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susanmosley
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Please weigh in - MIL related
susanmosley
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Beside annoying me, MIL is a good grandma. She is good w/ DD. DD enjoys her. She is in town. We went out tonight & she is babysitting. I sent a check in text at 8:55 - no reply yet (an hour & half later). Texted & called a half hour ago - no answer, no reply. In my heart, I know DD is probably cozy in bed & she is watching TV - phone in other room. BUT I am livid. I'm not cool w/ babysitter being totally out of pocket & unavailable. Am I being crazy or should the lady w/ my kid be accessible via phone?
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Re: Please weigh in - MIL related
Not crazy.
If she's good with your DD, then I agree with the others, she probably just doesn't have her phone on her and is probably of the mindset that she'll call if there's a problem so no call = no problem in her mind.
Do you have a land-line you could call that she might pick up?
When my mom watches my boys, she's so focused on them that she doesn't always hear her phone so I could understand how that could happen. However, I would nicely mention being a little worried when you couldn't get a hold of her. Then, if she watches her again, remind her when you're leaving
Big E (6) & Little E (2.5)
I would be pissed.
Are there other phones you can call - like a home phone? If not, then I'd be annoyed.
IMO, she's not a babysitter - she's Grandma. I wouldn't at all be cool with a paid babysitter not being aware of having a phone around. For me, Grandma would get a pass and I'd casually mention when I got home that I like checking in and next time would she mind keeping it handy.
DD - February 2011
Do you have a home phone? I know personally I dont carry my cell phone around the house, even when babysitting. If I hear it ring I'll certainly pick up, but many times if I'm in another room I wont hear it ring.
If you have a home phone to call, she should def. pick up - most times you can hear a home phone throughout the house - but I personally wouldn't expect her to carry her cell around the whole time - she most likely has her hands full with the baby
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Hey guess what - she did it again the 2nd night.
Saturday, after we returned from our Friday night outing, we lightly brought it up - I took all the blame, that I am over protective and anxious - we all laughed about it and thought the problem was solved. Before we went out Saturday, she joked that I would be texting every 20 minutes and she wouldn't hear it because she would be in the other room watching TV. HAHA - how funny (not really).
So at 9:45 I sent a text, making sure all was well. ** I am sure people think I am crazy here - I am not worried about things if all is going as planned. I am worried about something weird happening - MIL has some fainting/health spells and I worry about her having an accident and needing help and not having her phone and 2 y/o DD not being able to help.*** And no reply. 45 minutes later, she finally texts, "Sorry. I was busy trying to take care of a 2 year old" - Mind you the text I sent was (on purpose) over an hour after that 2 year old went to bed.
Luckily for me, she flew home today and we didn't hash it over again. I just think it is disrespectful. She can feed my kid crap, keep her up late, do special grandma crap, but PLEASE be available to reply to a simple text once DD is in bed and you are sitting in the living room watching TV. It isn't that hard.