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July 2011 Moms
clo1982
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Anyone else have an awesome MIL?
clo1982
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I always read the posts about how awful MIL's are and I feel so bad for those girls who have to deal with it. But to prove that not all MIL's are bad I had to go on a limb and give a bit shout out to mine. She has been nothing but completely supportive through my whole pregnancy. She sewed curtains for the nursery, came over and cleaned my house (in a very non-invasive, non-judgemental way) when I had morning, aka all day, sickness, helped put up trim in the nursery, let our dog out when we had OB appts, and cooked every holiday meal so that I didn't have to worry about it. She has asked what I plan to do with BF, labor, birth, etc...all the topics people have big opinions on, then never judged when I told her my plans. Just offered support and said whatever we need to please let her know and she will be there in any way she can to help.
So..not all MIL's are bad!
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Re: Anyone else have an awesome MIL?
Word to your mother(in law). Can I borrow her, please?
We'll miss you sweet Debbie Girl (4.21.12) and sweet Cindy Girl (8.9.12)
Sounds like your MIL is wonderful! I hope I can be like her to my future daughter-in-laws.
I love my MIL as well. For example, today I randomly called her to see if she could keep DS for a few hours this afternoon so I could get a massage (first one this pregnancy and I NEED it). She happily said, "Yes! Bring him over for as long as you need!" She is always so willing to help and I trust her completely.
DH did some major boundary enforcement when he first moved away from home and now my poor, socially-inept MIL wants to be more involved but it is hard because her two distances are far away or WAY too close. She tries though, but it is always in the sweetest most awful ways possible. Like he keeps trying to get us to take a family heirloom bassinet. It was hers when she was a baby (70 years ago). That's sweet, but oh no way am I putting LO to sleep in a seventy year-old anything. They went out and picked up a used dropside (no recall kit on it) crib for LO to sleep in when we come visit. So I mean, she tries but she tries in ways that just lead to awful conversations about about how our child is too good for what they have to offer. Sigh.
I told DH just to take the friggin' bassinet and it can decorate a corner of the nursery but he won't. That's their thing though. I'm out of that one. It is sad though because nobody here is trying to be mean or ugly or anything.
My MIL is very kind and helpful most of the time. She means well, but can be overbearing sometimes. She has said some things that have really bothered me (like when I didn't want to tell people about our pregnancy until after my NT scan she assumed it was because I was ashamed to be pregnant).
She and FIL will help us with what we need, but often make comments that make me feel bad about asking them for help.
We have our issues, but I know that it could be much worse. I am thankful for them and they have always been there to help us.
My MIL is amazing, too. She recently (within the last 5 years) got her licence to be a psychologist, so she's very good at listening and considering other's feelings. DH and I both enjoy spending time with each other's families, thank goodness. My MIL has been all excited over this baby, too, which has been nice since it's her 8th grandbaby, so a lot of it is been there, done that for her. She's really gone out of her way to show that she's still terribly interested in everything, from helping pick out nursery colors to asking how my appointments went.
I don't know what we'd do if our parents didn't like our spouse, on either side. We've been very lucky!
My MIL is awesome...sometimes I think I like her better than my own mom!!! MIL is just a very caring, sweet person, without being overly doting. She sends sweet emails or cards from time to time just to let me know she's thinking about me, and she & FIL are coming down in a couple weeks to visit and help paint/set up the nursery.
MH is their only child, and they did an awesome job raising him - he has just so much respect for them, its a great relationship. They are worldy (but from being in the military, not in a snobby way), so very open minded which I just love (total opposite of my parents who grew up and still live in the same town, and never travel). She's very respectful of our space, privacy and decisions, but always there to lend an ear or offer advice if I ask for it.
I really lucked out in that department!
My MIL is awesome too. I've never had a problem with her EVER. I seriously couldn't ask for anything more, she's nice, thoughtful, kind, loving, and respects boundaries.
I always feel for the ladies here that have bad ones, I can't imagine.