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NBR: I'm Losing My Grip On Everything!

InACitySoNiceInACitySoNice member
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Okay, this rant/vent might get a bit long so I apologize in advance.

First, I used to love fall and winter.  It's my favorite time of year, the air is fresh, it's fun being outside, I love the trees and the leaves and wearing sweaters and bundling up at night and, of course, the holidays.

But now ... It takes at least a half hour just to bundle my DD to leave the house (socks, shoes, sweater, coat, do we have mittens? Where's her hat? Shove her in her stroller muffler. Is it windy, do I need the rain/wind guard on the stroller? Hold still, Mommy's almost ready, etc.).  And we can't stay out late at the playground because of the sun going down early.  And it's impossible to go into stores because of the Christmas toys now on display because DD wants them all and puts up a big tantrum when the answer is inevitably "no".

And I'm exhausted all of the time and I can't get everything done that I need to get done and I can't do all of my shopping in one day and DD is crawling all over me and my bbs are so sensitive that I hate ANYTHING touching them and it drives me nuts and she's talking soooo much all the time and I never get to talk to my friends anymore because she goes crazy when I'm on the phone.

And, okay, I have a bit of an obsession.  With boxes.  I save them, especially for this time of year when I'm mailing out gifts and things to friends and family.  One year, DH went on a cleaning binge and threw them ALL out, cleaned out my bookshelves (none of them were his books) and wound up throwing out the lock of my mother's hair that I cut after she died ... God, it still makes me cry just thinking of it.  I finally forgave him for it and told him never to do it again.  It's not a closet he ever needs to go into.  It's just full of my stuff (I've been in this apartment for 20 years and he's a newcomer).

Well, I went into the closet today and saw he'd done it AGAIN.  All my boxes, gone.  I don't know why he does it!  Honestly!  He doesn't cook, never cleans, rarely changes diapers, I have to bag all the trash and take it to the front door for him to take it to the trash room which is 10 feet away from our door ... He doesn't change the kitty litter, doesn't feed the cats, doesn't feed the baby, comes home after 10 pm every night (he has an hour commute and a family business and a business of his own) so everything falls on me.

I'm just so freaking TIRED of it ALL!!!  And there's no way out!  Sorry.  I just needed to vent in a major way before I murder him.  Again.

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  • niknak1128niknak1128 member
    I'm sorry you're having a rough time. =(  I can sort of relate.  DH works nights so a lot of the housework falls on me too.  I mean he takes out the garbage, mows the lown/shovels the driveway, takes care of the cars.. that kind of stuff.  But I'm the one doing the daily stuff.. laundry.. dishes.. cleaning.. all of that. I'll be home alone getting up in the middle of the night with our baby and doing bath time and bed time and dinner by myself every night.  I'm sure I'm going to be totally worn out.  Our day care is pretty close to our house so who knows.. maybe DH will pick him up and do some of the things before he goes to work but I'm kind of doubting it. 
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  • Mrs.Meg&JayMrs.Meg&Jay
    Sad  I'm sorry your going through all this.  My DH threw out some of my stuff (not knowing, because he didn't take the time to look) and I was mad at him for WEEKS!  So I kind of understand where your coming from. 
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  • LucyPevensieLucyPevensie member
    Oh honey.  I'll hold him down for ya.  BOX STEALER!  Sad
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    "When it comes to sleeping, whatever your baby does is normal. If one thing has damaged parents enjoyment of their babies, it's rigid expectations about how and when the baby should sleep." ~ James McKenna, Ph.D., Mother Baby Behavioral Sleep Center, University of Notre Dame

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  • InACitySoNiceInACitySoNice member

    Mrs.Meg&Jay - Thanks for commiserating.  Friends again?  Embarrassed

     LucyP - You made me laugh!  Thank you!  You know, now that I think about it, he's all concerned about the boxes in the closet, but since I got pg he doesn't want anything to do with the important one ... Mine!  Wink

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  • Mrs.Meg&JayMrs.Meg&Jay
    ha ha-- of course! 
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  • MoDchiCkMoDchiCk member

    October was like this for us too lots of drama related to MIL and making us argue and I was liking not backing down...lotof good about these hormones!!!

    You should probably replace those boxes by ordering LOTS of new stuFF!!!!!! ?Then maybe he will learn to let the ones that have arrived STAY! ? hehehehehe

    AS for ?dd getting ready just breath and enjoy the game of it ....what mitten do you want to put on first r or l...hat or coat on first ....make it a game so you can get through it...does she do the over the head coat trick yet so they can get their own coat on???

    Get some of that free voting Ben and Jerrys today!!!!!!!!!

    Sorry its been a shiTeous month!!!!!! We are in a new ONE!!!!!?

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