Emotional Today- DH Vent

photogirlchrissy · May 2011

I can't stop crying today. 33 weeks yesterday and we only 7 give or take weeks till the little one is here. I feel like DH and I should be spending more time together not less. Yes he has been wonderful with the cleaning, cooking and other chores i'm just unable to do but I feel like we haven't spent any "quality" time together. For the past few weekends he has been with his best friend doing guy things. I worked 5am-1pm this morning and he went out with his best friend till about 130. I heard his friends car pulled up and was excited because he was home and he made a conscious effort to spend one on one time. I ran upstairs to get a shower and by the time I was out he still wasn't in the house but in the garage working on his motorcycle. I wish he would get a clue. I hope he comes up soon because tonight we are going to dinner with his parents for his bday/mothers day and yet another night we aren't alone. Sorry I seem whiney. I just needed to vent.

soontobe05 · May 2011

I feel ya. Mine's been gone since like 8:30am and isn't coming home until late tonight because he went to his parents and then is going straight to his friend's house for the rest of the day so DD and I couldn't go. Stuck at home all day. Yay.

musiscout · May 2011

Mine went away for 6 days to visit his family. In his view, he wants to do all this stuff so he can be around and have the time to help when Baby Girl gets here. I hope he's right.

Baby4OT · May 2011

Have you told him all that? Sometimes men don't just get a clue; they need it all spelled out for them. Instead of just hoping that he comes inside to spend time with you, have you told him that you want to spend some one on one time together without best friends or family. Maybe mark some time on your calendars for a date night - whether you choose to go out or stay in, just make it time that you both know will be spent together.

EMLYNNLERETTE · May 2011

I feel you. I keep telling my husband that too. Even when we are sitting on the couch together I still feel like we aren't spending quality time together and taking advantage of the time we have left just as us. The last two nights have been an improvement, but like baby4ot says, you need to tell him or he probably isn't going to get it. My Pastor told me in our marriage counseling that I MUST always verbalize what I am feeling in order to expect him to do something about it. I guess women and men work differently? Go figure Big Smile

Hbowers16 · May 2011

MH has seemed to turn into this crunch time to not be a dad fiend. Like the last several weeks he's totally doing his thing, don't get me wrong, he doesn't party or anything. Just always wanting to go play disc golf with friends or go to the movies. Or overtime at work, or meetings about business stuff. But I talked to him last night about it, didn't seem to do any good either.

I told him I don't think you realize this is the last few weeks we have for 18+ yrs of focus not on you or me. A lot is about to change. sigh* at least I tried.

Turtle143 · May 2011

Some guys need more than "clues." Some guys just don't get it. Just tell him what it is you want. Might be the best approach for your H.

While you're feeling you should cherish your time together, he might be feeling he needs to cherish time with friends and his hobbies before you have the baby.

la_chivita · May 2011

i'm right there with you. my husband went to get a haircut left at 1:30 for a 2 oclock its 30 mins away. its 5:14 on my computer screen and he isn't home yet. he took his brother which i'm not very fond of. ahhh...i swear i'm getting more emotional as i get closer to deliverying...

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