Sex- any tips?

skylooo · April 2011

For those of you who are successfully doing the deed into your 3rd trimester- do you have any tips for overcoming awkwardness, discomfort, self-consciousness?

Bunniehug · April 2011

Lube. A lot of it.

Honestly, sex is painful for me lately, so we really don't do it very often, only when I feel very, very bad for DH for never getting any.

gkkal10 · April 2011

I just keep in mind how he has needs and how has jumped up and taken responsibility for all of the household chores with no compliants. Even on the days that I want to take on something, he tells me to just relax and he will take care of whatever it is! He has been absolutely amazing. He never complains about never having sex enough even though I know he would probably like it more than I give in. But I do have to add, it is amazing when we do it, 100 times more sensitive and great!!

frogyie · April 2011

It is really uncomfortable for me (like an Indian burn/sandpaper). Lube helps but I have to start really slow. I am usually on top cuz DH likes the view and I can control the motion of the ocean. We still only do it once every couple of weeks.

ksulli · April 2011

Apparently I'm the only one in my boat- I feel bad for me! DH has no interest since the BFP. First tri we were too scared (m/c last time- I know it won't cause it, but less anything going on down there seemed better), 2nd tri DH was sick a lot of the time and afraid to give it to me, and now between my belly having a literal life of it's own, and DH feeling gross from a little sympathy weight, we'll get through this pregnancy with only new years eve sex. I miss it! As for comfort tips- doggy style, keeps your belly out of the way, and laying on your back for too long is no good either.

tawillers · April 2011

For me, it's the positioning that's key. A position that works for me one day may not work the next, so we just try everything in our arsenal until we get a position that is comfortable for me and feels good.

maiken1027 · April 2011

I want it more than DH does!! Oral helps, that gets me wet so if he wants to finish with penetration it does not hurt. Doggie style has been the best so far, but I think I'm going to try something different tonight, perhaps with him sitting and me straddling him. It's starting to get too routine :-P

mrs.conananan · April 2011

Women superior has been our go to. But, I am self conscious about my body, so lights out has been key! But DH spend the entire time telling me how beautiful I am, so that helps. Stick out tongue

BabyCakes87 · April 2011

Doggy, lube, and lights out! I feel bad because this is all we do, but it's all I'm comfortable with. I told DH things can go back to wild after the baby comes, but there's just nothing else that's comfortable for me, and if I'm not enjoying it, he doesn't either cos he feels bad for me. So for now we deal with routine.

mytwobabies · April 2011

We arent even having sex anymore at this point, it is so painful for me. I do my best to fulfil DF's needs without having sex and he appreciates anything he can get.

nicoledyoung7 · April 2011

Sex? What is that? DH hasn't shown a desire for months

MilMom2B · April 2011

I don't have the dryness issue so lube, while on standby, has not been entirely necessary. I do find that I'm in the mood less often than he is, but him heading down there for some oral usually kick starts my libido some. Also, if I'm wanting it to be quick as can be, I find that giving him some oral first and getting him most of the way there before actual sex does the trick for keeping things quick (plus the spit acts as lube, so yay).

As far as self consciousness, I turn off the main light in the room, but a side lamp or the light in the bathroom being on is okay. This way he still gets his visual, but I feel less on display.

Comfort - it's all about positions. I know they say woman on top is great for during pregnancy, but quite frankly, it hurts my hips. Sometimes I can lay on my side (with pillows piled around) and he can do the work from that angle. Or I'll do a somewhat modified doggy style (again pillows to rest and prop on). Occasionally I'll lay on my back (just with my upper body propped slightly on pillows). Hmmm I guess my tip for you would be pillows! lol

Awkwardness ... well, it's a little awkward when we have to change positions part way through because I lumber about not so gracefully, but it's okay. He loves me even if I am a bit clumsy looking.

O:)

tchubirubi · May 2011

I don't know, we just do it as we always have (only my orgasms are so much stronger), although when on missionary he can't lay on top of me (obviously) and to do it from behind but lying down, not doggy style, I have found a nice new way: I get my snoogle and I overlap its edges, creating a circle into which I fit my bump! Works like a charm... don't know for how much longer though, maybe it will grow unconfortable later on as my bump gets bigger. So that is a good tip, because that position is really nice - you lie facing down with your legs closed and H will have his legs open around yours (in a semi-kneeling or kneeling position). Because of the overlap, your butt will be tilted upwards, making penetration easier. It is good to start off in another position, for lubrication purposes.

Also, if you like it on top, try it on a stool, or a chair, or the corner of the bed. It will make it easier on your knees.

Now, if you are feeling unsexy, it is more of a mood problem. I'd suggest porn. If you don't like porn - or would like a change anyway, you could both write erotic little tales (or very graphic descriptions of a sexual acts, maybe with all the dirty words you like - if you like them) and read it for stimulus. If you are super horny, that usually helps with the self-consciousness... You could get masks too. Seems silly but sometimes it is all it takes. Try it, you may be surprised.

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