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abp51008
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baby won't let me put him down
abp51008
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So this is a new development over the past week. My LO is 4 wks old and will not let me put him down during the day. He is EBF and gets gassy (I am working on discovering diet culprits) to the point that he is in pain and wails. I give him gas drops after feedings and that helps a little. But the only thing that really soothes him is nursing him or to be in my arms bouncing or swaying. We have gone for car rides and walks. That helps some. I have also tried the moby wrap, but he doesn't like it that much. He liked it a lot when he was really little, but now that he is a little bigger, he doesn't like it. I am trying all of the different ways to wear it to try and find one that he likes, but so far no success. Once he gets drowsy or falls asleep I put him in his crib only to hear his cries to be picked up within 10 minutes. Because of that he doesn't sleep much during the day at all. In the late evenings he has worn himself out from the day (from being awake so much) that he sleeps for his nomal 2-3 hour stretches until bedtime, then they spread out to 4. Right now he is finally taking a nap after a car ride. He has been asleep for about 20 minutes, so far 5 of them have been in his crib and out of the car.
He's not colicky, just gassy after feedings and doesn't want to be put down. He tolerates tummy time, but for very short periods throughout the day. He is out of his most recent growth spurt, so I don't think that is the cause.
Don't get me wrong I LOVE cuddling with him and holding him, but a girl has gotta pee at some point!
Anyone else go through this? What did you do to help the situation? Did your LO eventually go back to sleeping more during the day? I am not a fan of the CIO method and refuse to do that at this age.
Thank in advance!
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Re: baby won't let me put him down
DS got bad around that point. He was more awake and less of a NB, so he didn't sleep so easily. Mostly I held him.
What did work was swaddling him (try the no escape swaddle - look for swaddling 102 on you tube). He still has a hard time going down in the day, and has to be really asleep before he will go down well. Sometimes I only get between 5 and 45 mins out of him, sometimes I luck into longer. I put him down in his bassinet, bouncy chair while vibrating, or on the boppy on the couch next to me.
(On the boppy when he starts to fuss I lie down and cuddle him like we have been doing it for hours... usually calms him through the light sleep cycle)
Other things that get recommended include pre warming the bassinet with a heating pad or hot water bottle. Also the FP rock-n-play (or whatever it is called) gets recommended a lot.
I find wearing DS I still have to move around a lot. I have wovens... we do the Kangaroo Carry and Front Wrap Cross Carry a lot. I also took to wearing him down by listening to the same song (Bare Naked Ladies, Too little too late) not sure what it is, but it now will calm him if he is fussy and ready to go to sleep.
Good luck!
Im going through the exact same thing, only I don't think it's gas related.
Like you I dont believe in the CIO method. Ive driven him around, but with the price of gas, i cant afford to do that all the time. he doesnt like the swing.
i purchased a carrier and at first he doesnt like it, but calms down shortly. he has to be in my arms in order to go to sleep. and if i put him down, he wakes up shortly there after.
i dont know what to do. my arms and back hurt and im not getting anything accomplished
We're going through this now. I am in love with my Ergo. I'd never get a single thing done in a day if I didn't have it. She's usually out like a light once she settles.
I have no idea if it's gas/stomach related. We're in a breast milk/formula transition so it's a possibility.
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We are going through the same thing as well. My little guy is 6 weeks now, started about 4 1/2 weeks. He always wants to be held and/or be at the breast. I've found that during the day I nurse on the boppy, let him fall asleep there for at least 10 minutes and slowly put him in the rock n play. Sometimes he will still wake up after 10 minutes, but sometimes he'll be out for over an hour. I have found that running a fan next to him helps or playing white noise. I have downloaded a couple apps on my phone for white noise, or through iTunes. It really seems to help calm him down.
Also, I have the moby wrap as well, he doesn't seem to like, but does like when I put him in the Baby Bjorn and do a lot of walking/bouncing in it.
I know how frustrating it can be when all you want to do is pee or get something to eat or get a chore done, but take it day to day and hopefully it will get better for you, and me as well!
I finally got it!
So I called my cousin the other day; who happens to have her masters in child phychology. She suggested swaddling him and giving him some white noise or relaxing music. Although i didnt put on music the swaddling WORKED! He laid there for a little while looking around, but didn't cry like normal. He fell asleep and stayed asleep for 2 hours. It was GREAT!
I was also reading in my week by week book and it says that 6 -7 weeks is a transition stage from sleep - eat - sleep to sleep - eat - play. So I've started playing and interacting with him more and it wears him out in about a hour and he tucks in will little to no fuss.
Hope that helps ladies.