What was harder for you...0-1 or 1-2 kids?

mrsseguin · May 2011

Stolen from working moms...

Both DH and I are finding it much harder going from 1-2 kids. We used to want 3 kids, but the more we think about it, the more we both feel we are done with 2. Now that the baby STTN most nights, things are better, but it has been very overwhelming some days.

t.bird · May 2011

1-2 was hard for us at first. but now that we've fallen into a routine it's all good.

we still want 4

Raffes484 · May 2011

Definitely 1-2.

LDQAM516 · May 2011

Definitely 0-1. You just don't know anything when you have your first...so I was always freaking out and anxious for DS to do new things. Second time around was way more relaxed even though DD was a way more difficult baby...plus I wasn't anxious for her to walk...or get teeth...i just enjoyed her cute babiness.

kfriscia · May 2011

0-1 hands down! Everything was new and stressful the first time. I felt much more relaxed and prepared the 2 nd time.

BadgerMama34 · May 2011

0-1 was way harder! It wasn't as much of a transition to go from 1-2 kids...while there have been definite changes...0-1 was definitely more drastic!

luciagdelopez · May 2011

We have 3 that are 3 yrs old, 2 yrs old and 9 months. 1-2 was hard but then 2-3 was easy. The older two entertain each other and now that the baby is more alert and mobile, things are fun again.

moonfaerie · May 2011

0-1 was hard hard hard for me! It took me a long time to adjust to the fact that I had to live around someone else's schedule. I was so used to doing whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted, that 0-1 hit me like a ton of bricks. I knew what I was in for with #2 and she was actually a much less needy newborn than DD1, so 1-2 was a piece of cake at first.

mlf625 · May 2011

1-2. It doesn't just get twice as hard, it gets like 10x as hard. For awhile, anyway.

hellopoppyseed · May 2011

kfriscia:
0-1 hands down! Everything was new and stressful the first time. I felt much more relaxed and prepared the 2 nd time.

This is how I felt too.

roundtheworldgirl · May 2011

1-2 for sure. With 1, you can take turns. Yeah, it's challenging at first, but once I had two, I laughed at my former self for thinking one baby was hard

With two so close together in age, we play man-on-man defense most of the time, and there's really very little free time until they are in bed and chores are done..

roundtheworldgirl · May 2011

mlf625:
1-2. It doesn't just get twice as hard, it gets like 10x as hard. For awhile, anyway.

And this.

bulldog_mama23 · May 2011

For us, it was going from 1-2 that was harder, only because we never get down time until the kids are in bed and the house is cleaned up each night. With just 1, one of us could be taking care of DD while the other one could do something else. But we are settling into a new routine and it is getting easier.

NavyPilotWife · May 2011

hellopoppyseed:
kfriscia:
0-1 hands down! Everything was new and stressful the first time. I felt much more relaxed and prepared the 2 nd time.
This is how I felt too.

Same here. 1-2 wasn't bad at all for us.

HarrietNJMommy · May 2011

0-1

KacieLeigh · May 2011

Definitely going from 1-2. It's no longer easy to go in and out of a store, or run somewhere really fast. You have to load up 2 babies instead of one! Of course, having 2 under 2 complicates that moreso than if they were older.

We want 4 kids - we're insane.

flgator · May 2011

LDQAM516:
Definitely 0-1. You just don't know anything when you have your first...so I was always freaking out and anxious for DS to do new things. Second time around was way more relaxed even though DD was a way more difficult baby...plus I wasn't anxious for her to walk...or get teeth...i just enjoyed her cute babiness.

agree, except we have 2 boys. Our 2nd was also a more difficult baby, but I enjoyed his babiness.

Noralie · May 2011

That's a tough question for me.

0-1: Had to learn what we were doing, DD1 was not a good sleeper and was just a more difficult baby in general.

1-2: DD2 was a super easy baby. I have often said that if I could guarantee all future kids would be like her, I wouldn't stop having them. On the other hand, the logistics of two little ones is a challenge. Whenever I go out with just one kid, I feel so much lighter and practically feel alone. One kid is cake.

It's also fairly difficult right around now. DD1 is 2 and her favorite phrase is "I do it!". It's usually something she is not physically capable of, but she goes ballistic when I try to help. She is also potty training which is not going well. DD2 is 1 and started crawling only a little over a month ago. Neither child shares particularly well and both are perpetually hungry. They are fabulous sleepers though, which makes all the difference in the world. They are also super cute and very funny.

mechanicsgirl · May 2011

1-2 was much harder for me, but in a way, it was easier to get things done. I realized how easy it had been (when I thought it was so hard) to get chores done, so I just made myself suck it up and put DS down in the swing so I could get things done.

Scout1218 · May 2011

Going from 0 to 1 was much more difficult for me. I was working a high stress, 55 hour a week job and felt like I went from literally 70 mph to 0 mph in a day. Couple that with horrible PPD and it was nasty.

Going from 1 to 2 presented its own set of challenges, but I felt like my head was so much more clear so I was able to manage the stress much better.

wille2b · May 2011

kfriscia:
0-1 hands down! Everything was new and stressful the first time. I felt much more relaxed and prepared the 2 nd time.

this

fallsbride · May 2011

We have 3 boys with a 4th on the way. 1-2 was more challenging b/c you had to do everything that you had to do before but with another child there. There is no napping when baby naps. No adjustment period, no healing time. You get home from the hospital and go into full swing. 2-3 was fine and I am sure 3-4 will be too. I know that I will not have any down time so I am prepared LOL.....well as prepared as you can be right!

jeffrae · May 2011

0-1 was HARD. 1-2 has (so far) been a breeze.

PhilsWife07 · May 2011

They were both really hard. 0-1 was hard because of the new parent thing. 1-2 was really hard because #2 was a SUPER difficult baby for the first 4 months of his life and I had a toddler to care for. I'm hoping 2-3 is the easiest of all.

etude de la vie · May 2011

Its a tie for me!

0-1 was stressful. She had colic until 4 months and severe reflux (ulcers and more) until 10 months old. She still is a "high-matience" child.

1-2: DS is a calm baby who is not colicky but juggling everything alone and many of my standards and schedules for things just goes out the window. Some days I feel like I am barely swimming above water.

detroitblondie · May 2011

LDQAM516:
Definitely 0-1. You just don't know anything when you have your first...so I was always freaking out and anxious for DS to do new things. Second time around was way more relaxed even though DD was a way more difficult baby...plus I wasn't anxious for her to walk...or get teeth...i just enjoyed her cute babiness.

Totally this. 0-1 was hard, 1-2 was easy (you know what to expect, are more laid back, have long realized "perfect parenting" doesn't exist, etc.)

detroitblondie · May 2011

HarrietNJMommy:
0-1

LOL, I often think of a reply you posted a long time ago when you said that 1 was hard, 2 was easy, 3 was super hard (because you're ALWAYS out numbered). Thus, the plan is to stay at 2 for a while.

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