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February 2011 Moms
So my brother...(vent)
H and I live with my brother. We moved in with him and his (now x) fiance in october while I was pregnant. Never in a million years would I have dreamed that my brother would be so immature. More so than he was when he was younger and especially after he broke his engagement.
A few months ago he was threatening to not pay his rent after I asked him why he failed to pay one month because it 'wasnt fair' that he was paying half of the rent (covering what his now x fiance would have been paying) to live pretty much just in his room (he took all of his things up there and rarely comes out even if H and I made dinner and asked him to eat with us). And apparently my baby and job 'means nothing' as a reason why the house isn't always super clean for his new GFs every week.
Oh, and God forbid I use the internet WHILE I'm watching netflix in the TV...just can't interrupt his computer games! "The internet's slow!!"...duh, you're running a super internet hog game when we have a basic connection. We've had lots of go-arounds with him turning off my and H's computers if I use the rest room or leave it on for 2 seconds unattended...
He also left notes on the new neighbor's car for parking in 'my spot'. Who leaves notes on people's car at 1 am 'for' someone who never asked him to be involved? My brother. H had to deal with that issue because the neighbor thought it was us. That was 2 weeks ago.
Finally, the other night I was trying to watch a documentary and DD was being fussy for bed (a bit earlier than usual, but I decided to put her down anyways). I took her upstairs and nursed her, then rocked her to sleep. I was up there maybe 10 minutes when my brother comes home. He preceeds to turn off my movie, the tv, then make himself oatmeal as if I had been away from the TV for hours at a time. So of course I tell him that I dont appreciate him doing that, especially because he was home less than 5 minutes and took the liberty of 'dealing' with my things. (mind you, he doesnt pay electric, internet, nothing...just rent). His response was that 'at least I am not pregnant or was pregnant and now have a baby. If you don't like it I'm going to pay less rent because I don't have to put up with this sh*t'.....really? Am I missing something, because I'm 1000 percent sure he was trying to make me feel bad for having a baby and committing to something other than myself. I'm also 1000 percent sure that his ego brain thinks he's got it hard. Seeing his friends all the time and playing video games til 3 am, even sleeping in all day is just so horrible.
Cannot WAIT to get the hell away from my brother so he can be an ego maniac and I won't have to put up with it. No wonder his friends were eager for him to live with H and I. God help the world.
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Re: So my brother...(vent)
It sounds like normal roommate frustrations, compounded by the fact that he's your brother. Seems like you need to sit down and spell out the household rules, so that you're all on the same page. That's ridiculous he's not paying utilities. If he wants to start paying for internet and electric, then he can have a say in when he gets to monopolize it.
FWIW, I used to own a house and had a bunch of roommates--some couples, some singles. The singles always paid less than the couples, even though the couples would share a room and the singles had their own. I personally think it would be more fair if he paid less as a single than he did when his fiancee lived with you guys. Your family has 3 people living there, and he is only 1 person, so it seems to me that the rent should be split maybe 70/30. But that's just my opinion, without knowing the agreement you all made when you moved in together.
We told him before we moved in that we can't afford to pay more than what we are, and he said that was fine. So rent stays as is or his stuff gets to disappear...he's the one who works and brags about making 'so much money' to everyone while H and I are scraping pennies every month.
The only things he owns are what is in his room. EVERYTHING else including the washer/dryer is owned by myself and H. Brother uses everything just like everyone else. He's also the reason that his fiance isnt living there, so it's not fair for us to have to pay for her and him to get a break because my brother decided (2 months after getting engaged) that he wanted a new chick out of the blue. It'd be diff if he was single before moving in, but to try to change things up RIGHT when I have the baby is ridiculous.
Our lease is up the end of Sept (AAAAAAACKKKKKKKKKKK) so we have a while before we can be rid of him. Thankfully all 3 of us work constantly during the summer (oh tourism) so we won't have to see him at all and H and I can save anything extra for moving out without roomies (hopefully). H being level-headed is the only reason that I haven't already broken the lease.....