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Is this post partum depression?

TaraandRichforeverTaraandRichforever member
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I had my baby on May 3rd and the labor and delivery did not go at all as I had planned which left me feeling upset and frustrated and like a failure. However after the delivery while in the hospital I felt fine. When we came home I started feeling overwhelmed and having some issues with BF and getting her to take the breast. I felt like I just couldnt take care of the baby and myself and it was too much, plus the lack of sleep didnt help. Every day I felt sad and never happy like I expected that I would be. I feel detached from my daughter and like I cant do anything right. I have started to feel at times like I dont even wanna do anything I used to like doing (not that I have time) and that I just wanna lay down and sleep but cant do during the day when she sleeps even because I start having anxiety about her waking up and having to feed her. I feel sick in my stomach and a sense of dread, sometimes unable to function and feel paralyzed and frozen. I dont feel emotion toward the baby I thought I would but rather feel like I want to be closer to my husband and I miss my life the way it used to be. But because its less than I week since I had her Im wondering if its postpartum or just the baby blues. I went to my OB today. He cant put a name on it, only give me suggestions on how to cope. Im not sure if I need more help and not sure if I can care for my baby like Im supposed to. Im just looking for opinions and advice. Thank you.
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Re: Is this post partum depression?

  • snansleysnansley

    The lack of sleep, new mom learning curve, figuring out breastfeeding and recovering from the birth along with your hormones will put you on your butt those first few weeks.  There were days that I cried right along with DS because I didn't know what else I was supposed to do.  That's all pretty normal.  Things that helped me were seeing a lactation consultant, having DH take the baby for a bit so I could get out of the house (even just to walk outside alone for 5 minutes) and making sure I got a daily shower.  Really small things will save your sanity.  I think it is probably a bit early to figure out what's going on.  It's ok that you aren't instantly bonded with your baby.  It will come.  Just take deep breaths and do the best you can.

    If you are still really struggling in a few weeks, I would talk to your doctor again.  

    I am not trying to minimize your struggles.  Just know that you aren't alone.  Nobody tells you how hard it is because you wouldn't understand until you have been through it.  Talking to my friends who had older  babies really helped me.

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  • beachgirl78beachgirl78

    Hi, I had similar symptoms when my son was born.  After the c-section and my mom left, I really thought I wasnt going to make it.  I failed at breast feeding and felt so guilty about not being happy as I thought I should feel.  The house I was a mess, I didn't shower, time ran together.

    I waited about a week and went to my doctor.  I got a prescription for zoloft, which really helped me.  Gradually things got better and I got a better handle on things.  I didnt have to take them for very long but I would go back and talk to your doctor if you keep feeling this way. 

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