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Taking LO to the doctor - question
Yesterday the daycare called and said LO was fussy and was pulling on his ear. I made an appointment for him at 9:45 today. DH could not take him and it would be difficult for me and put me in a pinch but I could do it. DH thought it would be better if my MIL took him instead of me. I disagreed and said that it is our responsibilty to take him and he said that it is totally normal to have a grandparent take an eight month old to the doctor.
Is it normal? I just think that she is already overbearing as it is and this is just going to make it worse. Also, she cannot make any decision on his behalf medically.
She called this morning a 6 and said she could not do it because LO weighs too much and she would have too many issues carrying him around so it is a moot point now but I am curious what other people think.
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10/3/09 Susan G. Komen 5K 28:58
1/17/10 Chevron Half Marathon 2:09:08
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Re: Taking LO to the doctor - question
My MIL lives OOT and happened to be here for G's two year check up. I took him, and she tagged along and I really didn't even want that.
There's no way unless it was a dire emergency that I'd let my MIL take either of my kids to a sick visit.
Well my mother doesn't have the same views as I do when it comes to ds and our choices regarding certain issues so I would NEVER let her take him to a dr's appt, well or sick.
My MIL would respect our choices so if she lived here and not OOT, I might let her do it if I really just couldn't do it.
I'm a SAHM so there's never a reason I can't make it, unless I was sick myself. I prefer to be there to make the choices and get the information from the dr myself.
In the situation you described above, I would take him myself. I would just have too many questions and things get lost from one person to another and I wouldn't want to have a long list of questions that were not brought up.
BUT...in a pinch, yes, I would do it - with a detailed list for them to ask. C had to go to the doctor 3 days in a row once for shots for an ear infection. My mom kept him at home one of the days and took him to get his shot. She did see the doctor and asked everything I wanted her to.
Heck, even when DH takes C to the doctor he ends up not asking everything I would...kinda drives me crazy.
This. I would have no problem with my MIL taking the kids but I trust her judgement ; )
DH on the other hand never gives me the whole story which is why I try to schedule appts when I can go.
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If it was absolutely impossible for me/DH to take him, I'd let either parent, but only if it was the only option.
I agree that it's part of my job as DS's mother to take him to the doctor, even if that means I have to take off from work.
Never in a million years with my MIL, but I don't let her take him for an hour to even watch during the day, so that's kind of a different story.
Once Abbie was really sick at daycare and needed to see the doctor. I worked in the Galleria Area and she was in daycare in The Woodlands. My Mom's office was right down the street so she picked her up and took her to the doctor. I had to write a letter and sign it and fax it to the doctor's office telling them it was ok for my Mom to take her in. If I could have gotten there before they closed I would have taken her, but I was in a situation where it was either my Mom or no one.
ETA: Abbie was around my Mom everyday at that point also and was very comforatble with her. I wouldn't send Collin with her now because he doesn't know her as well. Another question I would ask is if DS is comfortable enough with your MIL that he'd be ok with just her being there if they were to look in his ears, give him shots, etc.
Collin Thayne 10.11.2010
My MIL doesn't know how to buckle a carseat and just leaves it undone because she doesn't "fool with those things", so it would never in a million years happen.
I'd send my Mom with no issues.
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What is it with grandparents and carseats? It is not that hard! My mother in law takes about 87 minutes to buckle or unbuckle one. And she never wants it as tight as I do. I had to send her a link to explain to her how tight it needs to be, and why.
As to the original post - I would let my mother in law take either of my kids to the doctor, assuming it wasn't some mystery disease or something that seemed serious. If it seemed like a run-of-the-mill illness, and I absolutely couldn't make it (very unlikely since I stay home), I would be fine with her going. I have seen lots of grandparents at the doctor's office when we've been up there.
My mom I would be totally okay with.
MIL? Not in a million years, but we also won't leave DS alone with her at all, period.
MIL....HELL NO
My mom...yes. And she actually has. The Dr does need a note on file every year stating that I'm consenting to my mom taking the girls. It's not all the time, but when DH and I can't take off, she does. But the Dr and I have a pretty close relationship now that if it was anything more serious than just the ears, she would call me right then and there to let me know.
We almost had this scenario today. Olivia brought out in hives, my mom had her, DH was stuck at work without a car (he vanpools), and I had a very 'emergency' issue to settle with a client.
We were screwed. The hives were pretty bad and we were worried about the reaction. Luckily I got my client settled and was able to leave.
My mom didn't have a carseat but now does. I would let her take her or my MIL.
If it was something as simple as an ear check to rule out an EI, I would have no problems letting either my MIL, FIL, or my mom take him. If there was an EI I would most definitely make a FU appt after meds to make sure it was gone and so *I* could talk about it with the doc myself. But if there was absolutely no way either DH or I could go, then it would be fine.
I lucked out in the in law dept though- they are seriously the most amazing people and I often think they might take better care of him than I do.
You may just not realize it. Because my brother is a single parent and my mom does not work, she has taken my niece to probably 98% of all her doctor's appointments in her nearly 16 years.