP #2 10/22/10: chemical pregnancy; BFP #3: 1/28/11

    Baby Boy Smudgie born 10/4/11

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  • suntotosuntoto member

    imagetriple_sevens:
    I think this is a good idea for a board. I love all you ladies and support you in everything you need. That's all.

    This!  100% this!

    Forever buddy to Angelica; Natural Miscarriage Jan. 2008 @ 11 weeks; 2 years of BFFN's; DX: Unexplained IF (RE thinks IF is due to tubal issues); IUI #1 & 2= BFFN; IUI#3 = BFP, resulted in Cornual ectopic pregnancy; IUI #4 - 6 =BFFN; Our next endeavor... IVF. 1 grade AA embryo transferred on 4-23-2011 and 5 frosties. BFP Abby born 1/5/2012

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  • dandyelledandyelle
    I would be on this board. My husband and I are completing foster training, but I don't know if that will for sure happen for us. And it would be nice to talk to a bunch of ladies who also are figuring out how the rest of our lives are going to look, "Just Us Two."
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