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Feeling lonely

greneyeselfgreneyeself member
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Guess i m just feeling lonely today.... so i keep posting

Hubby has been out doing "boy" things most of the day and went out with friends for drinks. I opted not to go... at this stage I just don't see myself hanging out at a bar.

It is a  little difficult because although we made the choice to have a child much earlier then a lot of our friends (most of whom are not even married let alone thinking about children)... I still wish I could "fit in"

It is difficult because as much as i love my friends but because we are all in such different places in life sometimes its hard to find common ground. 

My girlfriend told me today that although she was happy for me when i told her i was having a baby she was sad because she did not want to lose me... and although they are all supportive and excited... they don't exactly get it. I am not saying that they need to plan their activities around the preggo lady but i guess every once in a while it would be nice to be considered.

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Re: Feeling lonely

  • kriskroskriskros
    kinda know how you feel. Im young too.. 22 and Dh is 25. Fortunately ive never been a big "partier" and ive always been more of a homebody but it can be hard sometimes. I just think im bringing something (or someone ;]) into this world thats so much exciting than going to a bar. Plus like you i feel weird being in one at this point lol. It does get lonley though when DH goes out.. But hes considerant of me and comes home early :]
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  • thatgirl84thatgirl84

    I always suggest that the pg lady make the plans and make the invites. Friends think that you wouldn't want to go out, and I would've probably been guilty of this same way of thinking pre-pg. I do this with my friends, and it works. I think when friends get the idea that you want to go out and are not "disabled," then they will start inviting you.

    Pregnancy and parenthood isn't the end of your social life. My FI has already said that he's fine staying home with the baby on the nights I want to go out, especially since I've been carrying her and altering my normal behavior (I'm a little bit of an adrenaline junkie, and I love my Margaritas).

    Your friends will come around. If you don't mind me asking, how old are you?

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  • an.wattsan.watts member
    I know how you feel.  I had a break down yesterday because I felt lonely.  My husband works night shift so I sleep alone at night and then during the day he is home but sleeping, so I am just around the house with no one to talk to.  What makes it hard for me I guess is I can't do a lot because I can't lift anything so I am just bored.  I hope you feel better :)  
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  • greneyeselfgreneyeself member

    I am 24...

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