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Jennis22
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Whose last name does/do your child/children have?
Jennis22
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When I thought that FI were going to get married in July I gave LO his last name since mine would be the same soon enough. Now that those plans are down the drain, I'm thinking of changing LO's last name to mine. If I do that, does it excuse FI from child support (of course I will get a legal opinion... I'm just collecting ideas right now).
Did anyone else give LO their name?
ETA: Edited for grammar!
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Re: Whose last name does/do your child/children have?
No, it won't excuse him from child support. But if he has any custody of your child, he can say no to the name change.
My children (and I) all have my ex-husbands name. Eventually, I will remarry and take on my spouse's name. My children will have their father's name.
My daughter has my last name. I knew from the moment I found out I was pregnant with her that there was no way she was getting his last name. He was upset but who cares. Now since he isnt doing anything, I know that I have made the right decision. It does not excuse him from child support whatsoever.
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I guess I should add that I plan on filing for sole legal custody before the name change so he'll end up not having a say in the matter.
@Cantdecidethis: The last name is ex-FI's deadbeat father last name. He's never met the man. I don't feel an obligation to keep it going, if you KWIM! Actually I'm my father's only child and feel more strongly about continuing my father's name.
Jake has his father's last name. I'm not going to try and change it. Mainly because my ex will never go for it, and also because I have two last names and it's really long.
I really wish I had known what I know now. LO would have gotten my last name. I guess hindsight is 20/20!
I had the same situation. He didn't show up. He was out of state with one of his other kids so I guess she wasnt that important to him. He has been MIA the majority of the time and I am just now getting started to get any type of support from him.
My ex has 2 other kids and one was from a one night stand. He was there at the hospital for that girl but not me and we had been in a relationship for quite awhile. It's pretty sad.
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This is what I'm doing. I made the mistake of giving LO her father's last name, and I hate it. He isn't involved in her life, by my choice, and I really wish she had my last name. I regret it soooo much. I am really hoping that I will be able to change it or at least hyphenate it when the judgement is complete.
DD still legally has Ex-H's last name, but it is in our separation agreement that I will go back to my maiden name and she will have my name too. So it will happen after the divorce is finalized. For all intents and purposes, it is already changed- she is just starting to learn her last name, and I don't want it to be confusing to her, so we are already calling her by my maiden name.
For me, it was a BIG deal to me to change my name when we got married b/c I am very close to my family, and have never been a big fan of his family. Now that he has turned into a huge douchebag and followed in his father's footsteps, I want nothing to do with that name, and I don't want my daughter to have it either.