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Anyone elses dh not acknowledge?

Izabella22Izabella22 member
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between the bffn and that... I'd chalk this up to a pretty sh!ttastic day.
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  • ECHC829ECHC829

    awww I'm so sorry you got a BFN today :( ..... MH didn't acknowledge today, but I didn't expect him to.  I know he doesn't consider us "parents" since we had a early missed m/c at 11wks.... I think if we would have gotten into 2nd tri, maybe he'd think differently.... I'm sorry yours didn't say anything, yet.

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  • Allie-JoAllie-Jo member
    DH thought I was in a grumpy mood because we chose to spend the actual day with him mom and yesterday with mine, and it didn't work out so well yesterday.  I then explained to him why today might be a pain in my ass, on top of being on BCP for another 11 days, and because Sundays for a while are always going to suck because I think "It's been X weeks since the surgery."  He kinda felt bad after that, said sorry and gave me a hug, since then nothing.
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  • MegMeg0913MegMeg0913 member

    I am so sorry about the BFN honey ~hugs~ 

    My DH really didn't have a choice.  I told him about it earlier in the week and told him it was important that he was sensitive to my feelings today or I might go nuts on someone!   

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  • millejj1millejj1 member
    Mine did, but we had talked earlier this week about how I was struggling and was afraid I'd be forgotten during our big dinner.
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  • tdmd09tdmd09 member
    I kind of acknowledged for him that this is the first mother's day without my mom, plus I've been calling it "Shoulda-beena-mother's day". He didn't "do" anything for me except not object when I dragged him to the grocery store for a box of cookies to eat for lunch. I am wearing my elfster exchange gift, though, which is making me feel better. :)
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  • rosenb2brosenb2b member

    **DS mentioned**

     

    Sorry about the BFN and YH not acknowleding....I offer flowers on his behalf.

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    My DH went out of town this weekend for a golf tourney so he's not even here.  He's called since he's on the way home but hasn't mentioned Mother's Day and I even have a 4 yr old!  I'm irritated a little but I'm plotting revenge on Father's Day.  I may conveniently forget too....Geez, at least a card would be nice! He's picking up dinner on the way home but he said he wanted Outback so it's not like a gift or anything...BRAT!

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  • MrsAtchMrsAtch member
    Oh hon, I'm so sorry that he didn't do anything for you, and for the bffn. I've been thinking about you a lot today and wondering how your day was going. I still have a ton of OPK's that I can mail you if you want. Just want you to know that I'm thinking about you and sending you love today. (HUGS)
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  • TnG05TnG05
    Sorry about the BFN. My DH hasn't acknowledged either but he told me yesterday he doesn't consider it a Mother's Day for us.{{{{hugs}}}}
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  • lavrillavril member
    Sorry about the  BFN.  My DH didn't acknowledge or do anything special for today.  I started crying randomly while doing the dishes earlier today - not sure why - it just hit me.  He came over and gave me a hug.   He also said not to worry that we don't have to go to the in-laws for mothers day.  So that definitely helped.

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  • Laurakat81Laurakat81 member
    imageMegMeg0913:

    I am so sorry about the BFN honey ~hugs~ 

    My DH really didn't have a choice.  I told him about it earlier in the week and told him it was important that he was sensitive to my feelings today or I might go nuts on someone!   

    This. I make it a point to let DH know ahead of time that something is a big deal to me and that he should plan something or do something. I figure its a lot better to just tell him that I expect something rather than wait for him to figure it out on his own (which would simply just not happen). And I'd rather not be mad at him on top of feeling sad.

    ((hugs)) I'm sorry he didn't acknowledge you as a mother today.


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  • hopefulmom81hopefulmom81 member

    Mine didn't either.

     

    Sorry about the BFN. 

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  • TapatioTapatio
    I'm sorry about the BFN and the lack of acknowledgement from your DH. My DH didn't do or say anything either. To be honest, I didn't expect him too. I'm spoiling myself with wine, chocolate and a yummy Italian dinner. My DH can kiss my butt. I hope you get good news tomorrow....if you're planning on testing again ((hugs)).
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  • JThomas221JThomas221

    I told DH earlier this week that I was afraid noone would acknowledge me so he must have taken the hint. He says he got me a card but he can't find it so I haven't seen it yet. Hmm We got in a fight earlier about something unrelated to the day and we're ok now. I was supposed to go watch him play on his volleyball league tonight but I broke down crying before we were about to leave and I told him I couldn't go. He was sweet and kept saying he was sorry I was hurting and gave me a big hug and kiss. I'll give him a B for effort.

    ETA: Accidentally posted before I finished!

    Izabella, sorry about the BFN this morning. I got one too and I feel your pain. Big (((hugs))) to all the ladies who also got BFN's this morning and for anyone who did not get the recognition they deserved today.

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  • corndog8corndog8

    So sorry about the BFN this morning :(  ((hugs))

     

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