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Mother's Day: Harder than I thought it would be

AgWife83AgWife83
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Hi ladies. I want to wish you all a happy mother's day. As soon as we saw that second line, we were mothers, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise! And for those of us who have experienced their loss very recently, extra big hugs.

I know most of us have been dreading this day for a while. I knew I'd be bummed, but I didn't have any idea how deep the hurt would be. All of this "Happy mother's day to all the mommies (and mommies to be!)" on FB and other places really, really stings. If just ONE person would write an extra..."and to the mommies who never got to hold their babies..." it would turn my day around.

My hubby did wish me a happy mother's day this morning. He knew that I would be having a tough day today because I told him. I just wish someone, anyone, in my family would acknowledge me today. I feel so left out. I just can't see anywhere but downhill for this day. Ugh.


BFP 2.19.11 - Missed miscarriage, April 2011
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  • redlady22redlady22

    I'm sorry I know how much this day sucks, I was dreading it and now that its here I swear my brain is in survival mode.  I'm not leaving our house today and I'm not getting on fb, I'm going to pretend today is any other normal day. 

    ((Hugs)) to you!

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  • dawnrob5dawnrob5 member

    thinking of you and sending much love.

    i'm hoping tomorrow gets here before we know it.

    ps i don't know why i am torturing myself with reading endless selfish facebook posts either. was thinking the same thing that someone should write an extra something for us. wishing just one person would acknowledge us.

    so i'm acknowledging us here...

    wishing the mommies who never got to hold their babies a peaceful mothers day. one that brings strength and a glimmer of hope for better days ahead. 

     

    and i'm going to try my best to boycott fb until tom. 

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  • TnG05TnG05

    Happy Mother's Day AgWife (HUGS).  I'm glad your husband recognized it.

    Our families don't get it and I'm dreading calling anyone today because it'll start the one day blah blah blah that I don't want to hear.

    I'll be thinking of you today. 

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  • amandachsamandachs member
    Yes, harder than I thought it would be too.  No one around me seems to get it.  I'm posting a "happy mothers day to all the moms who never got to hold their babies" as my status today.  Maybe someone will finally get how insensitive all this "happy mothers day" crap is.  I mean, I get that it's a holiday and to celebrate it, but no one gets the flip side of it at all. 
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  • JT325JT325 member

    (((hugs)))

    Happy Mother's Day to you too. 

    Today, I've been having a "me" day, but I still am sad.  DH got me a sweet card.. but I still wish others would acknowledge that I'm a mom too.

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  • minimuffin918minimuffin918

    Agwife...i am so sorry you are having a rough day and i am very sorry for your loss...i hope that next year you can hold your baby in your arms and smile on this day.  you are right, you truly are a mother...and you deserve a day dedicated to you...

    much luck and strength in your journey!

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  • yogiwannabmomyogiwannabmom
    I'm glad today is a new day. I agree yesterday was tough. Sorry you had rough was too. I had to avoid facebook for most of the day myself.  I wish one person would have acknowledged us. ......tough.
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