Baby shower

Poola24 · April 2011

My sister and I are due 4 weeks apart, because we have the same group of core friends and obviously the same family, we wanted to have a joint shower. Is this tacky??

mandyhall2882 · April 2011

I kinda think that's a cool idea! Yes

mypreciouscargos · April 2011

I think it's sweet to do together. My sister and I are close too and if we were preggo at the same time, I'd do it!

rhubarb123 · April 2011

I've gone to a couple of showers that did this (sisters). Personally I wasn't a fan. Course their were many people there that barely knew the other sister (for instance, the sister's husband's family). It was really kind of awkward for a lot of the guests...at least it looked like it to me.

Who would be hosting the shower?

abell77 · April 2011

No, I don't think it's tacky at all.

cozylittlecave · April 2011

Definitely not tacky, but it could very possibly be awkward for some. Unless both guest lists overlap almost entirely, you'll have people who don't know each other. There's also the fact guests have to bring 2 gifts instead of one- a particular issue for those who only know one mom-to-be or know one much better than the other. The final issue, is that a lot of people see this as one time you might not want to 'share the spotlight.' Overall though, I think joint showers should be done on a case-by-case basis. For you guys, none of those issues might be a problem.

jennypants · April 2011

I would agree with others that it would be awkward for guests who aren't friends with both of you. Do they bring a gift for both of you or just the one they are friends with? Will they feel obligated to do so even if it isn't expected?

Having said that; my parents were invited to a grad party that was done jointly that had both grads names on the invitation. My brother was separately invited to the party but only by one of the grads (not friends with the other). His invitation was a different version that didn't mention the other graduate sharing the party. You could do something like that. Then in-laws and people who are friends with just one of you wouldn't feel obligated to bring a gift for both of you.

mybobofo · April 2011

The only way it could be tacky is if the invite said that she is hosting for you and you are hosting for her.

danilynn17 · April 2011

Are you married to brothers? If not, you don't have the same family and family friends. It's not really fair to the husbands' extended families who don't know one of the sisters. Why should they have to get two gifts? Asking for gifts from someone you don't know is very tacky. And having to buy 2 gifts at the same time may also be a bit of a financial imposition on some people.

twohniyt · April 2011

I agree with the other posters. Its not tacky, but could be uncomfortable for people who don't know you both or who wouldn't have been invited if it wasn't for the other one. If the shower is just for friends and family of you both then I say go for it, if not then I would do two separate showers. I went to a Bridal shower that had 2 showers in one. I didn't know the other girl and most the people that were there didn't know her either. The shower invite just stated that it was for my friend, not the other girl. So of course I felt bad for not have a gift for the other girl.

EastCoastBride · April 2011

If it's ONLY for the people who know both of you well, go for it. But as others have said, if people will be invited who don't really know the other, dont' do it.

Skibunny07 · April 2011

I think the only way to do this would be if you limited it to just your shared family and your shared friends. Don't invited each others other family (i.e. your DH's family, her DH's family or friends that don't know both of you). I think if I was invited to a joint shower where I only new one of the honorees I would feel really weird and would think twice about going. I wouldn't want to have to buy a gift for someone I didn't know but then also wouldn't want ot come with only one gift.

MelleTX · April 2011

It might be nice for your mother or anotehr family member to throw a joint shower for you and invite your side of the family and shared friends.

The, your respective MILs can throw shows for the DH's side of the family and non-shared friends.

Mommy165 · April 2011

some guests might feel they have to bring gifts for both sisters...that could put people in an awkward position.

vaohara · April 2011

jennypants:
I would agree with others that it would be awkward for guests who aren't friends with both of you. Do they bring a gift for both of you or just the one they are friends with? Will they feel obligated to do so even if it isn't expected?
Having said that; my parents were invited to a grad party that was done jointly that had both grads names on the invitation. My brother was separately invited to the party but only by one of the grads (not friends with the other). His invitation was a different version that didn't mention the other graduate sharing the party. You could do something like that. Then in-laws and people who are friends with just one of you wouldn't feel obligated to bring a gift for both of you.

I like the idea of doing it jointly. As for guests who dont know each other, thats common, Ive never known everyone at a shower. I like the idea of two invites so that no one feels obligated to buy two gifts.

vaohara · April 2011

jennypants:
I would agree with others that it would be awkward for guests who aren't friends with both of you. Do they bring a gift for both of you or just the one they are friends with? Will they feel obligated to do so even if it isn't expected?
Having said that; my parents were invited to a grad party that was done jointly that had both grads names on the invitation. My brother was separately invited to the party but only by one of the grads (not friends with the other). His invitation was a different version that didn't mention the other graduate sharing the party. You could do something like that. Then in-laws and people who are friends with just one of you wouldn't feel obligated to bring a gift for both of you.

I like the idea of doing it jointly. As for guests who dont know each other, thats common, Ive never known everyone at a shower. I like the idea of two invites so that no one feels obligated to buy two gifts.

Poola24 · April 2011

Our mom is planning to host the shower. We compared our guestlists and aside from my my co-workers they were identical. Some ladies I work with asked if they could throw me shower so that takes them off my guestlist. My husbands mom is planning to throw me a separate shower, he doesn't have many female family members but his mom wants to throw us a shower with all her friends. (Strange to me but she did the same thing with our wedding)

Poola24 · April 2011

As for my sister's husband's family, I've known them for ever 10 yrs so his mom and sister were on both guest lists. My husband's mom also knows my family.

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