I think I'm going to buy something out of anger at DH

Re: I think I'm going to buy something out of anger at DH

• mrsbmw09

  May 2011

  Are you serious!? What a douche bag he's being about this! Does he not realize that by you bfing he does less work? I just don't understand why he has to make fun of you and treat you like you're stupid for trying to do what's best for your child. I am so sorry that you have to deal with this. I really think you need to talk this out with a mediator, someone who can back up your reasons for wanting to bf. Or as immature as this sounds, why don't you just pack up your stuff and LO's and go stay with someone else for a few days. I wouldn't even talk to him while you're gone.

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• amy259 member

  May 2011

  I would STRANGLE my husband if he did this to me. He's just being stupid, try to ignore it and enjoy the time with your LO. Go out and buy her some things and something for yourself, and tell your H to grow up! Or tell him how much formula costs for a month let alone a year or more and see if he changes his tune then. My DH is soooo not helpful if that makes you feel any better like doesn't help too much with the baby,puts her down when she's crying and does nothing in the house.

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• nici84 member

  May 2011

  My DBF makes jokes too or well he did until he seen me crying at how fustrated I was one day when LO just wasnt cooperating with latching on. So him and I sat down (or well more like laid in bed since we were getting ready for bed) and I told him how I felt about the cow jokes and at him making a really bad rude joke at me leaking or something. 

  He still cracks jokes but they are not the mean ones anymore. And for the most part he only makes them when they either make sense or when he can see Im at the brink of crying and could probably use a joke. Especially since our LO is colicky and Im usually tired, cranky and on the edge of going crazy from the crying and the terrible 2s being in full swing with our toddler.

  I just think men dont get it, how when pregnant we had all these hormones and now its completely different, and its upsetting when we are having a hard time with breastfeeding, be it leaking, latching, or being spit up on. I was lucky it only took DBF seeing me cry to get the hint, some men are just more oblivious.  

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• JessesGirl&MackenziesMom member

  May 2011

  Thanks for the responses. I probably should have said this in the OP, but DH is actually good WITH mackenzie- soothing her, cuddling, giving her bottles of BM, changing outfits. So he's not a total fail.

  I think I'm going to try to talk to him again on Friday. He works looong hours, but has a three day weekend this weekend, so he should be less tired and in a better mood Friday night. I am really starting to think that it's more of him being immature than mean, but it's just a topic I can't go there with. I can joke about plenty of things, but he's not hearing me on the "let's not joke about this".

  LO is getting a bathing suit, sunglasses, and a cover up in the mail soon!

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