Thanks Grandma :(

Eris-Alexis · May 2011

I called my grandmother today to wish her a happy mother's day. We had a nice discussion until she said that she knew how hard today was for me, and that she knew I would have kids someday. She then followed it with, "I just hope it's before your mom dies."

Gee thanks Nana. I really appreciate it.

hopefulmom81 · May 2011

That is horrible! I am so sorry.

xnbride · May 2011

Aww hun, that sucks. I am so sorry that she added salt to the wound. Big hugs. Big big big hugs.

Antigone1984 · May 2011

Ouch. I am sure she meant no harm, but I don't doubt that it hurt. I am so sorry. Sad

JThomas221 · May 2011

Yikes! She was doing so good until that last comment. Sorry you had to hear that. Nothing like adding extra pressure onto an already stressful process.

LilMaggs · May 2011

Ouch! *huge hugs*

mommymoore2011 · May 2011

Ummm, not to be a total troll but shouldn't that be after your grandmother dies? I would be a little caught off if my grandmother mentioned my father dying because, well that's not the natural order as we all know. A parent shouldn't have to live to see their child die. I know your take-home-baby will be here sooner than you even know and I bet your mother (and hopefully grandmother) will be there.

LilMaggs · May 2011

mommymoore2011:
Ummm, not to be a total troll but shouldn't that be after your grandmother dies? I would be a little caught off if my grandmother mentioned my father dying because, well that's not the natural order as we all know. A parent shouldn't have to live to see their child die. I know your take-home-baby will be here sooner than you even know and I bet your mother (and hopefully grandmother) will be there.

Please tell me you are kidding.

Mr. Madison, what you've just said is one of the most insanely idiotic things I have ever heard. At no point in your rambling, incoherent response were you even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in this room is now dumber for having listened to it. I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul.

mommymoore2011 · May 2011

LilMaggs:

mommymoore2011:
Ummm, not to be a total troll but shouldn't that be after your grandmother dies? I would be a little caught off if my grandmother mentioned my father dying because, well that's not the natural order as we all know. A parent shouldn't have to live to see their child die. I know your take-home-baby will be here sooner than you even know and I bet your mother (and hopefully grandmother) will be there.

Please tell me you are kidding.

Mr. Madison, what you've just said is one of the most insanely idiotic things I have ever heard. At no point in your rambling, incoherent response were you even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in this room is now dumber for having listened to it. I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul.

Oh yes I'm sorry, I do think that mother's should go before grandmothers and children should go before mothers? Are you effing serious? Please jump down off the horsey, warning, your panties may be bunched and logic botched, but don't worry your post seems self-righteous enough for you to not care all too much about how much sense you made.

noah-bear · May 2011

mommymoore2011:
LilMaggs:

mommymoore2011:
Ummm, not to be a total troll but shouldn't that be after your grandmother dies? I would be a little caught off if my grandmother mentioned my father dying because, well that's not the natural order as we all know. A parent shouldn't have to live to see their child die. I know your take-home-baby will be here sooner than you even know and I bet your mother (and hopefully grandmother) will be there.
Please tell me you are kidding.

Mr. Madison, what you've just said is one of the most insanely idiotic things I have ever heard. At no point in your rambling, incoherent response were you even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in this room is now dumber for having listened to it. I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul.

Oh yes I'm sorry, I do think that mother's should go before grandmothers and children should go before mothers? Are you effing serious? Please jump down off the horsey, warning, your panties may be bunched and logic botched, but don't worry your post seems self-righteous enough for you to not care all too much about how much sense you made.

woah

mommymoore2011 · May 2011

LilMaggs:

mommymoore2011:
Ummm, not to be a total troll but shouldn't that be after your grandmother dies? I would be a little caught off if my grandmother mentioned my father dying because, well that's not the natural order as we all know. A parent shouldn't have to live to see their child die. I know your take-home-baby will be here sooner than you even know and I bet your mother (and hopefully grandmother) will be there.

Please tell me you are kidding.

Mr. Madison, what you've just said is one of the most insanely idiotic things I have ever heard. At no point in your rambling, incoherent response were you even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in this room is now dumber for having listened to it. I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul.

I appologize if you think that you are so much a better person than I because your circle of life logic is jacked up and you can't understand the basic logistic of the world, but that gives you no right to use God's mercy as a way to make yourself superior. Unfortunately your remark requires much more mercy from said God than mine. But I do appreciate your self-righteous attitude. Evidence and examples of how NOT to be are always appreciated.

A little note, we're here because our children died before we did, I think it's REASONABLE TO ASSUME that we all are in the school of understanding that parent's shouldn't have to suffer the loss of their child.

But then again you're probably just pissed off and thought it would be quite cute to be snarky towards me. Unfortunately your rant about how little sense I made was quite ironic.

