Does anyone else STILL fight with their mother?

Kimmy9j · April 2011

The argument is aside the point.

But she can still tick me off faster than anyone else, my brother and I are the only ones who see her this way ofcourse.

Oh LO I promise to try and not make you crazt, but I probably will

sharonstevens85 · April 2011

Oh yeah, my mom can still tick me off pretty bad. I've learned to not take what she says to heart. She is the queen of stupid comments- now I just shake my head and walk off because she can't take it if you dish it back.

aesf · April 2011

rarely. I just remember when i dont like what she says i can shut the door to my home and ignore her.

but we used to fight all the time. it took me a long time to realize her opinions and comments dont matter if i dont want them too.

Kimmy9j · April 2011

sharonstevens85:
Oh yeah, my mom can still tick me off pretty bad. I've learned to not take what she says to heart. She is the queen of stupid comments- now I just shake my head and walk off because she can't take it if you dish it back.

Yes no matter what act she pulls, she always ends up playing the victim. I need to learn not to engage

mhtepa · April 2011

everyday...sigh

not fights just arguments and disagreements..

katie4253 · April 2011

No, I think we had our last major fight when I was 24-25ish. She really pissed me off the way she was handling my brother. It was the last blow out we had. I can't really see us having another one.

Kimmy9j · April 2011

mhtepa:
everyday...sigh
not fights just arguments and disagreements..

So glad to hear we're not the only ones who bicker

yellowbirdandco · April 2011

I'm the oldest of five girls, so I'm both my mother's favourite and her LEAST favourite. She has never approved of me, even though we're just alike.

I don't think we'll ever stop fighting. It's hard to find a balance between fighting all the time and having no relationship whatsoever.

I often worry if I'll have the same kind of relationship with my child. I hope not, that would be so sad.

colorschemer · April 2011

My mom has a huge heart but she obsesses. If she wants to talk about, say, what we're naming LO and I don't want to talk about it I actually have to hang up on her.

I start out trying to change the subject, then say Mom, I do not want to talk about this right now then go to Mom, we are not talking about this right now and give it a final Mom, if you really want to talk about this right now, you need to go talk to the dog before giving up and hanging up on her.

I don't really get mad at her about it, just annoyed.

It doesn't matter what it is, she gets set on something and won't leave it alone. Once I recognized that in myself I started working SOOO friggin' hard to train myself to left things go because it is annoying at best and destructive at worse.

The funny thing is that the only thing that she does now that REALLY bother me is makes comments about my sister. My sister and I didn't get along for years. We really, really hated each other.

Then she came out of the closet. So Sister's never been happier, I get along with her great because she's not an angry self-loathing person anymore and my mom acts like she's okay with the whole thing while making the most horrible passive-aggressive things about my sister (without actually admitting what her real problem is). Very healthy.

Kimmy9j · April 2011

colorschemer:
My mom has a huge heart but she obsesses. If she wants to talk about, say, what we're naming LO and I don't want to talk about it I actually have to hang up on her.

I start out trying to change the subject, then say Mom, I do not want to talk about this right now then go to Mom, we are not talking about this right now and give it a final Mom, if you really want to talk about this right now, you need to go talk to the dog before giving up and hanging up on her.

I don't really get mad at her about it, just annoyed.

It doesn't matter what it is, she gets set on something and won't leave it alone. Once I recognized that in myself I started working SOOO friggin' hard to train myself to left things go because it is annoying at best and destructive at worse.

The funny thing is that the only thing that she does now that REALLY bother me is makes comments about my sister. My sister and I didn't get along for years. We really, really hated each other.

Then she came out of the closet. So Sister's never been happier, I get along with her great because she's not an angry self-loathing person anymore and my mom acts like she's okay with the whole thing while making the most horrible passive-aggressive things about my sister (without actually admitting what her real problem is). Very healthy.

My mom's weapon of choice is also passive agressive-ness

Five_letter · April 2011

We can bicker and p!ss each other off, but it's never an all out fight like it used to be. We both have the ability to get in our cars and go to our own home and ignore each other for a couple days. That always helps.

morsecodejo · April 2011

On every phone call, and at every visit, yes! She is the queen of pointing out everyone else's faults (but of course, can't handle someone doing it to her) She has never had any confidence in me, always tells me I won't be any good at (whatever idea I have). She's in a constant state of panic over everything, and I don't handle stress well, so she basically stresses me out just talking to her.

Lately her new thing is to call and if I don't answer she flips out calling my cell phone, my husband, friends, looking for me. When she gets a hold of me she frantically asks if I'm ok...The other day she did this and I was just in the shower....

I know she means well, but my GOD I can't stand her in large doses! Even small doses are trying.

The other night my husband made me laugh, he came in the living room after I got off the phone with my dad, and said "I can always tell when you're talking to your dad...you are calm and there is no yelling!" ((it's so true))

The worst part is, next week I'm supposed to be going to my mom's for a week visit (she lives 3-4 hrs from me, and my hospital), I don't want to, and I've tried to get out of it, but she is relentless about this visit. I'm trying one last effort to get out of it when I see my OB this week. I hope she will tell me it's not good to be around all that stress and so far from my hospital.

ladymcp · April 2011

yellowbirdandco:
I'm the oldest of five girls, so I'm both my mother's favourite and her LEAST favourite. She has never approved of me, even though we're just alike.
I don't think we'll ever stop fighting. It's hard to find a balance between fighting all the time and having no relationship whatsoever.
I often worry if I'll have the same kind of relationship with my child. I hope not, that would be so sad.

I am the oldest as well, we are a like in some ways a lot of ways we differ now. We have no relationship at all now. The BEST part is that I took the best of my mother's parenting and have an amazing relationship with my 7 year old. I don't yell, or guilt my child like my mother and it wasn't has hard as I thought it would be.

yellowbirdandco · May 2011

ladymcp:
yellowbirdandco:
I'm the oldest of five girls, so I'm both my mother's favourite and her LEAST favourite. She has never approved of me, even though we're just alike.
I don't think we'll ever stop fighting. It's hard to find a balance between fighting all the time and having no relationship whatsoever.
I often worry if I'll have the same kind of relationship with my child. I hope not, that would be so sad.
I am the oldest as well, we are a like in some ways a lot of ways we differ now. We have no relationship at all now. The BEST part is that I took the best of my mother's parenting and have an amazing relationship with my 7 year old. I don't yell, or guilt my child like my mother and it wasn't has hard as I thought it would be.

That's really comforting to hear. It's nice to think that I could break the cycle, so to speak.

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