stuck at home (a bit of a vent)

chinadoll531 · April 2011

tonight was DH's good friend's birthday party. they had it at out cafe. DH went, but i had to stay home with LO. well, he just got home and has been telling me all about it. He had a really great time. I'm glad... but it makes me a little sad. I wish I could have gone. Everytime they do something like this I get stuck at home with the baby. so far I've missed 1 open mic night, 2 bluegrass nights, 2 concerts, 1 evening of Ice Cream and Cake, and now a great birthday party... and plenty more to come, I'm sure... sorry I'm complaining. just having a rough night... DH's mom is the one who usually would watch her, but not this late at night. and things are usually too short of notice for anyone else to watch her... so, DH gets to go and have un with all of our friends while I sit at home with a baby on my boob while watching the news...

green bean · April 2011

That's no fun. But why dident you take your lo if the party was at a cafe? I would have taken two cars if you have more then one and just gone home earlier if your lo was fussy.

chinadoll531 · April 2011

theorheticly it's a great plan, and it's even OUR cafe, but LO was awake when they left and for some reason i can't get her to sleep there (unless she was already asleep), so she would have been really fussy for 4 hours and I would have been stuck in the employee lounge listening to the party from a distance. we only have the one car, so coming late isn't really an option either...

ashley542 · April 2011

Its not fair for you to have to stay home all the time while your dh goes out and haves fun. Maybe yall can each have one night of every week where one goes out and the other stays home

mrs_b_2007 · April 2011

Why is your husband going out & leaving you home alone with a new baby? My Dh would simply explain to our friends that sorry, we've just had a baby and can't make it. IMO being home with you is more important than a social outing with friends.

OctGirl80 · April 2011

We've been in this situation too. It sucks. I just remind myself that it won't be forever and there will be more parties down the road. Yeah, it doesn't make me feel better in the moment. You just keep going. Maybe have your own party with LO. Have some ice cream, put on some music and dance in the kitchen. We did this one night and it was nice. Is there a friend or IL who would be able to watch LO later at night? Maybe you could find one now for future situations? During the day my mom or MIL will watch LO, but for late nights, we call DH's niece (22).

As for pp who asked why H is going and not staying home, I'd send DH to his friends birthday without me. If it was just a random party, that would be different, but for a birthday, IMO, he should at least make an appearance and give his good wishes. Besides, I love my DH and he tries but he's still pretty clueless with DD so I'd still be doing most of the work.

shalenap · April 2011

I am in the same boat and bored and annoyed. Sorry, but dh doesn't have to attend every social event in my opinion -- not his opinion mind you. Weekends are supposed to be when I have an extra set of hands to help and I get a bit of a break! He doesn't stay out late and he checks in, but it still annoys me that he even wants to go at all. I won't be venturing out to public parties where people are going to want to play pass the baby until LO has had his immunisations.

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