We're team.../ name vent

ashleighlynn0812 · May 2011

Pink. LO was very cooperative during the anatomy scan yesterday. I'm so excited! I also had the movement confirmed. I thought I had been feeling gas, but as the ultrasound went on and she kept moving... I felt that regular feeling. It was so cool!

We had the name picked out already, and I wanted to keep it a secret. Instead, my SO texted everyone the name. I'm white, he is hispanic/african american. We're naming her Aubrey Serenity. Apparently people have been telling him bad things about the name. His sister said that it was a white girl name. He's now mad at me because it sounds like a "white girl name". I'm frustrated now because he was so excited for the name, and now he's letting everyone else influence this. What to doooo? I'm standing my ground and keeping her name Aubrey. Its just so frustrating that he is like this! It's almost as if all of his family/friends think that it is my fault that the baby will have a "white girl name".

PS. I forgot to add that she (SIL) is 4 weeks ahead of me... pregnant as well. I'm wondering if she had that name chosen or something. Its just so frustrating!

sassy77 · May 2011

To me that name does not sound "white". There is no white, african american or hispanic names (IMO). The nerve of some people!!

amalanni · May 2011

I made the mistake of telling my SIL the name we had picked and she too had nothing but negative things to say and because of it, the name became stupid to me. So we changed it! I love our new name now, but I will never tell anyone until after the certificate is signed. Don't tell anyone the name, b/c like my SIL they all throw out "alternative" names that are "better" and say mean things. Just keep it between you and hubby and let him know he loved it before someone said something and ask him "don't you think that's a little weird you never had a problem with it until she said something?" and he'll know in his heart he loves it too.

and there is no "white girl" "black girl" "Hispanic" names. Maria is found more in hispanic families but its also an american name too right? His family needs to be supportive and if they aren't he needs to stand up to them for you. That's what I told my husband to do b/c i was sick of my SIL's negativity. If they don't have anything nice to say, they don't need to open their mouths!

brokensmyl · May 2011

I know how you feel about the name thing. We told my MIL our original boy name of Elijah (we have another one being tossed around too) and she said it sounded too "black" ... I've had people agree with her. I don't really care what other people think either way. Maybe we will have a girl and it won't matter.

Also, a friend of mine named her daughter Aubrie. The little girl is half black, a quarter white, and a quarter Filipino.

hinmighty · May 2011

I am so sorry that happened!! I like the name and I don't think it sounds too "white." Plus your baby will be mixed so it's not like she will be the one certain ethnicity anyway!! I have a fear that people are not going to like the names we picked out. I had suggested to DH that we not tell people the names, but he was like "who cares what people think"... I dunno.

BTW - I looked at your profile pic and you and your SO are super cute together :-)

weddingbells2010 · May 2011

First, I agree with PP- keep the name to yourself (whether you intend to change it or not) until after the birth. By then, do one will look at your beautiful little girl and be able to say a single bad thing about her name Before, though, they'll have plently of their own personal preferences- but it's not their baby!

Second, why the heck is your SO mad at YOU b/c HIS sister doesn't like the name? Does he think you plotted to pick a "white" name or something? Tell him to get over it.

Tonyandlilia · May 2011

I have a niece who's name is Aubrey and she is full Mexican. I know how you feel, everyone ask the name of child and there is always someone who doesn't like it. We had so many names picked out and my mom disputed most of them. I love your name. Good luck with everything.

dadonet · May 2011

First of all I am going to be so jealous of your baby for her perfect skin tone lol second of all who cares if a name sounds "white" last I checked there was not a book on what ethnicity you have to be to name your baby. A name is a name if you both like it...keep it.. your baby not you SO sisters.

Junebug060609 · May 2011

I have a cousin named Aubrey. I think its really pretty. Doesn't matter what color skin the little girl happens to have, its a classic pretty name. Ultimately, SHE is the one they'll be associating the name with...not an entire race.

Hollygirl7 · May 2011

brokensmyl:
I know how you feel about the name thing. We told my MIL our original boy name of Elijah (we have another one being tossed around too) and she said it sounded too "black" ... I've had people agree with her. I don't really care what other people think either way. Maybe we will have a girl and it won't matter.
Also, a friend of mine named her daughter Aubrie. The little girl is half black, a quarter white, and a quarter Filipino.

FWIW, my son's name is Elijah and he's as white as it gets. I haven't had any people commenting that it sounds black at all (I mean, maybe if it was Malachi or something but no, Elijah is normal) and people knew for months that it would be his name. I actually get a lot of positive comments on it, the only difficulty is most people forget it, and call him Isaiah instead...haha

And to the OP, I don't think Aubrey sounds too white at all. I haven't known any Aubreys, but I did know a (Hispanic...) guy named Audley, so the association for me is actually hispanic. I also agree with PP's, your SO shouldn't be so swayed just because his sister told him it sounds white. The truth is, she'll be Aubrey, she'll own it, and everyone who knows her will from then on associate the name with HER and with HER cultural background.

Jovan3 · May 2011

Names dont have a color/race, Ignorant lady she must be!! I sometimes dislike SIL's!! UGH! They(meaning SIL) said the same about our babies name. We are both hispanic and we picked Daniel Alexander & her & her husband asked us in front of everyone at a gathering, "Why all the white name?" I said excuse me! Im not gonna go all crazy and name my baby some crazy hard name only spanish ppl can say!

BTW I love the name! I hate when ppl get too ethnic with names.

LadieBumbles · May 2011

Well, our little girl's name is going to be Aubrey too (if it is a girl). I'm white, so is DH, but I don't think of it as a "white girls name". It is actually a boys name that recently has become feminine.

I'm curious to know what name that would suggest for a child who will be 1/2 white, 1/4 African American and 1/4 hispanic?

amberdrabik · May 2011

Oh no! I have now learned to not ask family for their opinions on names. I think Aubrey Serenity is a beautiful name! I don't understand how it is only a "white girl name." It's just a beautiful name!

ashleighlynn0812 · May 2011

Thanks ladies! I needed that encouragement. I honestly feel like he is moodier than I am lately... because when I came home from work he said he wanted to talk to Aubrey and whispered to my belly.

THANK YOU!

made me feel much more comfortable about the name!

KozieKim · May 2011

I got the same thing with the names I liked:

Donovan, Derrek, Clayton...those are too ethnic??? But Bradley is too spoiled white boy sounding...you just cant win with some ppl.

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