How do you ladies do it?

utilaprincess01 · May 2011

How in the world do you keep yourself from testing AND not go insane? This is my first month TTC, so I?m sure I?ll learn patience along the way, but I haven?t learned it yet! I?m 12 DPO and promised my hubby that I?d wait until Thursday to POAS (I snuck one in at 9 DPO and got a stark white BFN)?but I can?t stop thinking about it. I?m having all kinds of baby/BFP dreams and every little thing that my body does is a new ?sign.? Even though I?m swamped with enough work to keep my mind occupied, it?s not working. All through the day I?m thinking ?you shoulda POAS this morning, you could?ve gotten your BFP and you?d know for sure this is a pregnancy symptom!? lol

So sorry for the rant, I just had to let it out. I think I?ve done pretty good up until now, but the suspense is just torturing me!

Hope all of you ladies are having a wonderful day!!!

chloebeth930 · May 2011

I don't.... that is why I love me some IC!!

SheenaNash1 · May 2011

I don't have an answer to your question, this is my first cycle as well. Sorry! However, I was looking at your chart and it says that you are POAS even during your O and also during AF, is that correct? Maybe I'm seeing things wrong. I was just really curious, if that is true, why you do that? Not trying to be snarky at all, just wondering.

megemoney · May 2011

Good luck waiting! Like I said in another thread you had posted... I hate "wasting" tests! That is what keeps me from testing early!

How was your date with your friends??

MonroesMisfit · May 2011

I look at it like this.... if you keep testing early, you keep getting BFN and it just gets more and more depressing each time, if you wait it out the first time, then you don't have to go through constant disappointment. Just do things that keep your mind off of it, pick up a hobby or something...get out of the house, just try to keep your mind off it and it helps.

utilaprincess01 · May 2011

chloebeth930:
I don't.... that is why I love me some IC!!

I have a ton of those at home!!! I'm trying my hardest not to test yet. Even though I talked myself up when I got the BFN at 9 DPO, I think that I'm one of those TTC'ers that doesn't like seeing too many of those.

mrs_tacos · May 2011

We have HPT's, but I don't know where they are. If I want to test, I have to ask DH. That's how I do it

keiral · May 2011

MonroesMisfit:
I look at it like this.... if you keep testing early, you keep getting BFN and it just gets more and more depressing each time, if you wait it out the first time, then you don't have to go through constant disappointment. Just do things that keep your mind off of it, pick up a hobby or something...get out of the house, just try to keep your mind off it and it helps.

Yes

avee10 · May 2011

I buy the IC so I dont feel bad if I test too early and get a BFN since I have a bunch more in the bathroom cabinet!

utilaprincess01 · May 2011

SheenaNash1:
I don't have an answer to your question, this is my first cycle as well. Sorry! However, I was looking at your chart and it says that you are POAS even during your O and also during AF, is that correct? Maybe I'm seeing things wrong. I was just really curious, if that is true, why you do that? Not trying to be snarky at all, just wondering.

I don't know why I have one listed during AF (I just noticed it after I read your comment), it must have just been an mistake on my part. But the one during O was a major Fail. I'd just bought a pack of CBEOPK's and, of course I didn't notice until after, it came with a digi HPT. I grabbed one of the packs out of the box first thing in the morning and didn't realize that it was an HPT until it said "Not Pregnant!" Yeah...that was a very special moment on my part. lol

utilaprincess01 · May 2011

megemoney:

Good luck waiting! Like I said in another thread you had posted... I hate "wasting" tests! That is what keeps me from testing early!

How was your date with your friends??

Hey Meg! We had a really great time. I let myself have a glass of wine and only felt slightly guilty about it! haha.

How are you feeling?

SheenaNash1 · May 2011

utilaprincess01:

SheenaNash1:
I don't have an answer to your question, this is my first cycle as well. Sorry! However, I was looking at your chart and it says that you are POAS even during your O and also during AF, is that correct? Maybe I'm seeing things wrong. I was just really curious, if that is true, why you do that? Not trying to be snarky at all, just wondering.

I don't know why I have one listed during AF (I just noticed it after I read your comment), it must have just been an mistake on my part. But the one during O was a major Fail. I'd just bought a pack of CBEOPK's and, of course I didn't notice until after, it came with a digi HPT. I grabbed one of the packs out of the box first thing in the morning and didn't realize that it was an HPT until it said "Not Pregnant!" Yeah...that was a very special moment on my part. lol

Lol! Nice.

utilaprincess01 · May 2011

MonroesMisfit:
I look at it like this.... if you keep testing early, you keep getting BFN and it just gets more and more depressing each time, if you wait it out the first time, then you don't have to go through constant disappointment. Just do things that keep your mind off of it, pick up a hobby or something...get out of the house, just try to keep your mind off it and it helps.

Monroe, I completely agree. I tested at 9 DPO and, even though I knew that the chances of getting a positive were VERY slim at that point, it was a little disappointing to see. That's why I'm trying to wait a little longer before I test again.

Thanks for all your replies, Ladies!!!

megemoney · May 2011

utilaprincess01:
megemoney:

Good luck waiting! Like I said in another thread you had posted... I hate "wasting" tests! That is what keeps me from testing early!

How was your date with your friends??

Hey Meg! We had a really great time. I let myself have a glass of wine and only felt slightly guilty about it! haha.

