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Baby Shower for 3rd Baby??

yenhansonyenhanson
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What is the etiquette for baby showers regarding 3rd, 4th baby?? My mom wants to have a shower for this baby (she hosted the last one) and I don't know if that is appropriate. HELP!!
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Re: Baby Shower for 3rd Baby??

  • dedekins1001dedekins1001
    It goes by family.  Its not what we do in our family.  But I also have a family that is hard to get together.  If you mom wants to throw you a shower that is different than you asking for a shower for your subsequent baby.  Just sit and ponder with your mom about the turn out and the two of you can decide that way.  GL
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  • 12bailey1812bailey18 member
    Have you been to any 3rd or 4th baby showers? Have any of your friends had them? If not, I wouldn't do it. It's common in my circle of friends and I'm having a second shower. I've hosted and been to tons so it's not a big deal. If it's not common among your friends- steer clear!

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  • ELGoodmanELGoodman

    I'm hoping for a shower for this baby (also #3)--and Mom's promised to throw me one if no one else does.  But I didn't get showers with either of my other two because they were born out of wedlock, and this baby is coming 8 years after my last baby.  I informed my best friend when I first got pregnant that I was getting a shower if I had to plan it myself and put her name down as hostess.

    At this point, I don't think a shower is about acquiring "stuff" so much as it is about celebrating the arrival of a new child--and I think every child deserves to be celebrated regardless of where they fall in birth order.  We already have most of our baby gear (still looking for a crib; mine apparently got smushed in the storage building, but I've got just aobut everything else), so I'm contemplating not even putting together a registry (and if I do, it's going to be mostly small stuff).  If you're concerned about what friends might think, you might consider a "diaper and wipes" shower.  I had a friend who, knowing that she was going to have a ridiculous attendance at one of her showers and that she didn't need the "stuff," had everyone bring a children's book either for the baby or to donate.  Just a thought.

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  • mplesset23mplesset23 member

    I think it depends.  Did you have all your kids close together?  If yes, it might seem a bit gift grabby. 

    If your kids are very far apart in age then I don't see the harm.  If someone wants to give you a shower its really them, not you that decides.

     

     

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  • MeaganChristieMeaganChristie
    I thing its a bit tacky to have a shower for a 3rd baby. Maybe you could arrange a lunch to celebrate with friends/family,  but a shower just sounds like you're looking for gifts........IMO
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  • FallFabulousFallFabulous
    I would think it's ok only if baby #3 comes after a long gap between kids. Like if it's been 8+ years and you have nothing left from your previous pregnancies. Or if the baby is a different gender than the previous 2 than something small could be fun. Otherwise I think it would be hard to justify. 
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  • yenhansonyenhanson
    Thank you for your input. There were 6 years between my first and second. ONly 2 years between this one and last child. If we do one, I told my mom it had to be very small.
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  • yenhansonyenhanson
    Thanks for your input, it was very helpful. Good luck with your 3rd!! Yay!!
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