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lawmomma77lawmomma77
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Hey all.

I was directed over here from twitter as a place to maybe find some online support.  My husband and I filed for divorce today.  Our son is almost 21 months old. 

I feel absolutely terrified.  I never saw this coming.  I didn't have the slightest clue. And now I'm just reeling and trying to keep my head above water for my son's benefit when all I really want to do is curl up in a ball and cry for years.

 People keep telling me it will get better but I'm having a hard time believing them.  How do I stop loving someone I promised to love for the rest of my life?

-Law Momma

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  • susanc07susanc07 member

    I contacted you the other day through your blog.  I know this is hard.  But I've been lurking (and sometimes posting) on this board for nearly a year, b/c I knew my marriage was in trouble.  I tried desperately to save it, but one person cannot save a marriage.

    i also just recently filed.  the ladies here (at least the regulars) are very honest if not supportive.  they don't sugarcoat things, which is oftentimes what i need to here.  and quite a few of them have gone through hell and come out clean on the other side; come out much happier and even sometimes with a better H or SO.  You are a great mom for doing what is best for both of you.

    I hope you are okay.  I know this is hard.  I do.  I still have not figured out how to stop loving my H either, even though he's given me plenty of reasons not too.  Time heals all wounds I guess.  :(

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  • fromthewombfromthewomb

    I usually say this to everyone who is just going through this hell, so sorry if I seem a bit repetitive. At first, you are going to be sad, then angry, you may even feel bad for him or that the situation is your fault. You won't sleep well or you will sleep too much. But then there will be a day that you aren't as angry or sad or guilt-ridden. Then you will have a whole week where you don't even realize you went through emotional hell. And finally you will be able to confidently say that you couldn't care less about your ex and you will realize you are much happier without him. :)

     

    Hope this helped. 

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  • lawmomma77lawmomma77
    Thanks... I'm waiting for the anger and hurt to subside so I can get to being okay. I mostly just want to stop feeling like he's still mine.  If I could get over that part, knowing he was with someone else wouldn't hurt as bad.
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