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sweetpea2003
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wish me godspeed :)
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My husband deploys next week for 7 months. The anxiety of having a 22 month old, 6 month old, dog, cat, house, etc... all by myself is starting to creep in. Okay, it has fully taken over and I am about to hyperventilate into a bag.
I am writing this mostly as a vent. But if anyone out there has done the "single mom" (I put single mom in quotes because I realize that I am not truly a single mom with my DH gone, I still have his support, even from afar) thing with kiddos these ages. Or if you are also the spouse of a guy who is gone a lot I would love some encouragement or advice.
I honestly feel sorry for my DH. He is going to miss so much 
. And unfortunately, being that he is on an aircraft carrier, there is very little communication (no skype, very little phone, and crappy email). Pity party for 1 please.
Married 6/28/03
Kate ~ 7/3/09 *** Connor ~ 11/11/10
4 miscarriages: 2007, 2009, 2013, 2014
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No more TTC for us. We are done, and at peace, as a family of 4.
"Suffering has been stronger than all other teaching, and has taught me to understand what your heart used to be. I have been bent and broken, but – I hope – into a better shape.” — Charles Dickens
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Re: wish me godspeed :)
I usually just lurk, but we're in almost the same situation. My DH goes off to Basic/OCS in July, so more than likely he'll be in training when LO2 is born and probably for a few months after. If thats not enough, I'll probably have to get everything ready for our PCS after his training.
I can't say that I'm looking forward to it, my DH helps out alot, but we've been really working on putting DS on a schedual and basically just making a ton of excell lists of all the chores that need to get done regularly, bills that get paid, etc... We've also decided to hire someone to come by and help clean every once in a while.
Even though I know that we're preparing alot, I'm still super nervous. We don't have any family nearby, so pretty much everything will rest on me.
If you come across any good resources, please let me know, I could use all the advice I can get!!!
Good Luck!
I don't have any advice, but you can do it! I'm sure it will be hard but you can vent here. Do you have friends or family close by to help?
thank your DH for me for serving.
Come Jan I will be in a very similar situation to you. I do not know what to say to make you feel better. All I know is that DH choose his job and I know it is worth it to him. That makes me feel a bit better when I feel sorry for him and all he will miss.
As for you, do you have a spouses group/friends that can understand what you are going through? This has helped me a lot.
Also, if you can afford it, hire a cleaning service and/or babysitter to give you some time to relax.
Hugs
Thanks everyone!
To answer questions.... Family is somewhat close (3.5 hours). My mom is a teacher so she will be coming down for the whole summer. That will help a lot! We did hire a cleaning service to come every other week. I have a babysitter that comes for 4 hours one morning per week (so I can grocery shop, run errands, etc). I do have good friends. We just moved but thankfully have lived here before so we have a good base of people that we know and can count on.
Married 6/28/03
Kate ~ 7/3/09 *** Connor ~ 11/11/10
4 miscarriages: 2007, 2009, 2013, 2014
*~*~*~*~*
No more TTC for us. We are done, and at peace, as a family of 4.
"Suffering has been stronger than all other teaching, and has taught me to understand what your heart used to be. I have been bent and broken, but – I hope – into a better shape.” — Charles Dickens
I don't get on to post often, but I saw this and thought to reply. We are in VERY similar situations. DH deploys next week too (aircraft carrier as well) and I've been having anxiety attacks about it since January.
I'm finding what helps me is to list out several milestones between now and the potential homecoming (i.e., family get togethers, July 4th, Labor Day, DS's birthday, Halloween, etc.) For some reason that helps me to not feel like it's an eternity until he gets back.
Logistically, I am just trying to stick to our schedule as much as possible. DD is a creature of routine and I feel like the fewer disruptions to her life, the better. DS is getting to the stage of wanting to stand on his own so he's a handful right now...I joined a mommy's group and we have a small group from church that helps me stay connected. I have to get out of the house, at least once a day, to maintain my sanity.
We don't have a cleaning lady but I've thought about it...My best friends wnat us to come down to Charleston for the summer (we moved here from there 2 years ago) so we might have an extended vaca sometime in the next few months.
I know what you mean about being sad for your DH. Mine missed DD's 1st birthday, he'll miss DS's birthday, and so so so much of the fun baby milestones. As much stress as it's giving me, I still know I have it better than he does, because I don't have to miss out on their babyhood.
Just want to wish you luck! It sounds like there are several women on the board in similar situations.
Looks like our husbands will be together for the next 7 months!
Where are you in the area? We are in Norfolk. I have a good cleaning lady who is very sweet, thorough,and inexpensive if you need a name.
If you PM me I can give you my email address.
Married 6/28/03
Kate ~ 7/3/09 *** Connor ~ 11/11/10
4 miscarriages: 2007, 2009, 2013, 2014
*~*~*~*~*
No more TTC for us. We are done, and at peace, as a family of 4.
"Suffering has been stronger than all other teaching, and has taught me to understand what your heart used to be. I have been bent and broken, but – I hope – into a better shape.” — Charles Dickens