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sharing :-(

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I know (I KNOW) that 2 year olds are not supposed to be really skilled at sharing. And Warner's daycare teachers all say that he actually does pretty well with sharing at daycare. But he is a total nightmare about it when he's at home or at the park. 

And I sort of understand that at home the toys are "his" toys and he's not as used to sharing them with other kids. But it's really a problem at the park when there are community toys (like in the sandbox) and he just walks up to another kid and snatches the shovel or truck or something out of his hand.

Today was a perfect example. He was playing in the sandbox at the park and another little boy about his age was playing with a shovel. Warner wanted it and just grabbed it from him. I immediately took it away from Warner and gave it back to the other kid (who was in hysterics) and told Warner that we have to share and tried to redirect by giving him another toy. And we apologized to the other little boy and I said sorry to the mom (who, btw, was not nice about it...she was totally giving me a look that said eatshit. so thanks a lot, b!tch, I'm sure your kid is effing perfect)

Then not five minutes later, he Warner did it again. We apologized again and I got another eatshit look from the mom and I decided that we had had enough time in the sandbox and we moved on to the swings.  

I know I probably more irritated/embarrassed about this because that mom was not nice about it, but I still feel like I'm failing at teaching him to share. 

Whenever we go to a park or have friends over to the house, I always try to prep him by letting him know that he's going to need to share. And sometimes, I think it actually works (or maybe he's just in a better mood?! not sure if I can take any credit!!).

Anyway, thanks for listening to me ramble and vent. I'd love any suggestions or tips to help with this from you wise moms who have been in my shoes! 

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Re: sharing :-(

  • nicnjednicnjed
    We've all been there.  The only suggestion I have is probably something you've tried already, but I found using the terms "taking turns" and "now it's XYZ's turn" etc. to be more helpful than "sharing".  Reminding DS that he'll get a turn when the other child is done and helping to facilitate trading of toys is something we're constantly doing.  Good luck!
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  • ch ch ch chiach ch ch chia

    Well, if it makes you feel any better, we all have our challenges. This weekend, my kid was in hysterics on the floor of Wegman's, because I wouldn't let her fondle and sqeeze the packages of brie.  ugh.  Oh, and she was crawling all over the floor under the table at Oyamel to "clean up" a few of the chips she dropped. 

    Talk about eatshit stares! OMG. 

     

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  • 2vthokies2vthokies
    My DD #1 is older than Warner, but one thing that works for us is taking turns.  Does he understand that concept yet?  It might help him stop taking if he understands he will get a turn too.  As for the other mom, screw it.  At least you weren't ignoring the behavior and were actively trying to correct it. I guarantee her kid has some behavior that totally irritates/embarrasses her.  I hate it when other mothers judge like that (just like I'm doing, lol).  We should support each other not bring each other down.
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  • BabyHatchBabyHatch
    imagebh2720:

    I know I probably more irritated/embarrassed about this because that mom was not nice about it, but I still feel like I'm failing at teaching him to share. 

     This is me. Nathalie turned a corner within hours of turning 2 and now everything is "MIIIINNNNEEE!" We're struggling. We will literally be in the car and she will point at buildings and say, "mine!" Help.

    When I encounter moms/people like that, I try to convince myself they are having a really bad day. And then I hope that they are, in fact, as good at parenting as they think they are. And then I go home and pour myself a glass of wine and complain to DH. :-)

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  • victoria1212victoria1212 member
    we have all been there. I think the whole 'sharing' concept is incredibly hard at this age. I feel like DD thinks I am just taking something from her and giving it to someone else. She seems to be a little bit more receptive to the taking turns but if she really wants something- it can result in a total meltdown.
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  • SofkaSofka

    we are still there, DD will give something to DS and proudly look at me and say "look, Mommy, I'm sharing!" only, the next moment, to take it away and scream, "mine, I had it 1st" even though she didn't! Or she'll take something out of his hands and say "my turn now," we just reinforce sharing and taking turns over and over again.

    f the other mom

     

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