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Gray slacks appropriate for a funeral?

colorschemercolorschemer member
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DH comes home today and tells me that one of his coworkers (I'd only met him once) who had become ill and taken early retirement a few months back has passed away.

 

I've been involved in end of life care for a few years. I have funeral clothes. I always thought that looking put together in an understated way was the respectful way to show up. The problem is that I don't have any maternity funeral clothes. What I have in the way of maternity clothes that might be appropriate are a pair of gray slacks and a black empire waist top with short sleeves.

 

Is this okay for the viewing or should I run by Maternity Motherhood on the way and hope they have something that will work? I always thought it was important to look proper at a funeral (hey, when you deal with death so much you get very concerned about the few parts of it you can actually control, like what to wear to funerals) and I'm not sure if what I have is proper.

 

Thoughts?

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Re: Gray slacks appropriate for a funeral?

  • denalldenall member
    I think its very appropriate. Gray and black is perfect together. As long as it isn't jeans. And even then, if you were desperate enough and had only nice dressy jeans (trouser cut, dark color) I don't think anyone would fault you if thats all you had. 
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  • skidunksskidunks member
    I think gray pants are just fine.
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  • kewltifkewltif member
    I think that is more than appropriate. I wore something similar to a funeral earlier this year. I wasn't going to go out and buy a black dress for the occasion.
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  • Swimfly35Swimfly35
    I agree. Gray and black is fine. As long as you are respectfully put together, you'll be appropriately dressed. I wore black pants and a gray shirt to my uncle's funeral, you'd just be doing the opposite.
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  • colorschemercolorschemer member
    Thanks everyone. I feel a little better. I couldn't imagine looking at someone else wearing this and thinking twice about it, but it's a departure from my handy suit and polished shoes so it seems weird.
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  • dahansen85dahansen85 member
    I think it's completely fine to wear grey - BUT it might be good to consider the deceased's cultural background.  I went to a funeral this year for a very traditional Roman Catholic person and it was considered completely inappropriate to wear anything other than black. I had to buy some black maternity clothes to make it work.
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  • kacellekacelle member

    imageskidunks:
    I think gray pants are just fine.

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  • ohfourohfour member

    imagedahansen85:
    I think it's completely fine to wear grey - BUT it might be good to consider the deceased's cultural background.  I went to a funeral this year for a very traditional Roman Catholic person and it was considered completely inappropriate to wear anything other than black. I had to buy some black maternity clothes to make it work.

    That's weird. We're Roman Catholic and people don't always wear all black to funerals. I think of wearing more somber colors, but unless someone shows up in a bright pink summer dress, no one would bat an eye. 

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  • shortstuff15shortstuff15 member
    I've even worn jeans to a funeral.  All of the funerals I have been to though have been more celebrations of life, so even people dressed in colors (and I have seen bright spring like colors and I think I wore purple to my sister-in-laws funeral and my husband wore jeans) are ok at funerals I have been at.  I honestly think that unless it's a strict cultural thing, it's ok to wear something other then black to a funeral.

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