Husband

altobin · May 2011

I am a little irritated with my husband today. I thought husbands usually pampered their pregnant wives, but I must be the unlucky one, because my husband seems to expect me to do more. We moved in October and I became pregnant in November. I am staying home, I am going to be a stay at home mom. This morning I found trash left out and pizza crumbs all over the top of the stove. I asked him to clean it up and he reacted like it was the end of the world. He said to me "I don't see why it matters, you are basically a housewife." Ok, Yes I am but I am not your maid. Is it really too much to ask that you clean up your own trash?? It really hurt my feelings that he said it, and we have barely spoken all day. How can he be so insensitive? I do a lot around the house, I clean and do dishes and laundry and whatever else needs to be done. I don't bother him when he is working from home and I hardly ask him to do anything for me, but the one time I complain about his leaving trash out he flips! I would try to explain how I feel but he doesn't ever understand nor does he try to. Ok, I had to get that off my chest, I feel a little better now!

andiandlou · May 2011

So sorry your DH is acting like that. Sometimes they don't realize how much SAHMs really do. Maybe you can wait until he's in a better mood and try to talk to him about how he made you feel with that comment. Good luck ((((hugs)))))

marleysmom · May 2011

Ugh. I swear my husband was way more whiney during my last pregnancy than I was. I don't blame you for being upset. SAHW or not, there's no reason he can't clean up after himself like an adult. Do you think he is in some way resentful that you SAH and don't work outside the home? I agree with you that he needs to realize that SAH does not mean that you're his maid; better to clear it up now before the baby comes - no advice on how to have that conversation though

Good luck!

thethomps · May 2011

marleysmom:
Ugh. I swear my husband was way more whiney during my last pregnancy than I was. I don't blame you for being upset. SAHW or not, there's no reason he can't clean up after himself like an adult. Do you think he is in some way resentful that you SAH and don't work outside the home? I agree with you that he needs to realize that SAH does not mean that you're his maid; better to clear it up now before the baby comes - no advice on how to have that conversation though Good luck!

Like PP said, sorry you're going through this. SAH definitely =/= maid. But maybe your husband is seeing it differently? I agree with marleysmom that it's a conversation that should be had now, if you can. Babies (and all those hormones) have a way of adding a lot more stress, so hopefully you can find a time to talk and express your feelings sooner rather than later.

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