How are you feeling?

I am glad to hear you had a good time and only felt a little guilty for the wine. Wink I got a + OPK this morning and feeling a little crampy today... so who knows. We will have to see when that shift in temp happens. I have a wedding to attend this weekend, so I will be drinking very lightly as well. If I O today, I will only be 4DPO on Saturday so that is not bad!

utilaprincess01 · May 2011

megemoney:
utilaprincess01:
megemoney:

Good luck waiting! Like I said in another thread you had posted... I hate "wasting" tests! That is what keeps me from testing early!

How was your date with your friends??

Hey Meg! We had a really great time. I let myself have a glass of wine and only felt slightly guilty about it! haha.

How are you feeling?

I am glad to hear you had a good time and only felt a little guilty for the wine. I got a + OPK this morning and feeling a little crampy today... so who knows. We will have to see when that shift in temp happens. I have a wedding to attend this weekend, so I will be drinking very lightly as well. If I O today, I will only be 4DPO on Saturday so that is not bad!

YAY for +OPK's...that's so exciting!!!! 4DPO is not bad at all, hope you have a great time at the wedding!! Smile

Moneypenny424 · May 2011

Hi ladies, I'm new here, but was glad to see this. We will start TTC this month and I already know I will have this problem. I'm a planner and not so good at waiting Smile . Thanks, PP, who mentioned that waiting may help repeated feelings of disappointment, which I can definitely appreciate.

I wish all of you the best of luck!

utilaprincess01 · May 2011

Moneypenny424:

Hi ladies, I'm new here, but was glad to see this. We will start TTC this month and I already know I will have this problem. I'm a planner and not so good at waiting . Thanks, PP, who mentioned that waiting may help repeated feelings of disappointment, which I can definitely appreciate.

I wish all of you the best of luck!

Hi, Money! Welcome to the board!!! I was so proud of myself up until yesterday, when the POAS urge hit me! lol

Wish you the best in TTC. This is a wonderful place with tons of priceless information.

megemoney · May 2011

utilaprincess01:
YAY for +OPK's...that's so exciting!!!! 4DPO is not bad at all, hope you have a great time at the wedding!!

Thank you I will! I will get to see my best friends and a hand full of my sorority sisters. I am really looking forward to it!

vpine · May 2011

My first cycle, I was almost sure I was pregnant, I was late for the 1st time ever and even went to gyno for blood test but it was BFN. I got my period 2 days later and the 'phantom symptoms' disappeared. Then it really hit me when I started reading online and rented all the pregnancy related books at local library, the fact that there's only a 20% chance of conceiving each month was shocking to me.

So now I read, shop and try to keep mind occupied during the wait to test.

lstewa00 · May 2011

utilaprincess01:
chloebeth930:
I don't.... that is why I love me some IC!!
I have a ton of those at home!!! I'm trying my hardest not to test yet. Even though I talked myself up when I got the BFN at 9 DPO, I think that I'm one of those TTC'ers that doesn't like seeing too many of those.

I'm the same way. For some reason I'm not as disheartened when I get AF as I am when I get a BFN.

Good luck either way!

rsrs807 · May 2011

I dont do it as soon as I wake up, and then I think, "oh, I should really wait and use FMU so I'll wait until tomorrow."

I also don't buy tests. That's the surest way to make sure I don't test early :-)

erikaja6 · May 2011

MonroesMisfit:
I look at it like this.... if you keep testing early, you keep getting BFN and it just gets more and more depressing each time, if you wait it out the first time, then you don't have to go through constant disappointment. Just do things that keep your mind off of it, pick up a hobby or something...get out of the house, just try to keep your mind off it and it helps.

This.

utilaprincess01 · May 2011

rsrs807:

I dont do it as soon as I wake up, and then I think, "oh, I should really wait and use FMU so I'll wait until tomorrow."

I also don't buy tests. That's the surest way to make sure I don't test early :-)

Oooh! I love this!!!!

[Deleted User] · May 2011

Try thinking of it this way - you're probably not pregnant. If we only have a 20% chance of getting KU each month that means we have an 80% chance of NOT getting KU.

Not trying to be mean, that's just something that helps me from getting my hopes up each month and peeing on everything.

CarolinaGirl82 · May 2011

Well, I start testing on Internet cheapies at about 8/9 DPO and TTC has driven me completely over the edge... so... I guess I'm not the best candidate to answer your question

crogers19 · May 2011

avee10:
I buy the IC so I dont feel bad if I test too early and get a BFN since I have a bunch more in the bathroom cabinet!

this is what i do

jillane513 · May 2011

MonroesMisfit:
I look at it like this.... if you keep testing early, you keep getting BFN and it just gets more and more depressing each time, if you wait it out the first time, then you don't have to go through constant disappointment. Just do things that keep your mind off of it, pick up a hobby or something...get out of the house, just try to keep your mind off it and it helps.

I'm the same way, I never want to test till after AF is late because I can't stand the disappointment. However DH encourages me to test every day and brings home tests from the hospital where he works, he's a bad influence.

brachatzipora · May 2011

The only way I manage to wait is to not have any tests in the house! I have one digital but I KNOW I'll only use it for second or third BFP. So, since I have no willpower otherwise, I just don't have them around until the day AF is due!

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