- Pregnancy
- Baby & Toddler
- Parents
- Getting Pregnant
- Baby Names
- Product Reviews
-
Registry
- Community
-
More
Want a personalized experience?
Download the free app
Baby Showers
Yet another invite wording question :)
I'm helping my H's cousin plan a shower for my SIL. At first she didn't want to mention her registry on the invite, because she didn't want people to feel obligated to spend X amount on a gift. Now she changed her mind b/c she found some reasonably priced items. Everything on her registry is $25 and under w/free shipping, I believe, since the shower will be on O`ahu and she lives on Maui so that's nice.
I know that some people feel it's inappropriate to list a registry on an invitation, so what would be the most tactful way of incorporating it in the invite?
She also wanted to mention, that if they chose to gift her with something from the registry if they could send it directly to her house on Maui. So many red flags went up when I read her message about this whole thing. So WWYD in a situation like this? I was thinking that I might persuade her to just use word of mouth and make up little cards w/the registry info if people were interested? Or how have you seen registries listed on baby shower invites?
This discussion has been closed.
Re: Yet another invite wording question :)
Traditional etiquette vs today's practices have differing views on this. That being said, if you wanted to include registry info, I would make a separate little card to stick in with the invitations that listed the places she's registered.
As for the whole shipping thing- you can't request that without sounding tacky. If someone wants to buy her a gift, it's her responsibility to figure out (and pay for) transportation of said gift. However, I would imagine that many people would realize the situation and if the shipping is free, they'll probably choose to have it shipped to her home.
You could make up a small card saying where she is registered and include her mailing address on it and say something like: "for those who would like to ship directly to ____'s home, the address is _____ . Maybe that would be enough of a hint to let people know?
And like the PP said, traditionally you don't put anything about where you are registered in the invite, but most people include the little cards you are provided from the major chains like babies r us etc.
I would be very turned off if I saw a registry listed on an invitation. You can create a baby website through TB, similar to a wedding website.
There is a section of the website that you can add your registries. But, you can also add pictures and blog posts so it's not all about presents.
Putting the website address at the bottom of the invitation would be the best suggestion. I'm sure most guests would figure that registry info will be listed there.
And if they don't have access to the internet, they can always call up the mother or host of the shower to figure out the registry.
BFP #2: 8.31.16 Dx w/ GD @ 28w DD Born @ 36w: 4.21.17
I can't believe you would be turned off by this. I feel like it is pretty standard these days to have this on the invite. It is usually just either an insert or a line at the end that says Shannon is registered at Babies R Us. Honestly 99% of people expect to bring gifts and not putting the registry information on there, to me, just makes it harder for the people invited, they either then have to ask around or with your suggestion have to go try to find it on their baby website... annoying.. just list it, no big deal.
I am turned off by it, I find it incredibly tacky!
BFP #2: 8.31.16 Dx w/ GD @ 28w DD Born @ 36w: 4.21.17
I didn't really plan to put it on my invites either, but I'm already getting asked where we are plan to have our registry and my mom's friends are asking as well. Of course I don't mind telling them but I feel like these days its the norm for baby showers to put it on the invite or on an insert.
As for the shipping, a friend of mine they included an insert that said something similar to:
"If you wish to send the gift to Sally Smith her registry at Babies R Us can send it to her directly, if you want her to know at the shower what you sent, feel free to bring a picture so we can share! "
I brought a picture as did many other ladies and we passed them around. She is also a military spouse (but we are friends from back home) and I know a lot of hassle can be made of getting bigger items around. I didn't mind at all. Some people I'm sure will find it rude but really there isn't a 'smooth' way of saying it.
I loathe those knot/bump type websites. Rarely if ever does the owner purchase an actual domain name, and asking guests to go to a website a mile long is extremely irritating imho. I would 'guess' at normal places before going to a website like that. OP, a simple "Susie is registered at Amazon.com and Babies'R'Us" is fine. To be safe, put it on an insert card instead of the actual invite. Frankly though, I wouldn't be annoyed at all to see registry info on a shower invite.
As per shipping... say nothing! Asking people to ship directly to her house would definitely be very inappropriate. Hopefully people will realize and act accordingly, but if not, your SIL should be prepared to return/rebuy or ship the gifts home. I'm going home for a shower in less than a month. I'm fully prepared to deal with shipping gifts home if necessary.
www.cozylittlecave.com
I'm pretty old fashioned when it come to etiquette, but I don't mind when there is a card with shower invitations that lists where the guest of honor is registered.
As far as shipping goes, it is up to your SIL to ship her gifts back home. There is no polite way to ask guests to ship the gifts.
BFP #2 10/13/11 c/p 10/17/11
BFP #3 12/13/11 EDD 8/23/12 DS Born 8/27/12
I find providing information about where someone is registered very PRACTICAL. Most people want to get people things they want and need - right? It really just makes sense to me to let people know where someone is registered...
I totally agree, I think a wedding invite is one thing, but a baby shower invite is a different ball game. Most pre written invitations these days have someone already on there about where the mommy is registured.