May God have mercy on your logic. PLEASE

LilMaggs · May 2011

mommymoore2011:
LilMaggs:

mommymoore2011:
Ummm, not to be a total troll but shouldn't that be after your grandmother dies? I would be a little caught off if my grandmother mentioned my father dying because, well that's not the natural order as we all know. A parent shouldn't have to live to see their child die. I know your take-home-baby will be here sooner than you even know and I bet your mother (and hopefully grandmother) will be there.
Please tell me you are kidding.

Mr. Madison, what you've just said is one of the most insanely idiotic things I have ever heard. At no point in your rambling, incoherent response were you even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in this room is now dumber for having listened to it. I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul.
I appologize if you think that you are so much a better person than I because your circle of life logic is jacked up and you can't understand the basic logistic of the world, but that gives you no right to use God's mercy as a way to make yourself superior. Unfortunately your remark requires much more mercy from said God than mine. But I do appreciate your self-righteous attitude. Evidence and examples of how NOT to be are always appreciated.

A little note, we're here because our children died before we did, I think it's REASONABLE TO ASSUME that we all are in the school of understanding that parent's shouldn't have to suffer the loss of their child.

But then again you're probably just pissed off and thought it would be quite cute to be snarky towards me. Unfortunately your rant about how little sense I made was quite ironic.

May God have mercy on your logic. PLEASE

May I recommend that you watch Billy Madison? You may find it quite enlightening.

mommymoore2011 · May 2011

LilMaggs:
mommymoore2011:
LilMaggs:

mommymoore2011:
Ummm, not to be a total troll but shouldn't that be after your grandmother dies? I would be a little caught off if my grandmother mentioned my father dying because, well that's not the natural order as we all know. A parent shouldn't have to live to see their child die. I know your take-home-baby will be here sooner than you even know and I bet your mother (and hopefully grandmother) will be there.

Please tell me you are kidding.

Mr. Madison, what you've just said is one of the most insanely idiotic things I have ever heard. At no point in your rambling, incoherent response were you even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in this room is now dumber for having listened to it. I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul.

I appologize if you think that you are so much a better person than I because your circle of life logic is jacked up and you can't understand the basic logistic of the world, but that gives you no right to use God's mercy as a way to make yourself superior. Unfortunately your remark requires much more mercy from said God than mine. But I do appreciate your self-righteous attitude. Evidence and examples of how NOT to be are always appreciated.

A little note, we're here because our children died before we did, I think it's REASONABLE TO ASSUME that we all are in the school of understanding that parent's shouldn't have to suffer the loss of their child.

But then again you're probably just pissed off and thought it would be quite cute to be snarky towards me. Unfortunately your rant about how little sense I made was quite ironic.

May God have mercy on your logic. PLEASE

May I recommend that you watch Billy Madison? You may find it quite enlightening.

May I reccomend a true understanding of the Earth. I mean it's obvious you are not receptive to such, but if you would like to find true enlightenment I sugest you make an intelligent remark as opposed to one that makes you feel cute and funny. But like I said, you're probably just "one of those people" that insists on making really stupid comments, and then backing them up by ones that are increasinly meaningless. Great movie suggestion BTW and a GREAT attempt at witt! Might I suggest Shakespeare, it may take you a while, but really if you get into the string of things you can actually learn what a witty response is. But based on your entertainment preferences I can assume that wouldn't be very beneficial for you.

I hope you enjoy your Mother's Day *** out! It may make you feel better that it was uncalled for! I mean really if you're havin that bad of a day keep the stupid insults and responses coming, I would love to help you on this day, even if it's just as a scapegoat for your bitchiness.

LilMaggs · May 2011

mommymoore2011:
LilMaggs:
mommymoore2011:
LilMaggs:

mommymoore2011:
Ummm, not to be a total troll but shouldn't that be after your grandmother dies? I would be a little caught off if my grandmother mentioned my father dying because, well that's not the natural order as we all know. A parent shouldn't have to live to see their child die. I know your take-home-baby will be here sooner than you even know and I bet your mother (and hopefully grandmother) will be there.
Please tell me you are kidding.

Mr. Madison, what you've just said is one of the most insanely idiotic things I have ever heard. At no point in your rambling, incoherent response were you even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in this room is now dumber for having listened to it. I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul.
I appologize if you think that you are so much a better person than I because your circle of life logic is jacked up and you can't understand the basic logistic of the world, but that gives you no right to use God's mercy as a way to make yourself superior. Unfortunately your remark requires much more mercy from said God than mine. But I do appreciate your self-righteous attitude. Evidence and examples of how NOT to be are always appreciated.

A little note, we're here because our children died before we did, I think it's REASONABLE TO ASSUME that we all are in the school of understanding that parent's shouldn't have to suffer the loss of their child.

