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December 2011 Moms
asyph107
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way to half a%$ it DH. Vent
asyph107
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Why is it that men cannot follow through with things like women do? DH has been trying to help me out I admit it...but it is always only half help. He will put on the dish washer but not do the other dishes that cannot go in there. Then makes a meal and the kitchen is ten times messier than it was before and he leaves it that way. Then this morning I woke up to a pile of clean laundry on the chair in our living room(first floor) and a pile of clean on our bedroom floor (2nd floor) the laundry is in the basement and I have been doing it but why would he carry it up and put it on the floor? or on a chair? Why not leave it in the basket so our two cats, a dog, and DS don't get it all messy again. OH BOY. Sorry just needed to vent. I know I should be happy to have help but somedays help does not feel like it actually does.
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Re: way to half a%$ it DH. Vent
I literally could have posted this myself...I just told DH last night how it would be SO nice if I could ask him to do something and only have to ask once and know that it was going to be done.
He tries his best and has a lot on his plate too so I try and keep reminding myself to be so thankful that I have a partner to help me out at all since so many women/moms dont :-/ still frustrating though
Let's turn this into a DH vent....
I get mad when I ask my DH to do something and he says "Sure, no problem." But it takes him hours to actually get it done. I guess I just need to start anticipating what will need to be done and as him to do it a few hours in advance. Like when I ask him to clean the litter box, I mean in the next few minutes, not hours from now when it stinks even more! Maybe I need to be more specific for him, LOL!
I'm lucky if I get the litter boxes done within the next 3 days or so. Usually I have to start gagging when I walk by them before he gets around to changing them(granted my sense of smell is so strong right now that they make me sick the day after he just cleaned them)
That's me, too. If it weren't for my husband, I would never eat (he does all the cooking these days) and I'd never have clothes to wear.
Wow. Are you sure you're not secretly taping my husband and venting for me?
On a more serious note, you're not alone. Many husbands seem stereotypically incapable of properly following through with household chores.
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I could have written this! I've asked my SO for the past WEEK to clean up the dishes because the smells make me gag....yea, they are STILL sitting there. He has gotten better with doing clothes when I ask him to, but it's maybe one day then he's done.
grrr....men are frustrating
Is this just encoded in male DNA? I asked DH to wipe off the counter tops in the bathroom the other day and I caught him wetting a wash cloth to do it.. Really? I know he's seen me use paper towels and cleaner all the time!
AND I also can't stand it when I ask him to do something and he says "Yeah, in a sec" ummm....well I could do it in a sec too but I'm currently doing something else which is why I asked for your help...do it now.
AND when I get aggravated because I need more help around the house he says "If you tell me what to do, I'll do it" My response is...I shouldn't have to tell you what to do, you know whats out of place, dirty, etc. Its not hard to look at the dishes in the sink and think..hmm I should do something about those.
REALLY?!
I feel the sane way! I have been askig DH for a week now to put his tools away. They are still sitting in my kitchen. The cat box needs changed ad that is one thing I refuse to do. He has done the dishes a few times but I wish he would help me fold and put away the laundry. He also cleaned out his car an brought in 3 reusable bags full of stuff and they are sitting on my kitchen floor. Then he wonders why I am crabby.....Men!
THIS! My DH genuinely tries to be helpful, but he totally doesn't see what needs to be done around the house. He'll do anything I ask him to (and is generally pretty good about doing it quickly), but if I ask him to help tidy the kitchen, he might do the dishes in the sink and completely ignore dirty countertops, dirty towels, or anything else. It's some mental block all men seem to have!
Ugh! DH is the same way!!! The only time he's actually cleaned (appropriately, not just move things from 1 room to another) and put away his laundry, I got so mad at him (for something unrelated) that I'm pretty sure he thought I wasn't going to let him sleep in the house that night....
It shouldn't have to be that way!
Sounds like my husband!
Man, since I've been sick, he's had to do all his own cooking, so he makes a huge mess in the kitchen three times a day, and doesn't clean it up. Drives me nuts...I feel like I'm constantly cleaning the kitchen!
When he see's me cleaning up one of his messes looking disgruntled, he says "I was going to get that!" Yeah right.....
Oh, and his way of cleaning the counters is taking a disgusting wet wash cloth or sponge out of the sink that's been sitting there for days collecting germs and wiping down the counter with it. Ewwwwwww!!
Me too! We have always had a division of labor - he unloads the dishwasher when it's clean, and I put the dirty dishes in as they happen and start it up once it's full (he claims he wouldn't be able to fit them in as nicely as I can. It all comes from my MIL who won't let anyone but her touch the dishwasher...)
So he actually ran the washer the other night (Monday). You'd think since he was the one who started it, he'd be aware of the fact that it needed emptying? He'd notice the dishes were starting to stack up? Nope, not really. It took until Wednesday night after my nagging him for 3 days to finally empty it so I could put dishes in and start it up right away...