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I am probably going to start avoiding this board.......

mommymoore2011mommymoore2011
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....Who knew that this was the council of miscarriage elders? No one told me. TTCAL seems to have less idiots magnetically attracted to it.  Currently pregnant people AT THE LEAST should go the away.
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Re: I am probably going to start avoiding this board.......

  • sedge1sedge1 member

    imagemommymoore2011:
    Currently pregnant people AT THE LEAST should go the away.

    I agree with you. I don't want to leave this board because I've found it very therapeutic, but I'm tired of currently pregnant people showing up here, most of which have never suffered a loss.

    I never understood how painful a m/c can be until it happened to me. I don't think anyone can truly relate unless they have also suffered a m/c or loss.

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  • LaTi07LaTi07 member

    I agree ladies. I do give some credit to the people who are asking what to say to their friend/family member who have suffered a loss. I only do that because I WISH someone would have done that before speaking to me.

    I get beyond frustrated with the "OMG, I spotted, am I Miscarrying?!" Yes, please ask here because losing my child has given me the ability to diagnose pregnancy loss via message board post.


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  • npilcher506npilcher506
    I hear ya. With my first loss it seemed like these posts did not happen nearly as much as they are now. I'm sorry this board isn't as therapeutic as it used to be. I can't imagine what is going through peoples heads.
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  • dawnrob5dawnrob5 member

    nooo dont leave!! we need to stick together! 

    selfish me will miss you. hows that for the italian guilt trip? 

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  • mommymoore2011mommymoore2011
    imagedawnrob5:

    nooo dont leave!! we need to stick together! 

    selfish me will miss you. hows that for the italian guilt trip? 

     

    I know, I don't want to leave! I just want to learn to be nice. Like last night or whatever. I should have thought to say what someone much wiser said "You just made us feel the way you wanted to avoid making your friend feel" but I really don't feel like in a loss board I should be "avoiding posts" I AVOID 99% of this site already. That's just mean to take away this board.

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  • zingylimezingylime

    oh.. please don't leave.. we'll miss your wisdom!  I wish we could get a good sticky or description about what type of board this is and what is appropriate at the top  of the board - appeal to the compassion in people.  In that sticky put a link to an article on what to say to friend or a link to google.. Google will tell you what to say to a friend..

    oopsy.. turned into a vent...

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  • AgWife83AgWife83
    imagezingylime:

    oh.. please don't leave.. we'll miss your wisdom!  I wish we could get a good sticky or description about what type of board this is and what is appropriate at the top  of the board - appeal to the compassion in people.  In that sticky put a link to an article on what to say to friend or a link to google.. Google will tell you what to say to a friend..

    oopsy.. turned into a vent...

    You know, this is a great idea. Maybe we could add an amendment to the "Please read BEFORE you post" thread about what to say to a friend who has had a miscarriage including a link to some helpful support pages.

    I've said several times, it's not the fact that they're asking that bothers me, it's the fact that they're asking women who are actively mourning their loss. IMO, it's no different than asking a woman who has clearly gone through a m/c sitting at the doctor's office. This is a place we come to share our vulnerability, and I feel like the "advice" posts take advantage of that.


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  • jen629jen629 member
    imagezingylime:

    oh.. please don't leave.. we'll miss your wisdom!  I wish we could get a good sticky or description about what type of board this is and what is appropriate at the top  of the board - appeal to the compassion in people.  In that sticky put a link to an article on what to say to friend or a link to google.. Google will tell you what to say to a friend..

    oopsy.. turned into a vent...

    I am trying ladies;)
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  • zingylimezingylime
    I know you are doing your best.. and I sooo appreciate you being our advocate to the Bump Gods!  I keep hoping they will see more voices backing you and the sticky! 
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