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Article about rewarding children

linzpinz14linzpinz14
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I love it when you all post interesting articles and allibaba posted a link which had another link to this article in my PTing post.

Here is the article : https://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2008/11/14/does-rewarding-children-backfire/

 

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  • linzpinz14linzpinz14

    I don't see external rewards as a bad thing when they are used infrequently.  I feel the same way about threats. (ex. Offering time-out as an alternative to a desired behavior.)  It's when they become daily occurances, that I think they're a problem.  Thoughts?

    Now to tattle on myself... all my childcare kids are awesome at cleaning up... except for C, who runs in the opposite direction when I say it's clean-up time.  4 out of 5 days I "threaten" her with taking a break in a chair until she is ready to clean up.  (We always leave things out for her if she ends up choosing "time-out" instead of clean-up, for her to clean up later.)  I need to figure out a new strategy, because obviously mine is not working.  Embarrassed

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  • JLPT830JLPT830 member
    All I know is that it gets myself and DS down when we are constantly punishing a bad behavior....and most of the time the bad behavior doesn't change.  I notice a change in him immediately when we reinforce the good behavior with some sort of a reward or praise.
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  • teacherjessteacherjess member
    Interesting read. I reward Leah for good behavior, but right now, she likes time-out and thinks it's fun, which has left me confused on how to treat bad behavior....I need to figure something out. She is AWFUL about picking up her toys....
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  • kyfirewifekyfirewife member
    Interesting article.

    I agree with the theory, not sure of the practice. At least not in all situations.

    I think we need to be careful about how often we punish / reward (ie. not doing it for every little thing).

    re: punishment, I think it's important that children learn that there are consequences for their negative actions.

    re: rewards, I think it's also important that children learn that there are positive outcomes for their positive actions

    Everything in life has a consequence, good or bad, and children need to learn that as well.
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