But then again you're probably just pissed off and thought it would be quite cute to be snarky towards me. Unfortunately your rant about how little sense I made was quite ironic.

May God have mercy on your logic. PLEASE
May I recommend that you watch Billy Madison? You may find it quite enlightening.

May I reccomend a true understanding of the Earth. I mean it's obvious you are not receptive to such, but if you would like to find true enlightenment I sugest you make an intelligent remark as opposed to one that makes you feel cute and funny. But like I said, you're probably just "one of those people" that insists on making really stupid comments, and then backing them up by ones that are increasinly meaningless. Great movie suggestion BTW and a GREAT attempt at witt! Might I suggest Shakespeare, it may take you a while, but really if you get into the string of things you can actually learn what a witty response is. But based on your entertainment preferences I can assume that wouldn't be very beneficial for you.

I hope you enjoy your Mother's Day *** out! It may make you feel better that it was uncalled for! I mean really if you're havin that bad of a day keep the stupid insults and responses coming, I would love to help you on this day, even if it's just as a scapegoat for your bitchiness.

In the words of Hamlet, "The lady doth protest too much, methinks."

I will happily take you up on your reading suggestion as soon as I finish Pride and Prejudice. I don't know about you, but I really hate reading two books at once.

corndog8 · May 2011

Eris - I'm so sorry you had to hear that today. You gram was doing so good up until then.... I'm sure she didn't mean it to be hurtful, but it still was. Honey I know you will have that sticky baby soon!! ((me hugs you))

corndog8 · May 2011

SweetTurnip:
mommymoore2011:
LilMaggs:

mommymoore2011:
Ummm, not to be a total troll but shouldn't that be after your grandmother dies? I would be a little caught off if my grandmother mentioned my father dying because, well that's not the natural order as we all know. A parent shouldn't have to live to see their child die. I know your take-home-baby will be here sooner than you even know and I bet your mother (and hopefully grandmother) will be there.

Please tell me you are kidding.

Mr. Madison, what you've just said is one of the most insanely idiotic things I have ever heard. At no point in your rambling, incoherent response were you even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in this room is now dumber for having listened to it. I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul.

Oh yes I'm sorry, I do think that mother's should go before grandmothers and children should go before mothers? Are you effing serious? Please jump down off the horsey, warning, your panties may be bunched and logic botched, but don't worry your post seems self-righteous enough for you to not care all too much about how much sense you made.

*head desk*

Yes I agree - *head desk* Normally I don't get too into things as such, but since this happens to be a post by a super wonderful buddy/friend of mine, I will.

Unfortunately dear, as we live and learn, life does not work out they way we'd like it to. Yes, it's true. I've watched friends of mine (when in high school, quite some time ago) go before older relatives I have(these friends funerals hit home to me that age does not matter). I did not understand then, but I know that it does happen and it's not happy or may not be fair, but it happens unfortunately. I'm tired and I may not be at the top of my game right now, but please.... just stop. Sorry to sound harsh, but to be honest, it's my birthday and so I can.

Eris-Alexis · May 2011

mommymoore2011:
Ummm, not to be a total troll but shouldn't that be after your grandmother dies? I would be a little caught off if my grandmother mentioned my father dying because, well that's not the natural order as we all know. A parent shouldn't have to live to see their child die. I know your take-home-baby will be here sooner than you even know and I bet your mother (and hopefully grandmother) will be there.

My mom is a stage 4 cancer patient, and has been battling for a long time now. While I agree that it is not fair for children to go before their parents, it unfortunately happens all the time.

Eris-Alexis · May 2011

Thank you ladies, for all of the support. I certainly didn't intend for this to become a giant drama post. In fact, I strongly considered not posting at all because I know how rough Mother's Day was for a lot of us, but after several hours of stewing on Nana's comments, I just had to get it out.

I know that she didn't mean any harm by it. She has never (to my knowledge) gone through a loss, and I know she is very worried about my mom, so she just wasn't thinking about it, but that comment stung.

Anyway, thank you all again for the support.

LoriJ11 · May 2011

ouch!!! Hugs to you!

MDT082010 · May 2011

I'm so sorry. That is exactly what you don't need to hear. Big hugs!!!

meeko1985 · May 2011

Seriously mommymoore? You rant on TTCAL expecting support ALL OF THE TIME. It is only reasonable that you give support back to others... not "trolling" for drama.

Eris-Alexis, I'm sorry that your post has turned into something else. Back to your original post, it hurts when the people closest to you say something insensitive. You know that they love you, and don't intend to hurt you... and its hard to even call it out. All I can believe is people just don't know what to say...

celineg · May 2011

I'm so sorry she said that to you, so hurtful

Big (((HUGS)))

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