Does nobody RSVP for things anymore?

HappyKlamb10 · April 2011

Grrrr. The RSVP deadline for my shower is tomorrow. My mom just sent me a list of names for who didn't RSVP yet (she needs me to send her their phone #s so she can call them after tomorrow). It's over half the guest list! That kind of annoys me, especially since I am always so careful to RSVP promptly to anything I'm invited to.

Anyone else in a similar situation?

JennV514 · April 2011

No one RSVP's. Unfortunately it's taken me a long time to realize that. I have had many parties where not one person had the decency to call me and tell me if they were coming or not. One of my BIGGEST pet peeves, and really gets me riled up. My mom called me this morning as a matter of fact to tell me that out of the 48 people she invited to my shower- 12 had rsvp'd. 12. So now I have to scrounge around for her and get phone numbers so she can call all these rude people and ask if they're coming or not. Same exact thing happened for my bridal shower. If I had to deal with this at my wedding I would have LOST it, luckily we got married in the Caribbean.

Anyway- I understand what you're going though, and I'm sorry. I will never understand why it is hard for some people to make a simple phone call saying either- "See you there', or "Sorry, I can't make it".

katie4253 · April 2011

Auburnt:
Yep! There are a handful of people who still haven't RSVP'd. I've just told my mom and sister that anyone who hasn't RSVP'd by now isn't going to be counted as coming...it's in a week so they should all know by now!

While it is nice that you said this, I hope they have enough food for the people who just show up. Nothing is worse than RSVPing and then the person only planning for the amount of food of the RSVP list. Then they run out...

Firefly9 · April 2011

Yup--I've got one on Tuesday. It's just a small dinner, but over half the people invited haven't RSVPed one way or another... If it's the 5 of us who have RSVP'ed, we don't need a reservation, if the other 8 show up, we will. I'm sure my friend hosting this for me would appreciate having the rest of the people let her know if they are coming or not!

ajmasl · April 2011

My mom's sending out my invites for my early june baby shower and I'm anticipating this same problem so I'm already preparing myself for the frustration.

mytwobabies · April 2011

Happens to me for EVERYTHING! I'm always having to call people and find out. I think it is obnoxious. I always RSVP no matter what

Arwen31 · April 2011

A big pet peeve of mine too! I just don't understand it. I got into the habit of always RSVPing early, since the first person to RSVP at a bridal shower I was at once won a prize! lol! Anyway, I've gotten a lot of e-vites lately and noticed that they have "maybe" as a response. I don't get that either. It just gives people a chance to be wishy-washy.

Meg&Pete · April 2011

Yes- my RSVP is also tomorrow and almost 20 people still haven't RSVP'd. It seems so rude to me!

rab41380 · April 2011

We are in the same boat. I have had to ask people, which I hate doing. My other friend had the same problem, and she had to order in advance. We also are doing ours at a restaurant so we have to have a count..

abell77 · April 2011

Yes, it's so irritating. This happened for our wedding, bridal showers, baby showers, baptism, our annual summer bbq. People are rude.

Lindsay&Eric · May 2011

Our shower is the 14th...so we still have a little bit of time yet, but unfortunately, there isn't an RSVP by date on our shower invites...it was a mistake. But so far, NOONE has called...we invited over 40 people. We did get a few confirmations at Easter dinner, but other than that, we have no idea! It's sad really!

aesf · May 2011

im a big fan of RSVP regrets only.

DHYGchica3 · May 2011

My mom had our RSVP deadline as April 15th, and she just got an RSVP as of yesterday and my shower is today. I'm sure there will be people who just show up and didn't RSVP.

Maybe you should just do "Regrets only" RSVP from now on.

HappyKlamb10 · May 2011

I'm glad I'm not the only one dealing with this then. It drives me crazy too because my mom listed her phone # AND email address...how lazy do you have to be to not send an email?? Sigh.

I like the "regrets only" idea, I'll have to keep that in mind down the road.

hcdekarske · May 2011

I deal with this on a daily basis. I work in Marketing and we have tons of events and seminars, things you have to RSVP for, and people never do and then show up and wonder why we don't have their CLE credits ready or enough binders or a name tag. UGH!!

And see that it translate to private life as well...RSVPing is a courtesy, like saying please and thank you, why are people so rude?? People have issue with saying please and thank you and holding the door and using manners, so I guess it shouldn't be surprising, huh?

mama mand · May 2011

This is a huge pet peeve of mine and I truly believe that no one knows what RSVP means. I am not having a shower since this is my 3rd, but my son is making his First Holy Communion and we are having a party afterward. It is being catered and I need to know an approximate number of people so I listed an RSVP date, but hardly anyone replied and I've had to track a lot of them down. Most of them are coming, but I guess they didn't feel the need to RSVP. It drives me nuts!

MrsCase1 · May 2011

yes and to add insult to injury, some people didnt receive their invites so i cant decipher who is being rude and who assumed they were excluded. my girlfriend paid a small fortune fro custom-printed invites and another small fortune for the company to mail them on her behalf so they'd go out quickly, only for this massive debacle to go down.

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