What do you think?

KendraJoette · April 2011

What is your honest opinion on registeries for a second baby. I wasnt going to but I have had a lot of people ask me where Im registered lately, and they say with second babies it is helpful to know what is needed.... I just dont know if it is really appropriate or not?? what do you think?

christinaramirez08 · April 2011

Is this baby the same sex as your other child? This is my first, so I don't have first-had experience, but my sister's kids are exactly 18 mos apart and she registered both times. First was a girl, second was a boy. I think it would be helpful to register so people know what you need, especially if it's not the same sex as your first. I know I wouldn't care if my friend registered for her second pregnancy. I don't see the big deal?

brit072206 · April 2011

I think there's a difference between a second registry and a second shower. A second registry, if you're just collecting a list of things you need, seems harmless to me. And if people want to give a gift, it would seem fine to direct them there. A second shower, however, depends on the area/region you are in. In this area, a second shower is considered tacky and greedy. But in your area? I don't know.

mama31 · April 2011

brit072206:
I think there's a difference between a second registry and a second shower. A second registry, if you're just collecting a list of things you need, seems harmless to me. And if people want to give a gift, it would seem fine to direct them there. A second shower, however, depends on the area/region you are in. In this area, a second shower is considered tacky and greedy. But in your area? I don't know.

I agree with most of this. I am registrering this time. Mainly for myself so I know what to get and also to get the 10% completion coupon. I am not having a second shower.

KendraJoette · April 2011

christinaramirez08:

Is this baby the same sex as your other child? This is my first, so I don't have first-had experience, but my sister's kids are exactly 18 mos apart and she registered both times. First was a girl, second was a boy. I think it would be helpful to register so people know what you need, especially if it's not the same sex as your first. I know I wouldn't care if my friend registered for her second pregnancy. I don't see the big deal?

My first is a girl and this one will be a boy so there are a few things we will need, and they are only 16 months, so some stuff that DD is still using too.

christinaramirez08 · April 2011

I don't understand the problem with a second shower. Is it because I'm in SoCal and most people think we're greedy? Every birth, regardless of what number it is for you, is something to celebrate and that's what showers are for.

Why else would someone register if you weren't going to have a shower? I guess I just don't understand this. I would never think someone is greedy unless both kids were the same sex and so close together in age that they wouldn't need new items like an activity gym, swing, bouncer, etc. But if they are a couple years apart, not eveyone holds onto that stuff so you will need it agan.

Maybe I'm naive?

christinaramirez08 · April 2011

KendraJoette:
christinaramirez08:

Is this baby the same sex as your other child? This is my first, so I don't have first-had experience, but my sister's kids are exactly 18 mos apart and she registered both times. First was a girl, second was a boy. I think it would be helpful to register so people know what you need, especially if it's not the same sex as your first. I know I wouldn't care if my friend registered for her second pregnancy. I don't see the big deal?

My first is a girl and this one will be a boy so there are a few things we will need, and they are only 16 months, so some stuff that DD is still using too.

The fact that they are a differnt sex is reason enough to not only register again, but to have another shower. But that's just me.

hepcats · April 2011

I personally don't think it's registries that may be weird to have for a second baby so much as a full on baby shower for a second baby - especially if it is the same sex. But registering for stuff you may need seems totally fine to me.

lmjt · April 2011

I have a boy, and am having another one. I need a few things, so I made a registry, but mostly to get the coupon to buy the things I need for my older son. If someone looks on BuyBuyBaby's website for my registry and finds it, I don't think its a big deal, but I'm not telling anyone. It's pretty much a shopping list for me.

mteston · April 2011

It's just a baby shower. I mean, if you create a registry wouldn't you want to have a party? It's a time a celebration and people should want to get you things. I'm expecting my 2nd child also but we don't know the sex of the child yet. If I register it will be for the little things not big things like I did last time. I'm the kind of person that if I see someone who needs it more than I do, I give it, so I ended up giving most of my son's infant and baby stuff away. We also moved 2000 miles across the country so we probably wouldn't have brought those things anyway. I also had more than one shower. I had a big shower and I had a drop in shower for my husbands side of the family (since I didn't know them very well). The same people weren't invited to both though, obviously..

Just ask for things like clothes and diapers.. Things that people usually buy anyway as gifts.

forensicmama · April 2011

I think it's up to the individual. If people are asking what you need, then maybe you need to start a registry for those who want to get you things. People aren't being forced to buy you gifts. They want to buy you gifts out of love.

For me, I'm basically starting over with my kiddos being 5 years apart in age. I basically need everything. lol Thankfully I have an awesome cousin-in-law who's giving me lots of hand-me-downs.

christiney06 · April 2011

christinaramirez08:
I don't understand the problem with a second shower. Is it because I'm in SoCal and most people think we're greedy? Every birth, regardless of what number it is for you, is something to celebrate and that's what showers are for.
Why else would someone register if you weren't going to have a shower?

no, showers are to make sure the NEW mom has all she needs to take care of the baby. a 2nd shower when you have a crib, car seat, etc...is tacky, sorry. if you really want to celebrate the new baby then you can have a welcome baby party on your own.

you register again to get the completion coupon and if anyone asks you what you need.

oh and my kids will be 2 1/2yrs apart and i kept everything. the 6 months we used the bouncer, exercauser etc. is nothing and it would be ridiculous to get rid of it only to buy it all new again.

JenWhite123 · April 2011

If there are things you need, and will buy yourself anyway, go ahead and register. Many people will buy you something anyway, and having a registry helps them + you get a registry completion coupon.

mabst196 · April 2011

I would not. I don't care whether people are asking for a registry to buy from or not. Just tell them something that you need or giftcards.

megkreig · April 2011

This is my second pregnancy (third child) and i just made a simple Wish List (diapers, socks, bibs, stroller, monitor, a few infant toys etc.) on Amazon. I figure that way when people ask i can direct them there without going somewhere and formally registering.

Jena6121984 · April 2011

I created a registry for my second baby. Its more for me as a shopping guide and wish list of stuff that I really want. It makes it easier for me because I can give the registry to my in-laws so they can buy what they want for my baby girl. Since my first was a boy I had the shower, but now that its a girl I need lots of different things for her. Mine will be around 18 months apart so a second shower is a no-no according to my mom, but my mother-in-law thinks that I get another shower (thats another story for another board). Anyways registries are always great for each additional child so you can keep track of what you need.

wnk1029 · April 2011

megkreig:
This is my second pregnancy (third child) and i just made a simple Wish List (diapers, socks, bibs, stroller, monitor, a few infant toys etc.) on Amazon. I figure that way when people ask i can direct them there without going somewhere and formally registering.

This is what I'm doing as well. There were some things we knew we'd want/need, so it's a good way for me to keep track of these things and if someone really wants to know what we need, I can direct them there.

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